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A Question From a Guy To The Ladies.





Hehehe. This is hilarious. What wouldn't I see? Ok, truth be told it's not exactly hilarious, but still... So yesterday I got a male from a mail blog reader... (did you notice my blip), a mail from a male blog reader LOL and the basis was "seeing as you're a sexologist in the making...". So the basic gist of the mail was that he ran into a childhood friend months ago and they recently started dating, early this year. Boo wanted to wait for sometime before they both got sexually active and he didn't mind waiting for her. Well recently they finally did the do, and all the heightened passion and excitement only ended in one anticlimactic moment, thanks to the rather of pleasant smell of her nether regions. 

Normally this would be a deal breaker but he really likes her, so he decided instead that for now he would avoid going to bed with her. But as fate will have it, now that it's been done there's no going back, she's started demanding. In addition to wanting "sexy time", he said she expressed to him that she wasn't happy about the lack of foreplay, and by that you know she means oral sex, right? *covers face*. 

Here's someone asking me this question. I, who doesn't know how to tell someone that their breath is below par or that their body doesn't smell too good. How am I to tell you how to tell the boo that the veejayjay stank?! Truth, is after suggesting this and that I admitted that I didn't know the "right" way.

I asked my sister about it and she said "if it's you, how would you like to be told?"  

No answers. 

Ladies, now I know we're all very clean, very hygienic women in here (I hope...). But in the lady's shoes, what's the best way for your man to tell you that you have a smelly vag?

Is there any "right" way? If yes, then tell us what. If no, then what should he do; hold his breath while he does the do, or break up with her?

My question basically is, if you smell bad down there, how would you like to be told?

Guys, ever had to deal with this? Did you just suffer in silence OR break the silence? Do tell. 



...Honestly, I wouldn't like to be told at all, just break up with me. LOL

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  1. The fact that the relationship is kinda new makes it hard
    Pineapple juice has been known to make the veejayjay smell better,invest in it,just buy her pineapple juice all the time but please don't tell her
    Me I will want to be told thou

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    1. Once your veejayjau smells, no amount of pineapple or strawberry juice would cure it unless you go for a test and get treated for whatever virus causing that smell. Most ladies now take it as a norm for their tin to smell! To d extent that they dont even notice d smell themselves. Smelly veejayjay is a sympton of infection!!!

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    2. .... or poor hygiene, there are other causes of vaginal odour (even cancer) but you said it's only infection and I became worried.

      If she has a healthy hygiene then I suggest SB's suggestion to sit her down talk about it in the appropriate way even offering to foot the medical bill. It's mostly a bacterial infection and nothing serious

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    3. The vagina has its own smell,guys may not know this but if as a lady you notice the smell is different from the norm then that's when there's a problem

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    4. @ kene.... Yea true, there might be other causes but 90% i would guess correctly is bacterial, fungi, viral infection. If as a lady u do not wash your undies immediately after taking it off and pile up, from the 2nd day that pant has started breeding bacterials. This is one of the major culprit of infection in ladies apart from the ones that are sexually transmitted, toilet disease and ko.... For hygiene...uhmmm.... I feel d veejayjay is not that complex to wash abeg. No b 100sq meter land when person go think about where to start from. U jst use mild soap and wash! Shikena!! One should not even over wash it because its self cleaning and over washing kills helpful bacterials present in there
      @ crimson.. I would say a normal vaginal should not have any offensive smell but the normal healthy secretion that has a unique ("boiled yam like smell" according to me) lol

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    5. Yea any offensive smell is a No No,it is self cleansing sef,sometimes it is advised not to use soap sef cause it affects the PH level of the Veejayjay
      Boiled Yam Smell..Lol

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  2. Firstly, any smell from that region is a def. sign of infection and if d guy dint use protection when they did it, he already is infected. If i were in dis position i would like for my bf to sit me down nicely and tell me. In a manner i know he cares and not to mock me. He should even offer to foot whatever medical bill she would require.

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    1. Any smell?? I thought it has its own smell/odour. If its me, I would like to be told straight up, but asking for oral when you are not sure of the hygiene of it though. Lool

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    2. Yeah, you mean like crab/crayfish and sometimes raw egg?

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    3. @ chioma, if the veejajay is healty, u should even hardly smell anytin even when u put your hands there and put right under your nose except during your ovulation days wen you secrete more. Even then its still not an offensive smell

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    4. Well said SB.
      I'd expect same.

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    5. Yh @SB I understand, Uyi crayfish???raw egg haaa. I know I am probably late but did Mary Jane really need to have an accident *crrying*

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  3. my response is not directed at the question asked, but is generic.
    if a lady is smelling funky there, it's one of two things:
    1) Either she is not washing frequently enough OR she might be over-washing, OR washing wrongly (Google is her friend) making her susceptible to infection, which leads to the next point
    2) she has an infection. in which case, she needs to see a doctor and get treated

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  4. I did this to a friend (we were not that close initially) as I didn't want to hurt her feelings.

    She had mouth odour, she didn't even know. I opened an email with a false I.D and told her the truth.

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    1. I av also told a colleague b4 about her mouth odour. Not to humiliate her but to make her better because my boss was thinking of letting her off after her youth service with d company because he could no longer stand d smell. And when he told me, based on d fact that i like her cause she's smart and intelligent, i had to say a little prayer, walked up to her. Then did an introductory speech by telling her not to hate me because of what i am about to tell her and that i am doing it because i actually care. And i told her that her breath smells bad sometimes. And she was thankful i told her and asked if it has always bn like that or jst started and i said always. And after then we noticed difference.

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  5. Hahahahaahahahahaahahhaha! Thelma says to break up with her! Say what??? Hahahahahahaha!!

    Anyways, I think it depends on the "closeness" btw them both that will determine how it would come off!

    As 4 me, I'd like bae to look me in the eyes, hold my hands, hehe! and be like 'babe I love u so much, u know I dat right?..and that's why I would love for us to find a cure 4 whateva infection causing some kinda weird smell down ur VJ, for our own good baby please......
    Omoh na tears o on my own side, such honesty and love and even blaming it on infections? Priceless!!!

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    1. Exactly how I would want to be told too,and I wouldn't take offense. He should tell her the way queen suggested and I.hope she understands.

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  6. If something smells, I'm sorry I have to open my big mouth and then we prefer a solution together... End of story.

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  7. I'm a guy and I would find a nice way to tell her if I really like her. If Im not crazy about her then im out.

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  8. Even though d truth hurts, it's best to say it so that a solution or cure can be arrived at if needed in order to prevent unforeseen complications to the vj.

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  9. Uhhhh mami, I hate to sugar coat things and I hate when things are sugar coated for me.....If I have a smelly Vjayjay - Please tell me 'Erniesha, your vagina smells'....that is way better than 'Erniesha, Take this feminine wash, I got it for you cuz I was in Watsons earlier today'........the truth hurts..Yes! buh it will always be the best....When I was growing up, at a pretty young age, I didn't have anyone to tell me bout the female transition years...I didn't have anyone to say, 'Erniesha you are turning into a woman and you need to shower more and take better care of yourself'....my high school boyfriend laid it raw for me...if I could take such news at that age and change up things...how much more an adult?....so yeah! If she smells, whether or not it's a new relationship, tell it to her raw..She is an adult and she should be able to handle it.

    Or you could just wait and when she tells you to go down on her and then you..............Go figure!

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  10. Bro, who wrote this post. Have you ever thought it being a psychological rather than physical smell? And also, you shouldn't go down on any girl if you ain't coming out of the bathroom with her.

    If after that, you literally perceive it, next clinic plz.

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    1. Uyi I don't understand u O! LOL! How many things do u want to say and how many times?

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    2. I like to see things from different angles... Sorry my Queen

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  11. I will like to be told o.. He should tell the babe so just in case it's a medical condition she can get it checked ..

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  12. He shld tell his sister ir bettet still he shld give me her number i will tell her for him.

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  13. Pls o tell me if my vjayjay is smelling ooooooo, don't go on silence mode

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  14. Well for me, i have been told and it helped my life. Bae made Love to me and after a few minutes of cuddling he says, Honey i want to tell you something, i don't want you t feel bad, i'm on on this with you. There's a fowl odour from your VEEJAYJAY. immediately, my countenance changed, he held me closer and said if i don't love you i won't bother telling you but we have to see a doctor or pharmacist ASAP. To assure me that he truly loves me regardless, he made love to me again with the smell, i was amazed. then he took me to the hospital and it was so kind of infection. i can't remember what it was called but the doctor advised both of us to be treated. And today when we make love i say baby if the "Kuntus" get any odour abeg tell me o. He'll just laugh and it has made me so free with him.Lol. He proposed last Month and wedding is underway.

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    1. Awww. This is so cute. Comments like this make me believe in love again. Congrats on your engagement, your man is really a keeper. God bless..

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    2. Congratulations dear...this warmed my heart...though mine was a smelling hair sometime back and Le Boo just sed baby your hair dey tasansan(yoruba word for scent...while he actually meant smelling bad!) Lolzzzz....dats past now....*covers face*...#JoyDaNuGirl

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