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A lot of Nigerian men leave Nigeria in search of "greener pastures", and in this search, most of them marry white women to get their green cards, and permanent resident visas in whichever country they find themselves.

I see Yoruba men married to white women, coming back to Nigeria and living with them peacefully, even in their villages and in the midst of the Yoruba culture and tradition, these women adapt excellently well. But the Igbo men do not do this, most of them leave their white wives in those countries, especially after getting their green card, they come back to Nigeria and go on to marry Igbo women. 

I have always wondered at the reason for this. Why do Igbo men who leave the country, after marrying white women there to secure their green cards still come back home to marry Igbo women? Why can't they stay married to these white women? Why can't they bring these women back home and fulfill the "in sickness and in health" vow they said during the wedding?


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I dunno... Maybe because when you marry for papers, "in sickness and in health" are mindless words required to get the job done? Also remember that most of these men actually pay these women, and a lot of money at that, so why bring them home? A transaction is a transaction. For the ones who do come back with them, I reckon it wasn't (purely) transactional... But I don't know much about the ethnic angle so I'll leave that to those who do. Answers anyone???

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  1. In as much as I don't know why and av neva really noticed or read it somewhere dat others stay put while d igbos run, I don't think it has anything to do with ethnicity.
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  2. Welcome back Thelma! Please don't try this again o! I won't take it likely >(

    Happy birthday Chocolate! Hope you had fun on Friday. That censored photo didn't do justice though...soften Thelma's brows, give her diamond face high cheek bones and BAM! LOL.

    As for the Post: All I know is that it's despicable for a man to abandon his wife for flimsy reasons. But errmm...this picture above though...the night is way too cold and some of us are on night shift. We want to concentrate better nah. Thelma...don't let me break my New Year Resolution, please...

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    1. I just had to scroll back up to view the picture, #deepsigh

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  3. Hahaha...... Memphis!

    And TTB is back!

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  4. My father has been married to my mother a foreigner for 35 years. That trait described above is limited to ignorant and selfish people. I dont really know those kind of people, and Nigerwives (association of foreign women married to Nigerian men) isnt short of members- so i dont believe that bad trait is limited to any ethnic group. At least i had many friends growing up whose fathers were Igbo.

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  5. I really don't think it has anything to do with the tribe, it has more to do with the individual especially the foreign wife. In some cases the wives turn the men to their personal atm's and these men live a life of perpetual blackmail because they are afraid of losing their status. The ones that bring the wives back are the couples who are really in love. Some of these couples start out as transactions but real feelings developed somewhere somehow.

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  6. I reason your (Thelma's) answer is pretty exhaustive. Ethnicity as a reason is a nebulous consideration.

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  7. It's all about individual personalities

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