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I Am Not A Feminist! Here's why...

I'm a woman but I'm not in favor of feminism as I think it's just a bogus word used to confuse women of our time. The bible did recognise women and their importance starting from the book of genesis. By nature the role of a woman is that of a calming effect. It's not possible to have two captains steering the same ship just like you can't have two CEOs . 

The likes of Chimamanda Adichie and Beyonce and Oprah who deceive other women and preach feminism all have men at home. Do you think it's by practicing feminism that they are able to retain those men in their homes? Truth is, they'll do anything to keep them. 

Now what you should blame is culture. Culture is the reason why women are mistreated in mostly Asian, Arabic, African countries etcetera. It is primitive beliefs that has caused damage to women. 

However, let me tell you what feminism is responsible for, it is responsible for the increased number of broken homes. It is responsible for our women going half naked thinking it's the new sexy but in reality, it is the men these women are trying so hard to impress yet they scream feminism. It is only a woman that doesn't know her place and role in life that screams feminism. Trust me, you don't want to be the lioness who has to bear children, teach them to hunt and still go out there and bring back food for her husband, yet she does it with pride. 

Let me tell you, women were made the dominated ones for a reason. Have you ever been to an organization where you have to have a female boss? Heaven knows that I can never pray or wish to work under any woman because we are ticking time bombs. Now a male boss I will choose any day and gladly use my female charms on. 

Women shey na feminist Beyonce dey sing "bow down bitches", why didn't she go for bow down niggas? From my understanding, feminism was supposed to be a way of building fellow women up and showing them that there is life besides the man, but no feminists would rather rub it into another woman's face how successful they are without the help of a man and how the other woman who isn't is a weakling. 

Do not be deceived, women were meant to be the weaker sex. Ok yes men are monsters, they are women/wife bartterers. What of the woman who hits her husband but the poor guy can't talk or report her because he will be laughed at yet if that same man out of frustration as much as taps the same woman on the cheek, he has become a monster. 

Even you who profess to be a feminist know deep down you really are not, but rather you are just not happy with the way women are treated in some societies.


The above is a comment in reply to another comment on a feminism post on Laila's blog. I read it and immediately thought to share to hear your views. To know who agrees with what she has said and who doesn't. Or the parts you agree with and the parts you don't...

I actually feel quite sad when I hear women say "I'm not a feminist!" in the same tone they'd use to say "I'm not a whore!". Most people have the wrong idea behind feminism. Without saying much I'll just leave the image below 

Many tend to have this image in their heads. This is NOT feminism. This is NOT what feminism is about. Feminism is NOT misandry, contrary to what you might think. #okbye. 

Now you, what's your take on the comment above and feminism as a whole. Let's talk. 


  1. We have dealt with this issue before in this blog. So I ask the poster, please define a feminist/feminism,when you do just maybe we can have a conversation, J

  2. The problem is the misunderstanding of what feminist is all about. One woman was a guest on eltv's moments with mo and she said a lot but ano geh strength. We shld all try to b enlightened b4 making comments or deciding weda we belong or not!
    Meanwhile I think chimamanda is all about "in a nutshell, doing whatever u think u can do without limiting ursef bcos society tells u u re woman and there4 can't reach ur heights. She z all about "give me another reason to do or not to do, apart from being a woman.

  3. I agree with J and Queen. Perhaps many people are carried away because they don't really know what feminism is? I have to be honest, I have never looked up the meaning of feminism in the dictionary. With that in mind, I do not regard myself as a feminist, whatever that is. What I am against is the subjugation of women in society, and the belief that we should be seen and not heard. What I do subscribe to is the rights of the woman to live a fulfilling life. What I also subscribe to is the fact that no ship ever made it to its destination by having two captains, and my Bible tells me the man is the head of the home.
    Now, if feminism falls within these constraints, then ill happily wave my feminist flag.

    1. Did I type this? Thanks for saving me the stress.
      Hectic day

    2. This comment right here echos my thoughts.

      I really do not know the dictionary definition of feminism but I will not stand for the subjugation of women or relegating them to the background or confining their whole worth to the bedroom and kitchen but i also won't stand for proud, rude, unsubmissive, arrogant women and careless mothers all in the name of "feminism".

      I also think that the commenter made some valid points, a lot of women have so twisted the idea of feminism that their version of it is completely unrecognisable.

      And that her point about female bosses is just spot on. Give me a choice between a male and female boss, I'll choose the male boss over and over again.

    3. A million likes for your comment Sunshine and Ada...... you guys have said it all..... Feminism this and that...some dunno what they are championing.....

  4. I am a feminist.

    Being a feminist to me means an equality in the rights of women as men.

    Women aren't necessary a weaker specie, it depends on what you define strength as. if strength is solely defined as brawn then definitely women can be called the weaker gender. But we know that brawn doesn't embody the total essence of strength. I'd prefer to see the feminine gender as a fragile specie.


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