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I Did It Myself, I Did It My Way. - Miss N.





I graduated from secondary school in 2007, when i was 17yrs old. My father said I'll help him in his shop for a year before furthering to university but 1yr turned to 7yrs. Those 7yrs wouldn't have meant anything to me if he didn't abuse me emotionally. i lost my self esteem, didn't have an account or dime to call mine because he only allowed me to take money for food and clothe, didn't allow me to do biz or anything that'll yield money infact i didn't have a life. I made some money and opened an account and the day he found out, he raised hell and asked me to close it and give him the money. 

My mum pleaded endlessly with him to let me further because my younger sister who I'm 4yrs older than is already in the University but he refused so late last year, I decided to liberate myself, i went to him and we had a word battle, i spoke to him in a way i never imagined i could (didn't insult him tho) and after that he gave me money to buy jamb and further my education though he has refused to pay my tuition fee. 

I started selling the things he sells in his shop without his knowledge because if he knew, he'll stop me. I hated him so much then but with the help of my mum I'm beginning to accept him as my dad again. 

All my life, i never had friends or helpers but I motivated myself and I'm living again. 



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Miss N left this comment in the  post. I love stories that inspire. While I'm not sure what she means by selling what he sells in the shop (I would never encourage stealing but I understand that in some exceptional situations you must do what you have to), I was particularly touched. 

I can't quite say I understand some parents. 

I'm also reminded of what happened with one of my mentor's maids. So she got this young girl from the village, about 12 years old. The girl turned out to be very bright and sharp. My mentor immediately went and registered her in school, and because she had never before attended school, she would start from nursery classes. School started and my mentor and the maid were both happy. My mentor happily informed her parents that their daughter has started school and that was when trouble started. They told her to remove the girl from school with immediate alacrity! My mentor was surprised and ignored them since they're in the village. But when the parents got wind of this the father came and dragged the girl back to the village. Apparently that if the girls goes to school/gets an education she will "forget" them. They said she will begin to think she is better than the rest of them at home and forget them. We chalked this up to illiteracy but just like the comment above, it was saddening. 

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Just as there are many in need, there are also many in positions to help. We need to start doing more to help those who need it. I wouldn't want to ask just yet because I wouldn't want the help to be misdirected. Once I put certain structures in place I would need for those of us who can to do what they for those of us in need. 

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More power to you Miss N, your story of self-motivation is truly inspiring. Those years you have lost will be made up for, I have no doubt. You have the mind of a winner. 

Comments

  1. I wonder about some parents. The a bible was right to say that the last days will be marked by a lack of natural affection. SMH

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  2. Wow!...Phew! This is kinda a lot to take in...

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  3. Some of us certainly have our own stories to tell...may God help us...#JoyDaNuGirl

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  4. Miss N you have helper IJN. Profess faith. That tuition will come and so will so many other things.

    www.pynk360.com

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    1. Thanks miss pynk, my mum payed and is still paying my tuition with all joy. As for others i pray they come quick.

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  5. Oh Sweet Jesus! Thelma i didn't know you'll make my comment a post, i actually came back to delete it because I was already feeling like a begger who's begging for self pity. Thanks alot.

    What i meant by selling what he sells is: my Dad's shop is a big one and he sells variety of goods so i buy one of the goods from his distributors without his knowledge and sell it in the shop. My mum actually encouraged me to do it since it's the only way I can make money, she handles the sales income so she gives me back the money when I'm done selling the goods.

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    1. Hmmmmm... I actually noticed the comment you deleted, then the one that followed was you apologising for errors and sayin you couldn't write well which I found rather strange.....

      I like your name 'Hope' same number of letters as 'Help'.... You helper has come already Miss N.. just hold on for a short while.....

      God who has kept you all this while is not through with you because he just started.. stay strong and keep winning....
      I wish you Good fortune and enormous sales in your shop.Amen.

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  6. I think by "selling what he sells", she's referring to her opening a similar business to her dad.

    Miss N, i wish you good fortune and Godspeed. It's never too late to start.

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  7. This girl right here is someone i'll love to help.
    God will replace all d years u "lost"

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  8. Ms N, God opens doors in ways we do not understand. Just be optimistic .its obvious your father can afford your education but just doesn't want to.

    Keep the faith and all will be well. Help may just be heading you way as we speak.

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  9. Ms N, God opens doors in ways we do not understand. Just be optimistic .its obvious your father can afford your education but just doesn't want to.

    Keep the faith and all will be well. Help may just be heading you way as we speak.

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  10. You are an inspiration! You go, girl! God doesn't leave His own.

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  11. Wow miss N God will give you speed and more testimonies. Parents tho... hmmmm

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  12. God BLESS U Miss N. U'll be FINE!

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  13. You're a strong woman! And I admire your courage and zeal. The lifter of heads shall raise you up... he'll turn your sorrow to Joy, your pain to gain, your shame to fame. God bless you Ireti! :)

    PS: my 3rd name(or 4th) is Olanireti! *shines teeth*

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    1. Thank you namesake, God bless you too. *smiles*

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  14. Hmmm....wonders!

    I admire you Hope...God bless you bountifully.

    -F

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  15. Really, some parents marvel me sha..The kind of stories I hear always get me thinking if they're d real parents. A friend told me of a 30yr old lady who her parents refused to consent to her wedding bcos of very flimsy excuse dat she owed dem some money. Nawa! Right now d girl detests them wt every breath in her body. she has started paying back and after that has planned to cut dem off completely from her life for good once she's married. how do u brand ds situation?

    Miss N keep staying strong.ur Helper is on d way. God bless you.

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