I do not pride myself as a writer but I have had a few good attempts..I have this problem, thoughts just keep flooding my head like water on streets of lagos on a rainy day and it's likethere's nowhere to go till I put them down, so here I am once again.
Who are you? Is a question to which a name is never an answer! A few weeks ago I had the very rare opportunity to tutor some very talented actors..and in one of those sessions, I asked a simple question, Who are you? The same one I'm posing on this platform,most of them didn't know who they were and it got me thinking....who am i?
The answer to that question is a difficult one, what defines you? Let me tell you what I am driving at,I am a mother,an actress, a film maker and a journalist who dabbles in writing,I aim at leaving a name that will open doors for my kids for the rest of her life. I am determined and it is this goal that drives me, my sole purpose..The painful part about all this is that people judge me because of this dream , I am often times not around I am either on set or having meetings with business partners n all that, and as a result of this I have been labeled a bad mother, who isn't there for her kids..people have sneered at me and asked me to re-order my priorities. I have had to ask myself if I am the one on the wrong path here recently I got an answer.
A simple one, success means different things to different people, this is my own dream of success some other woman is content with being Mrs Somebody and checking who is pinging or chatting with her husband...sniffing around and forming detective while the man is out there making a name that opens doors..when one day you now ask yourself who am i? It all comes down to I am Mrs somebody, take that guy away and she is nobody.
The second set of women are the ones who are content with being Tolu or titi's mummy, seeing that Tolu's clothes are ironed n tope's nails are groomed..asides that they are nobody!! I am not saying this is wrong, my point is,if you choose to live like this,do not look down on others who want to make an impact in this generation.
Get off your high horse,and separate yourself from Mr A n Tolu's mom...and ask again who am i? I'm pretty sure when you were young and you had to answer what will you like to be when you grow up? Your answer wasn't Mrs A or Mummy B, you flaked on your dreams and choose to be a mother and a wife alone,when possibilities abound.That is your choice.
This is mine,I choose to be a mother and a wife,a working woman who makes a Name for several generations to come,who will be the giant on whom my kids stand on to see further than their counterparts, I build,toil and labor now so they can rest.Yes I might not be home 24 hours a day,I might not be around to cook all meals but I will provide a platform for meals in years to come and for that my kids will love me.
I am a woman and a good mother, if you choose to be something different from what I am..then by all means go ahead but don't ever, ever judge me...! On a second thought Judge me, it's okay to judge me as long as you keep the verdict to yourself.