for a job asked me to sleep with him, if I must
get the job!"complained Vivian.
"You are rather the biggest fool!" her
uncle replied. You expect me to clap for you and
go fight my friend for asking you for just a short
time on your waist in return for 350k monthly
salary job, a car for ur official upkeep?
How many jobs has your hopeless, useless lazy
boyfriend given you even after sleeping with you
over a thousand times & over d years?" replied
A test case of morality & reality. Who do you
support in this case?
Uncle Alex or Vivian?
We've hashed something similar to this months ago right here on the blog. You know; that argument of if you're having sex with an unmarried partner for love/pleasure/fun, then what makes it wrong to have sex and get something out of it? Isn't it even wiser?
Now this clip above might have been written by my friend *Amaka just last week. With a first degree and a Masters degree from foreign universities, she and those close to her are surprised to find her without a job. If you're going to put your child through those schools then obviously you have a little wealth and a level of influence, so one would expect that it would be easy to place your children in great jobs. Unfortunately it's been several months since Amaka lost her last job and her parents have actually really tried to get her another. In fact, she's the eye opener to me that jobs are really hard to come by right now in Nigeria, and one needs to sit up (Just this morning I was thinking if Amaka with her foreign degrees and parents' clout cannot find a job, then wahala dey). Now, some weeks ago her dad talked to someone who talked to someone way up there in one of the big oil companies. She went there for a chat, it was very nice and everything went smoothly. However, towards the end of the chat Oga ED said "I would be leaving for Abuja first thing tomorrow, meet me at the airport, we'll spend the weekend there". LOL. For those who have lived sheltered lives these things sound "unusual". So Amaka asked if she had been employed, or if it was official assignment of some sort. Oga ED clarified things. He would get her the job but she had to scratch his back first.
Unlike the girl above, Amaka didn't wait till she got home. The minute she left the office she sent a very strong worded text to him, expressing her anger in no uncertain terms, and telling him that one day, a man would ask his daughter for sex before helping her! Dear Amaka thought she would receive a pat on the back for this, but the person who helped get her the appointment, his reaction was similar to the uncle's above. He was very rash with Amaka and raised the "after all it's not like you're a virgin" matter.
While Amaka stands by her action, I get the impression that she's second-guessing herself; there are no jobs out there, I have sex already anyways, I would have started out earning over 250k a month... What have I done? What have I lost?
I don't know if there's any point asking what you think, I'm certain most of you would scream MORALITY over REALITY. But here's what I think; don't do something that would make it hard for you to live with yourself afterwards. Amaka, for instance, would have sank into severe depression and a serious case of self-loathing (I know my friend), if she had compromised on her values and beliefs just for a job. BUT, if you have different values, you know that you will comfortably live with yourself afterwards, and you need that job... Oh well, the choice is yours. #okbye.
What say you?
While I would love to hear about times that you've been in similar circumstances, I would also really love to hear about the times you stuck to your guns, stood your grounds, and eventually things still turned out great for you. Please share.