Skip to main content

My Best Friend's Ex.

Read. Enjoy. Comment. 

Jessica and Tara were sat at Jessica’s house sipping some hot coco when Jessica broke the news to Tara.
“What do you mean Phillip…which Phillip, my Phillip, you cannot be serious”
“No Tara, It’s been going on for about 5 months and its getting serious, I didn’t want to tell you because I did not think it would last, but to be honest, I want to come clean because …beca…”
“Because what!!! TALK NA…” Tara takes a deep breath and settles back down, continues talking “Please don’t let me lose my cool here and be shouting like a fool, because what?….continue now”
“BECAUSE I LOVE HIM” Jessica snaps.
“Oginni….ha this babe has killed me
“I don’t understand why you are upset about this, you have not seen or heard from this dude in 10 years, you have 3 beautiful kids and a husband…why the fuck are you angry”
“Why am I angry?… why am I angry???..I will tell you why. Jessica stands back up and continues, if you marry this man, you expect me to continue being your friend knowing the following things.
1. I told you all about the day I lost my virginity to him, I gave you all the details, you sat there and listened.
2. Everytime I argued with him, I came to you for advice and when I argued with you he gave me advice too.
3. You knew about every sexual encounter I had with Phillip, for God sake Jessica we will go out shopping for sexy lingerie, we would talk about killer sex moves we put on our boyfriends at the time. How can u even be comfortable laying with him knowing exactly what positions we took eachother. Really hunny? Tara stares at Jessica puzzled and continues
4. When we broke up, I cried in your arms for months and we both insulted his life together over numerous tubs of ice cream
I do not have any feelings for Phillip, I could care less about him. I love my husband dearly and you of all people know that. My anger is that you getting with Phillip and potentially marrying him will mean every time I see him, I will always think, like I have been thinking for years ‘God why can’t you erase this man, my 1 mistake so that it would be that my husband was my only lover” I have been wishing Phillip doesn’t exist so I can be happy I saved myself for my husband because he deserved the wait. Also do you really think my husband and I will continue coming over for dinner, family vacs and have our kids play together? Really? You think my husband would gladly be pals with a guy that fucked his wife sideways? Have you even thought this through?
Tara sits down and calms her tone and continues. 
Look sweety, I am happy for you that you found love, I truly am, I am just sad that this would mean then end or it will greatly affect our 20 year beautiful sisterhood. I love you so much and I will support your decision because you love him. But I just want you to be aware that going into this, our relationship will take a hit or possibly end and that is what I am upset about.
Jessica moves over to Tara and gives her a hug “I love you too and I will fight for our friendship, I will not let this affect it, I promise”
Both girls embrace in tears.
Source Sarayah Beauty . You can also follow her on Instagram @sarayahbeauty. 
I've always felt it's a bit unfair to deprive your friend of happiness, even if that happiness comes in the form of your Ex for whom your heart once burned with love, IF you are now married to someone else. 
But, I honestly wonder if being married to someone else makes it easier for the friend to accept that her bosom friend is now in a relationship with a man she once loved, doing things with him that she once did, sharing the bed that her body once warmed, and living the life she once thought would be her future?
What's your take guys? Is the Ex fair game if the friend is now married? Are you rooting for Jessica and Phillip, or do you side with Tara and think they should end things? I would love to hear from you


  1. Tara should let Jessica be.

  2. First of all Tara hasn't seen the guy for ten years, they say time heals all wounds and if after that time she hasn't healed enough to get over herself then she should question her marriage. Everybody makes mistakes, life isn't that serious. I will pick true love over friendship any day, so long as I'm sure it's true and not just another romp. It's not compulsory for their kids to grow up together if Tara and her husband can't be mature enough to forget the past.

    1. Somebody, anybody, wake me up! Is this for real? Steele crawls out of his hiding place. :) you have been missed. I hope you're back for good.

    2. LOL dramatic, exactly how I felt too when I saw the name, not like am very familiar with it but I know i've read a couple of times that Steele is one of the founding fathers lol bye

    3. finally steele,

      waiting for wale

    4. Lmao, action comedy thriller. I'm back for good o. I'm happy that you guys didn't leave like I did. Lol @ founding father, I be small pikin o

  3. Tara should park well biko....10 years is way too long a time. If she allows the fact that they are dating affect her 20years friendship na she sabi.

    "......You think my husband would gladly be pals with a guy that fucked his wife

    The above,they don't necessarily have to be pals....who pals help?!

    The excuses she gave are actually very selfish...

  4. Haaa! *washing eyes with hypo* Steele is that U? Welcome bac Dearie & to Tee too.
    Missed U bunch a lot.

    To the post. What I will do?

    I can NOT have anything romantic to do with a "Close friends Ex". Emphasis on CLOSE which is the scenario above.
    But if my 2 close friends chose to have a romantic relationship with an Ex like the e.g above? I will support U, sew Asoebi for the wedding & that's THE END of our friendship.
    How can I even feel a thing for a man who thought it wise/okay to date/sex/jilt my bff & come for me years later?

    ION, Please oh, I need ur numbers & pins, Favourite, Clare, Ruby, etc

    I lost my gadgets.

    1. Ruthy it's me oooo, feels great to be back. Missed you guys like crazy

    2. God! RUTHY! Ha! You that is having an affair with ur close friend's husband in Lagos abi na PH. You have mind sha to make this comment. God u're so evil And evil will shall follow u and ur household all the days of ur life. What goes ard comes ard , u know. Funny how news flies ard, heard this from a friend of urs. Ha,home wrecker ,ashawo. U're a disgrace sha. You no even shame ,still telling pple. Anyway sha, keep sleeping ard, heard ur hole don wide finish and u're not even 30 yet. I pray my relative or anyone I know will not meet a cursed person like u o. Tufiakwa!

    3. LOL!!! Biko take some chill pils...
      I've heard worse on social media..

    4. Oh yeah, sure u have. Cos it's so true. Keep being brave ,u'll need it. Your mama def didn't bring u up we'll , cos if she did u'll know that u don't mix adultery with fornication. I'll help u spread ur news ard, so pple can know the kind of person u are.and all these pple will be looking up to u not knowing that u're just a betrayer and a whore. You no fear o, Aba pikin. Knew u from ur Uniport days and always knew u'll be up to no good.

    5. Oh!!!! Now I know who this is!!!

      So which papers should I buy tomorrow? Punch? Vanguard? Guardian? Will I at least find my pictures in it?
      Thank U!!!

    6. Ruthy abeg just ignore this crazy person, he/she obviously has issues and trying to take it out on you.

  5. That friend is going to have to choose one,she can't have it all

  6. At first when Tara went into drama mode... I was like calm down madam.. 10 years is a long time nah... Haba,,, but after reading tara's reasons(albeit selfish), I get where she's coming from! o well... I guess their friendship has gotten to the sister stage... and then sex was involved again... I don't know for them jare. Personally tho... I kent!
    I can't even like sunshine's ex(es)... I gotta respect that abeg. + she has somfn for non-yoruba men! Hehe... she sure has a type! *looks left and right* *whistling shakitibobo*

    1. Smh... just keep whistling o

    2. This comment has been removed by the author.

  7. 10 years is a long time so it won't mean anything to me. The friendship would probably suffer because there would always be that awkwardness when she wants to discuss Philip with me knowing we were once in a Relationship. I in turn may not be open to her like before for obvious reasons. J

  8. Ermmmm,i really don't have an opinion about this....i pray I never have to deal with a situation like this

    Ruthie.....i got you

  9. I honestly do not see what the problem is here. She swears she loves her husband but cant have any sort of relationship with her ex because of reasons centred around their past sex life? I don't get it. Unless she's not over the ex, why would his presence in her friend's life disrupt her beautiful, perfect and happy marriage? She should please get off whatever it is she's on and come down to earth biko.

    Ten years is enough time to get over an ex and all the sexcapades they had together and if she and her husband love each other as much as she claims they do, seeing philip once in a while and having a civil mature relationship and/or conversation with him shouldn't be a problem.

    I think madam Tara is very selfish. See as she sharply made everything about HER and HER husband and HER past without thought to her friend's new found happiness. Why would you throw away a 20year old friendship over an old flame. Is the guy supposed to drop dead just cos you're no more in his life? If she decides to leave, good ridance biko. I'm cool with all my exes, we check up on each other once or twice a year, can have civil conversations if we jam anywhere and all my friends are welcome to date Its no big deal really.

    1. Sunshine you spoke my mind. Selfish tara!! That means she's not happy in her marriage if 10yrs is not enough to get over Le Ex.
      Abeg Jessica should live her life and cut ties from people like tara who believe it's all about them only.

  10. But I can't have anything to do with a friends's ex o, and it's not like Jessica just heard about the ex randomly, she was actually there for the whole relationship, she knew all the details, happiness is a decision. I wonder how Tara is now the selfish one

  11. To me it's not a buggy,except the guy isn't a good guy but once he is,I would go ahead and maybe have a heart to heart chat with my Besty for her to understand and accept the situation.

  12. While I would never date a friends ex I dont see any reason why my ex cannot hook up with my friend. If the said friend has no issues with it then it's fine by me. Why? Because in love there are no rules. Tara should leave them alone and face her marriage. If she can't stand seeing them together then maybe it's time to let that friendship die a natural death.

    How to make a cute headband with an old shirt

  13. I can never date a friends ex. We will never start a relationship more or less talking of marriage. I value friendship, men can't come between us.

  14. What a surprise, I must confess that over here in the United States, it is very difficult to get a powerful spell caster that will be able to restore broken marriages or relationships, But through the help of the internet, i was able to get in touch with this powerful spell caster called Grace, after reading a lot of good reviews about her on the internet, so i contact her through these details via email:, And after i told her about my relationship stress then Grace told me to calm down that my lover will come back to apologies to me, for leaving me, I never taught that this was going to be possible, Just within 48 hours that i contacted Grace, my lover sent me and a sms text saying that i should forgive him and before i knew it he was already at my place begging me to accept him back. you can contact her on

  15. My ex of 4 months broke up with me cause I texted him too much cause he wouldn’t answer me after not seeing each other for 3 weeks. His excuse is that he works 2 jobs. I got mad and told him i was done. The next day I tried calling him. And he texted me. Never text or call him again. I told him I was sorry. So I left him alone for a week. I texted him he answered. He said that he misses me but I’m too much all over him and he can’t handle that. I understand that I have no chance for get him back in normal way, and I decided to ask for help. I order love spell from website , I was waiting 3 months, and my lover back to me.


Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Turia Pitt Suffered 65% Burns But Loved Conquered All...

Amazing Story Shared by Dr. Ben Carson on Facebook, i thought it is inspiring and i decided to share;

The Australian ex-model Turia Pitt suffered burns to 65 per cent of her body, lost her fingers and thumb on her right hand and spent five months in hospital after she was trapped by a grassfire in a 100 kilometre ultra-marathon in the Kimberley. Her boyfriend decided to quit his job to care for her recovery. 
Days ago, in an interview for CNN they asked him:
"Did you at any moment think about leaving her and hiring someone to take care of her and moving on with your life?"

His reply touched the world:

"I married her soul, her character, and she's the only woman that will continue to fulfill my dreams."

This made me very reflective. I just wonder; if the person you love today encounters an incident or accident that transforms who they are physically, it could be amputation, it could be paralysis, it could be severe burns that scald their flesh beyond recognition, w…


Good morning people! 
Just checking in to sign the register. Lol. It's been a very busy week and it looks like it might be an even busier weekend. I was hoping to get some writing done when I got to the airport yesterday but I even almost missed my flight. It was hopeless trying to do any work on the plane as it was bumpy af, and this toddler behind me wouldn't stop screaming in piercing shrieks like he was being exorcised. 
I got into town pretty late and needed to keep an appointment ASAP. I'm heading out right now and it's going to be a long day, but thought I should drop this first. 
Have a splendid day. Im'ma be back soon.

One More Post...


He was my coursemate, crush, then my boyfriend.... he was super
intelligent, smart, tall, dark and handsome. Believe me he got
swag, but he didn't seem to notice me. (I'm a nerd but a sassy one
if I say so myself).  So oneday I decided to take it to another level..
After listening to a song "IF YOU LOVE SOMEBODY TELL THEM THAT YOU
LOVE THEM and watching the season film of The Secret Life of
American Teenagers. ..when Amy Jeugerns mum told her "you are only
young once". LOL that part got me.
Hope you know what i mean?

Though I'm okay with chemistry class I approached him to coach me for
the Quiz that was coming up, we found out that we had this
great chemistry between us.. hehehe both the covalent and
electrovalent bonds....

So one thing led to another till one unusual Saturday. I invited
him to my house and he came. The guy got swag, he even came
with a packet of durex condom.
We talked for a while and and and and and and
See how you are serious dey read this story....!


A side chick is commonly known as a mistress or a woman that’s romantically involved with a man who is in a committed relationship.  However after doing some reflecting, I realize that’s not the only type of side chick.  I want to discuss “the new side chick”–a woman who decides to stay by a man’s side after he has expressed his lack of relationship intentions with her through his words or actions.  So many women have made this mistake at least once in their lifetime, and unfortunately I’ve done the same thing. I like to think of the new side chick as an appetizer.  You’re there just to satisfy the immediate appetite of the man, but as soon as that mouth-watering entrée comes out to the table, you will get pushed to the side, literally.  Why?  Because that entrée is what he really wanted; he went to the restaurant to order steak, not hot wings.  You were just a placeholder, fling, temporary commitment, or  maybe even just a “good ol time” until what he really wanted was presented to hi…


I'm in an amebo mood tonight. Don't ask me, I honestly don't know why. Also I'd like to share too but I'd do that anonymously in the comment section. Tonight I want to talk about secrets. It's ok, we can all be anonymous. 
Is it true that EVERYBODY has a secret? 
Is there anyone here who doesn't have a secret? I'd really like to know; You're a completely open book and there's not ONE thing about you that you wouldn't mind other people knowing about? Please raise your hands up. 
And for the rest of us, what's something about you that no one knows, or very few people know? Who's got a dark secret here, or a weird one, or a funny one even? I really don't mean to be invasive but I don't want to be the only one sharing, plus I think hearing other people's secrets is quite fun, don't you think?

Let's Be Random Together! (Open Keypad).

Hey guys, a while back blog reader F said something about creating an Open Keypad post, where you can write whatever you want in the comment section. I thought it was a fun idea!
So who is interested? Comment on anything you feel like, ask me or anyone a question, talk about how your day went, your job, your interests, tell us something about you that we don't know, share a testimony with us, rant about anything you feel like, talk about your crush/boo/spouse/relationship/marriage, challenges you're facing, ANYTHING AT ALL! 
I'll only make one request; that we stay civil. 

(F it was you who made this suggestion, right? I'm not too sure and I can't even remember the post the comment was made on). 
BTW please Ejoeccome out come out, wherever you are!

Adventures, Fun, Friendship & Laughter at the TTB Hangout (Lekki Conservation Center).

Nicole to Clare: mummy lets go. I want to climb that ropy thing!

Isn't Clare beautiful?!

Uyi et moi. Clowning. 

Mother & child. 

Scary af! Trish on the ramp. The chica loves the outdoors so much, she was like a kid in a candy store. She and Uyi took this walk twice! More power to them, you can't pay me to do this a second time.

Uyi & Tiwa

Question of The Day.

TTB readers doesn't this tweet below remind you of something?
That mail that someone sent me a few weeks back. 
But why on earth should a man sleep with his son's fiancé? But what am I saying, some men even sleep with their daughters...

Oh well, I'm throwing the question to you. What has happened in your life that you never saw coming, you never hesperred it, you never imagined could happen, you never imagined could happen to you? 
It could be good, it could be bad, it could be ugly. Do tell!
And it can be more than one. Let me tell you a few. 
-owning a blog -week long dry fast at Prayer City (I never hesperred it).  -staying in an (emotionally) abusive relationship.
The others require anonymity. LOL. Now over to you.