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Nowhere Else To Go But Up.

Once upon a time, there was an eagle who lived like a chicken. His owner loved the eagle so much that he fed it chicken-feed and kept it in a barn with other chickens, so it would never go hungry.

One day, a man passing by asked the owner why the eagle, proudest of all the birds, was living in a barn with chickens.

His owner said, “I love my eagle so much, I have given it chicken-feed every day and kept it safe in the barn. It no longer needs to hunt or fly.”

The man was curious at this. He wanted to know if the eagle really had lost its ability to fly. He picked up the eagle and said, “You belong to the sky and not to the earth. Stretch forth your wings and fly.”

The eagle gave him a curious look, jumped down from out of his hands, and went back to eat chicken-feed off the dirt.

The next day, the man tried again. He went to the roof of the house with the eagle and said, “You belong to the sky and not to the earth. Stretch forth your wings and fly.”

The eagle, fearing the height, wriggled free from the man, and jumped back down to the ground to be with the other chickens.

Finally, on the third day, the man took the eagle to the top of a mountain and said, “You belong to the sky and not to the earth. Stretch forth your wings and fly.”

The eagle, trembling but seeing no way down from the mountain, stretched his wings and flew. Slowly at first, but then up, up, and away towards the sun.


I stumbled upon this story and it really spoke to me. I can't quite remember how many times I wrote in a particular post last week that comfort is the enemy. I think that's just one angle of this story.

The eagle would have stayed comfortable in the barn, eating chicken feed and laying in the hay with chubby clucking chicks while unbeknownst to her she's actually a king among birds, one whom God created for much greater exploits and heroic feats. Sometimes, you would never discover your full potential if you're safely ensconced in a place and spoon fed. Yes, it's really nice to have good things handed to you so easily. Yet, when they give you with one hand, they inadvertently take from you with the other, the gift of self-realization, self-actualization and self-discovery. Therefore you live and die, not knowing who you are, what you have and what you could have achieved. 

-I also loved that it took a man to show this eagle what she could do. You see, not all of us can make it by ourselves and that's why God places (destiny) helpers in our paths. I always pray to God to connect me with my helpers, I also always pray to God to make my helpers very restless until they help me. Imagine if after the first time the man spoke with the barn owner, he just listened, shrugged and went on his merry way. That eagle would have lived and died as a chicken, carried all her greatness, her potential and promises to the grave. But thankfully the whole situation made the man restless, thus unrelenting, until he was able to show that bird what she could do.                                                                    This morning I pray once again that I be connected to my helpers, and not lose them until they have completely fulfilled their roles in my life. And if that's what you wish for yourself I pray the same for you. 

-Lastly, Miss Pynk wrote some months ago on her blog on how much parents ought to do for a child. This reminded me of someone I know whose parents spoilt to unthinkable extremes that she's presently quite out of touch with reality, strange as it may sound. Some weeks ago she said to me; "if I don't find an office job then I don't know what I will do. I don't have any skills, any talents, any gifts, I cannot hustle or do business, I cannot cook to save my life... I have to be honest with myself, I am not good at anything. I know I can work in an office because I went to school, but that is all I can do". I internally shook my head and thought for the hundredth time how her parents did her a terrible disservice. In trying to be good parents, some parents get carried away and slather the child's life in dollar bills. They forget that while giving the child fish, it's also important to teach him/her to fish. This man in the story, in trying to be kind and loving, almost destroyed that Eagle's destiny. 

There is just so much I've learnt from this little story. What have you learnt?

And since I mentioned Helpers, do tell me if you've had any? Someone that (God) mysteriously placed in your path that took you from point A in your life to point B, C, D... Do tell me about it. And remember, you're also somebody's helper too. 

Good morning, and God bless


  1. For a few days now, I've visited ur blog looking for a lost friend and I became hooked. Lol.. Found the lost friend and found TTB. Two for the price of one. *winks*

    People tend to dwell in their comfort zones - because that's what they are: comfort zones.

    The magic always tends to happen outside the comfort zones.


    1. U are welcome P.

      Thanks for the story T. Now I don't feel weird running away from my comfort zone. As for moi, I've had lots of Helpers. They just come in, play their part & leave... which is totally cool. Then I take over the wheels & move farther!!!

      I can't wait to be People's helpers oh! Dear God, Do it for ur daughter. Amen.

    2. I know u'll get there soon


    3. We have F, J, and now P... welcome P please feel at home..

      This is just what I was reflecting on, on my way from church on Sunday... How to help more people in my own little way...

      I have had helpers and I still have some who have decided not to go...
      I have this senior friend that has never said No to anything I asked and always has my back (if I had the opportunity of having another father I'll choose him in a heartbeat)....

      I try to help people even if not materially but I try to encourage and put smiles on the faces I meet daily

      I Thank God for my parents especially my Mom who is my driving force to hustle... That woman will tell you 'see I have suffered o, but I don't want you to'..... Be Wise, Be Prayerful and Be Hardworking....

      Amen to your prayers T..

    4. I'm blushing o! All these hearty welcoming. I feel at home already. *grinning from ear to ear*


    5. P this is so funny, how did you know you would find your lost friend here? LOL. You're very welcome to the family, I'm glad you're having a good time.

    6. Thelma, that's my little secret *winks* :)

  2. hmmmmm.this story spoke to me....i have been eating chiken feed and need to fly from this helper helper
    I have helped some people but its so difficult for people to help me and then i keep wondering if someone is behind it. It is well

    1. Its not difficult for people to help you. Are you noticing the type of help you are getting? It may just not be what you are expecting. Its something to think about.

    2. Thinking about it really

  3. I feel very uncomfortable being comfortable. I have the spirit of a hustler and the looks of an ajebutter. When i got married, my husband told me several times i didnt have to work if i didnt want to, he provides for most of the household needs without me ever having to ask. But i kept disturbing him about finding a job. After enough assessment and conversations, i realised that my problem is i dont know how to do anything but work. So i had to find a balance and look at my future goals of opening a business in about a year and finding that balance between working and being fulfilled. I opted for consulting, which happens to be going a lot better than i had ever anticipated- think helpers through word of mouth refferals

    We all have helpers along the way. God isnt exactly holding our hands, he does it through other people. The people who help you for no reason, the scholarships you get along the way, the emails, phonecalls of encouragement etc. May we meet our helpers at our times of need, and may we also meet others as helpers during their times of need.

    Thelma as for your friend if she needs to talk to someone annonymously, i may be able to help her in terms of her mindset. She can contact me. Sometimes it is our inability to be certain about our convictions or even dare to dream about the things we may want that hinders us in life.

    she is too young to have such a resolve. She just needs to dig deeper and place herself in an environment that will help her think.

    1. To say I respect and adore you is an understatement Pynk.... You inspire me *smiles*

      I have a question that might lead to questions but I'll love to send you a mail

    2. I am blushing oh! Thanks.

      You can send me an email @

  4. Thank you for that last paragraph. People are always looking for helpers but when God blesses them they cannot help anybody. If you're in a position to help please help, it won't take anything from you. SomE people will not help you so that you won't become bigger than them

  5. Yes I have a very special someone help me. He stood by me during the most trying period of my whole life . he demanded anytin and always encouraged me. He is true example of a God fearing man(a virtuous
    Dearest Memphis I and bobo will Neva forget u. U will alwasys be a part of our history. U are indeed Godsent.
    God will never forget you too. He will always remember you to bless u. Thank u so so so much for 2014. U made DAT year easy for me. Thank you angel Gabriel.

  6. Sorry for d errors.

  7. Thanks for speaking to me yet again. One thing is to pray for helpers. another thing is to recognize them when they show up. May God give us the wisdom not to miss our helpers In Jesus Name.

  8. Yea...Helpers everywhere!...some end up as close confidants/friends, while some just do their bit and go! Some will after a loooong time look back again to see how one is faring...some give cash some help in kind...truth is EVERYONE at one point or the other has had one and no matter your status financially or otherwise...some of us have been helpers too without even knowing it!...May God help us to never remain in Chicken Ville....#JoyDaNuGirl

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    1. Sorry for the grammatical and typographical errors, i no sabi English wella

  10. I've gotten helpers and I'm waiting for that One that would change my destiny Forever... I believe its coming.

    As for helping others, I always love it when I don't really have any reason why I should but I just do. It gives me joy.

  11. I do not know if I had truly helped people where and when it mattered - this is one thing I always wish to do (an exception is where I feel I am being taken for granted). Meanwhile, I have had quite some helpers. Recently, I man whose former company's account I handled called me from the blues to come and make a presentation to his new company and I won the account for my company....I am super grateful as I believe that competence aside, he helped me greatly in ensuring my company secured their account.



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