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On Days I Want To Give Up Blogging.





Have you ever felt like just packing it in? Yes, "it". Whatever it is. Your job, your blog, your business, your passions... Have you felt like that?

Well once in a while I really feel like just pressing delete on the blog and moving on with my life. I guess I'm not supposed to admit it but hey, whatever, some days I just want to pack it in. 

It isn't always easy; the days you wake up just not in the mood, the days you wake up in the mood but have no ideas for a post, the days you wake up not in the mood and have no ideas for posts, the days you post but know your posts make no sense, the days it seems your readers all just took a break from you, the days you check your page views and it's half what it used to be, even though your efforts are double what they used to be... The days you just get tired of having to spring up ideas for posts on a daily basis... On those days, among others, I just want to pack it in. 

And what do I do when I feel that way?

I wish I could tell you some really inspiring cool story. But that would be a lie. I sulk, I wallow in self-pity, I overeat, I stay away from the net, I take a few gulps of vodka, I ask "why me?", I remind myself of others who stopped (blogging) but didn't suddenly die, I sleep and forget all my sorrows. 

But I allow these rather defeatist moments last only a moment. Then

I remember why and how I started
I remember that if there was no greater purpose I wouldn't have started in the first place
I remember where I'm going. This isn't it, I'm not there yet. So I #keepmoving
I know that those who stopped (blogging) didn't die but if I give this up something inside me might. 
I remember those articles that say most bloggers didn't attain any great success within the first four years of blogging, so I've got to #keeppushing
I know that if I fall off this wagon getting back on might be impossible 
I remind myself that it's human to feel this way. 

And that's what I want you to know, it's human to want to roll everything up in a bundle, toss it aside and walk away in a different direction. But if you're certain there is a destination and you're on the right road, then stay the course. Yes, you should be certain. Otherwise, it may not be the worst idea in the world to actually pack it in. What's important is that you're tossing it aside for something else. You actually start to wither away when you do nothing

I remember the husband in My Wife and Kids telling his wife in one episode "It's not that I don't love you, I love you. In fact I love you so much that sometimes I just need to take a break from you". Yeah, weird as it may sound, you can love something yet still need an occasional breather. 
     It's ok to want a little space from a project you're very passionate about. Sometimes you need that air to clear your head and enhance your creativity. 

So yes, this is me, Thelma, and on some days I want to pack it in. But those days are very few and far between. On most days I love what I'm doing, I love where I'm going, I'm excited by the possibilities and too grateful to the likes of Ruthielicious (who somehow finds the most interesting comments to the dullest posts (yes, some posts are dull) (I'd be the first to admit it) LOL) and many others, to just "rapture" my blog. 

And I hope that if you ever feel like giving up on something that you love, you find inspiration and courage to stay the course. 

Remember that your best is never in your past, 'I get am before' nor be property. God's plan for you is never in your past, it's still ahead, it is yet to come. 1Cor 2:9. #KeepMoving. 

Comments

  1. Hmmm, I kno just how u feel. As a writer and someone that has worked very close to one of the best bloggers in Nija, I gotta tell u that blogging ain't easy. All d work, d stress, d cracking/pickin of brains just to create a blogpost even on days dt u ain't getting no inspiration @ all. Not a small smthgs..

    I pray u keep having d strenght 2 carry on.

    #it is well.

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  2. I understand the feeling very well Thelma and I admire your relentlessness. Well done.

    Specifically for you, whenever you feel like giving it all up, please remember all of us BVs who look forward daily to opening your blog and embracing the contents - dull or not.

    -F

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  3. Thelma Thelma... She Thinks!

    You knw there's nothing much for me to say abi?

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  4. eyaa... pele. you do put a lot of yourself on this blog. when i first started reading your blog, i was puzzled for a while, trying to figure it out. it wasn't a news blog, not a gossip blog.... not even a diary. but instead, it was 80% powered by your life experiences. i didn't understand 1) how you could have all the experiences you do - your life must play like an action movie... lol.... 2) how those experiences end up making for intriguing and interactive discourse
    so i can understand if you feel drained, even moreso than other bloggers. but you know more than we do why you started the blog, and i was gonna say if you need to take a break, do so and recharge... but instead, i'll say hang in there. this too shall pass :-)

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    1. You're right that I used to put up a lot about myself. For the most part it was because we have a culture that promotes silence. While I'm not all for putting it all out there, I was very sure that there were people with experiences similar to mine, and I wanted them to know they weren't alone. Admittedly sometimes I ended up sharing more than I intended to because I noticed that people do like to read those personal details, and I didn't mind using my experiences to entertain them.

      Thankfully I soon learnt that the fact that others found it enjoyable and/or enlightening didn't mean I had to share, because no matter how "noble" your intentions, some would misunderstand, some will still mock and ridicule you. Therefore I post less and less about me these days.
      Another reason is that the blog was a lot smaller then so I didn't feel so exposed.

      Thanks Ada. I'm hanging in there. But I wrote this not for myself alone, but for others who are at that point. Especially other bloggers. I talk to quite a few and you'd be surprised at how many bloggers wake up wanting to quit. I guess we all need reminders and encouragement every now and again.

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    2. Tee,the fact that you used to put up a lot about yourself on this blog was what made me stick here.I was always able to relate with most of the things you wrote down here & I learnt a lot from the comments from your bv's.
      It gets to a point in everyone's life when you feel like quitting from all the wahala but on those days I usually quickly remember my mum's word "Some days are like that",Once these words come to mind,I'll forget about everything bothering me @ that moment & work towards a better tomorrow. Please stay strong,Tee

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  5. If you quit, there is nothing after. So its vest to go slow when you need to, be fast when you need to, have nervous breakdowns when you need to..etc. you get my point.

    Even Jesus couldn't save everyone, so don'tput too much on yourself. Original content blogging is very hard- i have found my own temporary happy- 1post per day...even when i have multiple i save them for other days. Pynk360.com is my 5th or so blog in 10 years and that is how i pace myself. I take a similar approach to work, there is no point in being overwhelmed, if i die tomorrow, life must go on...so till then i pace myself...

    So whatever it is Thelma, one day at a time at Thelma's pace...not your reader's pace...but your own pace..its the most credible way to be authentic.

    www.pynk360.com

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    1. Sometimes i forget at whose pace blogging should be done and i get burnt out. Now am on the steady and comfy lane..

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  6. Those unfulfilling days are occasional. Thankfully, that's normal and I can rejoice on your behalf and on behalf of fellow BVs. So relax and keep doing what you're doing; improve on aspects you feel aren't attractive. Stay blessed T.

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  7. Uhhhhhh mami, I feel that way on certain days...Some days I am just tired...buh blogging has become a part of my daily routine...like brushing my teeth in the mornings. So I tell myself this any day I don't feel like getting on blogsville, 'Erniesha, you blog because YOU love it'...and BAM! I am on my laptop putting up a post. Sometimes, it is better when you do things for YOU. I know that when you got loyal readers, you kinda have to always deliver buh believe me, a post that makes no sense to you, ALWAYS makes a whole lot of sense to your loyal readers..... All in all tho', the easiest way you could run this blog without feeling exhausted is when you run it cuz YOU wanna run.....not for anyone else.

    It gets better tho'

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  8. err'one going all inspirational, me no sabi deliver motivational speech so I'll just *rub greese on your elbow* and get back to patients

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  9. ^^^lols...

    More grease thelma...it might not be easy but at the end you are doing what you love. That is a consolation.

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  10. Thelma, the friend every girl should have. Thanks for the inspiration babe.

    Go bless you always.

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  11. Word for my moment - keep it moving.

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    1. That's all I felt reading this.
      *Loads of Kisses & Tight Hugs T*

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  13. Keep staying strong T. If only u know how many people look up to you as a role model

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  14. Thelma, u have no idea how much some of us love ur blog! Plenty hugs snd kisses!

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