This was a hot topic some years ago and one woman said her husband comes first, before her children. Her answer was so controversial that it landed her on Oprah or some huge talk show (I think it was Oprah). Most people were shocked, popular consensus was that any parent should put the kids first before the spouse, and I strongly agreed.
But this was years ago, and I don't feel so strongly anymore. I won't so readily say my kids will take front seat in my heart. They may, they may not. I don't know, but I know I no longer feel it's outrageous for hubby to be my number 1 and then the kids.
I got to talking with a group of interesting folk this evening, all married, all parents. And opinions were actually split. Some said you can never vouch for spouse but you can for the kids, to a reasonable extent. Others said your vow is to your spouse, and if not for your spouse then you wouldn't have had those children. Also remember that one day the kids will grow and leave and start their own families. And no, of course you wouldn't be no. 1 to them. Also, who are you left with; spouse!
It was a very interesting talk and I would love to hear what you think. Married, fathers, mothers, singles... Who takes front seat in your heart, who comes first for you; your spouse or your children? And why?