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Sexual Salvation.


Sexual Salvation. Do you want that? Do you need that? You can have that! Where?
At the Sex Hospital, that's where!

No, we don't have a sex hospital over here, at least not that I know of. I was reading the bio of Sex Hospital and that's how TLC puts it; where couples go to get sexual salvation. 

In case you didn't know, I'm very fascinated by sex. And failing all else, or maybe not even failing all else, I may one day become a sexologist. Now while I've never been an oversexed person, I've always been particularly keen on the topic. I probably enjoy discussing, analyzing and researching sex more than the act itself, I wonder why... And they say do what you're passionate about, right? Ergo sexology!

LOL. This post isn't about me or my interest in sex. Last night I caught an episode of TLC's the Sex Hospital and I watched as couples unabashed, went to seek help or solutions to their sexual problems. There was this young couple, the girl like a lot of females couldn't achieve orgasm. Another couple where the guy travels a lot so wifey found comfort in porn and erotica novels, so much so that she has become so addicted and dependent on porn that she no longer wants her husband to touch her. 

Other episodes have couples who have problems because they lost their libido after the baby, or because they both have very different sexual desires, or because one partner was unfaithful and although the other has forgiven, finds it very difficult to make love to them. 

The sex hospital has very well trained expert professionals in the field. They put "patients" through rigorous tests and exercises to ascertain the cause or depth of their problems. The patients always leave better than they came and the clinic even checks on them months later to know if they made progress or lapsed. 

The girl with the orgasm problem was discovered to have serious body issues that make it hard for her to actually enjoy sex and that was dealt with. The married couple did psychological tests to discover their fantasies and when this was done they were encouraged to role play in the bedroom and act out each other's fantasies. These relationships were renewed and restored, the passions rekindled and reignited, and isn't that simply fantastic?

Doesn't it make you wonder how many marriages or relationships in Nigeria can be salvaged, if we had a sex hospital? And not just a sex hospital, but people willing to admit that there's a problem and go seek help? Is it any wonder that there are so many people in marriages seeking satisfaction and "sexual salvation" in the wrong lovers' beds... I'm not saying that's the cause of infidelity but I'm certain it's "a" cause. 

In Nigeria we would rather shy away from those problems even when we're facing them, and live unhappy, frustrated lives than talk about it and find a solution of these problems. Sex is a very veeeery important part of life, and imagine a life of sexual frustration and dissatisfaction, how long can you live with that?

I just got to wondering (probably this can play as a part of my market research for opening my sex clinic in Lagos), if you have need for it, would you visit a sex hospital (assuming you had access to one)Tell me Yes or No, and then tell me why

Also, got sex related questions or sexual problems? No problem! Talk to Dr Thelma. I'm willing to offer my unexpert opinions and possible solutions, which I might likely end with "I dont't know sha", so that you cannot say I ruined your (sex) life. LOL.

But hey, I mean it, I'm a natural sexologist, tell me your worries my child.  

Just as an aside, yes we do have professional sexologists in Nigeria. 


  1. I'd love to be a sexologist too

  2. As forward thinking as we might want to be, when it comes to talking about our sex lives with someone else, saying that we have problems, it's not in our genes as Nigerians.

    We would rather die in silence - just saying.


    1. Well, the question is... Would you rather die in silence really?

    2. As sad as it might sound, I think I'd rather die in silence :(

      That's the Nigerian man in me speaking


  3. Sadly,most Nigerians(especially the men,its just unmanly the way they see it) would rather continue in unhappiness and frustration than seek help with a sexologist.

    YES, if there was a need,i would visit one.Sole reason is that I have always believed in tackling a challenge head-on

    Good morning to All TTBs

    Happy Birthday is arrears Kene.

    Miss N,am glad you have the strength of mind to do the needful and am thankful for your mum's support...

    Tolu.....Congrats to you on the birth of your baby....May the Lord bless your family with more blessings immeasurable.

    Wishing everyone a great day ahead

    1. I like your style, you just summarized everything in one comment.

  4. If need be why not, I can't come and be suffering in silence when there can be a solution

  5. thanks a lot Fav,

    I think it's majorly women that are adamant in revealing sex related problems even seeking for medical advice (I mean stuffs like improving libido etc etc and I know it's not completely what T might be pointing out but... ). Men come in their numbers and I don't believe it's because mostly the male gender that experience these problems.

  6. Dokita thelma ngwa nu. My bobo thing too strong. He can ejaculate and still be hard and continue immediately on another round, and another round. It is very impressive but me after one round I want to rest small but he will just continue. The sex dey sweet but sometimes I dey avoid am. How we go take handle this one?

  7. Nigerians rarely ever admit to having problems talkless of sex problems.

  8. Might save many couples no doubt, if such existed for people to check in to.

  9. I'd visit one if there is one here and affordable too. After my first baby, sex just stopped been fun.

    Libido dropped very low.

    And I have a very active man in that area

    1. Anon, it's not always psychological, it could be a clinical case. Talk to your doctor or pharmacist and results can be achieved within a month.
      remain blessed

  10. Well in this stressful life many of suffering form sexual disease so there is need to some guideline to solve this type of issues and the sexologist is there to solve this type of issues perfectly...


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