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You know what this reminds me of... Recently a friend and Le boo made a sex tape.
Faces, privates and all. I asked her what happens if the videos go public, if for instance things go bad between them and he posts them online.

She shrugged, that abi it's both their faces in the videos? I shook my head in confusion, like so in this day and age you still don't know that there are double standards, you don't know that nobody will even notice or remember his face, you don't know that you're the only one who will get any heat, you still don't know that...? There's so much I want(ed) to ask...

But while we're at it? You sextape makers and nude picture senders, (those that let it all show; faces and all) do you not care if the world gets to see it, or you just believe that that would never happen?

Any ways back to the matter at hand, Thoughts anyone?


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    1. Hahaha. I could've sworn this was Uyi in coded mode.

      To the Post; oh well, C'est la vie...

    2. Memphis,kini itunmo C'est la vie? U better air ur view. Lol. Anyway,back to d matter,I would never send a nude pic or video to my boyfriend or fiance,it's a risk biko,which kind love be that one.

  2. C'est la vie kwa. Makeuna no vex

  3. Me and Bae make sex tapes because it is fun. And we can watch when we're not together. I don't think it will get out one day, it's important that ur dating a mature person becos even when you break up a mature man will respect what you people had. As for the tweet, double standards is old news. Even if she post the man's picture nobody will abuse him and his wife will still stand by him #such is life#

    1. Anon I wish I cud trust bae to that extent,make sex tape keee,mbanu biko.

    2. Anon am sorry OYO will be your middle name by the time the grapes are sapped.It's not about maturity.
      He is only a Bae sef not your husband. HIAN. My dear you can only trust yourself NEVER vouch for a man like this.

    3. Lol. It has nothing to do with maturity you better delete the videos on his phone because when it shele nothing like respect or maturity for the matter

    4. Mature man?? Hmmm...Anon please don't be a learner. Mature men and women have been doing unbelievable things since 1000BC. Just be careful though...

    5. Lmaooo @ "Mature men and women have been doing unbelievable things since 1000BC" and "OYO will be your middle name"

      In fact ehn! You people wie noh kee somebody

    6. As in ehhh,real Oyo,I no get liver reach that side ohhh.

    7. Memphis tell them please

    8. Divorced husband go release tape, talkless of Boyfriend abi na Bae.
      Ladies do not send nude pix to boyfriend or hubby. Just imagine that they steal your hubby's phone that is not passworded.

    9. Haa, lemme lend my voice too o. Maturity kwa? Babe, u have stepped on a slippery banana peel already. In fact, can someone help me with d addy of d best Nigerian porn site so that I can go and start waiting 2 see this babe and her "mature" boo's sextape already? Coz I kno it's gonna hit there sooner or later. What????

  4. Meanwhile why would somebody want to make a public fool of herself like this? What is there to gain? Please I cannot understand it.

    1. akata /ratchet one cares

  5. Reminds me of some facebook drama a few years ago. Female (single) sent male (married) nude pics of herself in the context of "a trusting relationship". When they fought over some other matter, the married man distributed her pictures to all the guys in the group. In retaliation, she published their sexy chats all over the group. His wife obviously found out. There were no winners in that saga IMO.
    I consider the above story to be a cautionary tale. Double standards exist, especially in Naija. How can you beg a woman for her pictures, text her how you're wanking over them then call her a whore over the same pictures?
    I can only send sexy pics with my face with hubby oo. For boyfriend, i can send my boobs/ other body parts but face no go show. The sex tape thing, I just don't think I'm interested in watching my strange face/ body contortions. Too awkward for me.

  6. To be sincere, I cannot even send a naked picture to my husband. I'm that cautious. What if someone looks through his phone, what if it gets stolen ,

    The lady above referring to "maturity" as a reason to send nude pics, Aunty na one chance you enter o, when things go sour in relationship anything can happen. Seriously ladies if you must whether it is to boyfriend or husband,do not snap your face for any reason. As per sex video, it's a no no for me,call me a prude. J

    1. ".... what if it gets stolen" good point!

  7. well.. I can send pictures with no faces.. sex videos ? what is that ?? lol.. we can have sex in front of a mirror if you want to see every move.. that's all I can offer.

  8. I refuse to even send pictures with my face in them to my husband talkless of a random bf. Abeg.

    1. Seconded. If it falls into the wrong hands.

      Hmmmm. Casala!!

  9. People remember always that Kim k had a sex tape. They hardly remember who her accomplice was.

    The double standard is real ladies. Ppls advise yourselves

  10. Wonder hw pple feel doing sex tapes..even wt their faces showing. Eeeww!

  11. What are we saying now? Cos I'm confused...

    Sex tape, kiss tape, mix tape... Any tape u feel like having with your spouse is your business. Agreeing to it is also the couple's business. We having an opinion is our business, doesn't make anyone wrong or right. Cos afterall, lady gaga and Mikey Cyrus pose nude everyday and they've got spouses so what tha heck...

    Live and let live please. It doesn't or didn't work for you isn't a yardstick it won't work for the 'fun and pleasures' of other couples abeg.

    1. Hmmmmmmmmm Uyi Uyi,u should be living abroad ohhhh and not in Africa,kaii. I comment my reserve ohhhh.

    2. There shouldn't be 'abroad' nor 'Africa', we are all human in God's eyes. When he sees u, he doesn't see an African

  12. Hmmmmm....I am not even sure what to say cuz the way I see looks like it is not really okay when y'all are just in a relationship...I think it's okay when you are both married...then again, I wouldn't still advice it...

  13. This matter which ever way you turn it, the odds are against the women! Wetin concern man if dem see him face join him ynash tin of 'glory' for him! pls caution is necessary abeg....but I neva marry so who knows what i might do when i DO get married and LAID!

  14. Thelma are you letting on that you dont mind sex-taping just as long as the faces do not show? lol. Ok she got him to sleep with her... and then what? How does that make her life better? I dont get all these things....


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