I'm so happy to be back, I missed TTB and the family terribly. I actually didn't take a break, you don't take such a long break from something you love so much. I needed to have things taken care of and although I'm not done yet, I realized that staying away longer would simply be me taking the piss. So, I had to switch the phones on, grab my iPad, renew my wiFi connection and at least find out what's going on. I'm happy to be back and I wouldn't lie, it feels good to know that some people missed me.
One of the things Fela Durotoye said at the conference just last week is that if you're somewhere your absence isn't missed or noticed, then you're on the wrong track. He said your impact is created by the vacuum your absence creates. While I don't know if my absence created any vacuum it certainly feels good to know that I was missed. And although I'd said I'd be off the net, some people still mailed. I'm so thankful to you guys, you're honestly an amazing people.
Now, I cannot wait to hear the juicy deets! What have I missed???????????
I see that the number 1 topic in the past week is the Toke Makinwa/Maje Ayida scandal. My mouth was left hanging open. I've kind of caught up with a bit of what's been happening and I'm asking questions questions and more questions.
Like of course she knew about the other lady (ladies?) before she got married, why TF did she still go ahead and marry him? But this isn't in any way peculiar to Toke. SO MANY of us WOMEN THESE DAYS KNOW WE ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE still when he flashes the ring, we excitedly scream YES and immediately start to plan the wedding. I'm certain that by now no girl/woman believes that "He will change after the wedding" lie, so what gives? Husbands are too scarce? Societal pressure? Indifference? "All men cheat anyways"? Just what...?
I also watched her Vlog titled "The show must go on", and indeed the show must go on! I applaud her strength and tenacity, but the minute the video started shooting, the overly enthusiastic way she jumped in made me wonder if she's really as strong as she's letting on, or if she's hiding behind a mask of false bravado? And if the latter is the case, is it really so bad to say "you know what, I've been dealt a blow and I need to take a little time to heal and regroup"? I mean, the video, the incessant posts and pictures on Instagram and all, I'm like babe you're already over-exposed, chill already! Of course I understand the importance of not only being strong but showing (the world) that you are strong, and regardless of whatever, you ARE still standing. I also understand that she shouldn't put her life and businesses on hold. Still I believe that it's not so out of place to take a breather, a brief respite perhaps. We are only human.
And, please how was the whole thing her fault? People baffle me. A lot of people saying how won't her marriage go bad with the way she's always jumping all over the place, attending every party and event? I wonder if it occurs to them that the reason she's out so much is because the marriage was bad (and not that the marriage was bad because she was out so much)? I don't know the details, but I find it hard to believe that if she had a present husband and a happy home she would spend so much time away from it. We really need to stop blaming women for everything that goes wrong.
So many questions but I can't ask them all. I sincerely pray that she is as strong as she lets on, that she realizes that strength and grace comes from God and she must lean on Him at this trying time. I also pray that eventually (and soon) God blesses her with her own man, that would worship, adore and love her and her alone, one that would be God's compensation for the loss, pain and humiliation. But you know what they say; not every loss is a loss. So go on with your bad self Toke, God's got your back!
Other news caught my eyes as well; Femi Fani Kayode and his trophy chic, for instance. This isn't in relation to them especially but; can a man truly love a girl half his age? As in real love? Can a woman love a man old enough to father her? Anyone of you young ladies here ever loved a man 50 years and above, or a man (almost) twice your age? As in actually love him and not just the things he could do for you? Please share with me.
And I feel like being naughty, so im'ma ask! What are the up sides and down sides of being in a relationship/marriage with a much older man? SPILLLLLLLLLL!!! LOL.
Ok, because I'm really trying to manage my time I wouldnt say more. I'm here to ask not to tell. What have I missed in the news in the last one week? Ikedi Ohakim was detained by EFCC and released, the Rivers state commissioner had her cars seized, Toke Makinwa got served, Donald Trump is running for President of the USA and wants Oprah as his running mate... I tell you; anyone who has Oprah as a running mate in the US will win that election with a landslide! Don't you agree?
What else, what else, what else?
But most importantly, what's NEW with YOU? What have I missed? How are YOU? This I'm more interested in than the gossip and news of the past week. What's your own gossip, what's your own news? Talk to me people!
(I've been away from home for the last week. While away I shared my space with two ladies, one lives in Holland and the other in the UAE. Experiencing the diverse cultures was very interesting. For instance the one who lives in Abu Dhabi drinks garri with pineapples, she swears it's the sweetest thing ever. So I already have my Ijebu garri on deck, my water is chilling and my pineapples are being diced. Anyone ever tried this? I'm suddenly feeling skeptical but I'm willing to try most things at least once.)