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Was I Right or Wrong? Be The Judge.

So early in May I went to the shopping mall and couldn't help but notice this rather fine looking, gentleman dressed in a suit, welcoming each person that walked in. I wondered if that was a new feature of the mall, a new part of their culture; having a well dressed man greet each person individually. Well that didn't make sense so I brushed the thought aside. While leaving, I looked out for him and saw him timidly approach people leaving the mall. I walked to the other side of the car park, not wanting to be begged for money by the well dressed man in the suit. 

I thought to myself that he wasn't a feature of a mall after all, he was a well packaged beggar. But as I drove out I watched him closely and saw that he had some things in his hand. On getting to where he stood, I slowed down and wound the glass down. "What are you doing?" I asked. "Please ma, I just released my album ma, anything you can give me ma..." I asked him for a copy and handed him a 500 Naira note. 

I slotted the disk in and a few minutes later I tossed it out of the window. Dude couldn't sing to save his life! I also felt cheated because the first song, first among three, was not his but something from a Redeemed church service. I mean, why sing gospel music and still cheat? That's both a sin and a crime. I didn't regret parting with my money though, it must have taken a lot to stand there with his hands held out. Let's also not forget that recording the songs and printing the covers must have cost money too...

Oh well this morning I rushed to the bank to get my BVN sorted with Tundun (yes, I'm one of those procrastinators that wait for deadlines *covers face*). While I got a slot in the queue in one bank, I ran to use the ATM for another bank. Turns out they had a problem so I ran to a branch nearby where they made me join yet another queue to get money over the counter. I heard someone singing a bit too loudly behind me, irritated I turned to tell him to keep it down! I opened my mouth and almost immediately shut it, it was none other than the beggar-singer-scammer! I faced front and ingnored him, but not before he grinned at me and winked. Eeew!

Next thing I knew he took his earpiece out of his ears and started trying to chat me up. I ignored him. As we left the banking hall he followed suit and badgered me with tales of the usual "Can I get your number? Can I call you later? Can I get to know you better?" Agitated, I snapped at him and said I was in a hurry. Goodbye. 

Tundun says "you could have just heard him out". I said "Why would I hear him out?", then explained the CD incident to Tundun. She then hits me with the "Despise not the days of humble beginnings" line. 

I scoffed. 

Mba nu. No can do!

I'm not materialistic (at least I don't think I am) but I'm certain that that is not part of my destiny. Why exchange numbers with someone I saw begging for handouts and handing out extremely crappy music at the mall? 

Tundun says "that's just wrong! Pride comes before a fall". My eyes rolled so far back into my skull I had to shake my head vigorously to reset it! Is this chics kidding me?

Biko was I wrong? Tell me. 

Ps; I wasn't rude to him o! Before you judge me put yourself in my shoes. Would you "get with" someone you saw begging for handouts at the mall or some other public place?


  1. "...he grinned at me and winked. Eeew!.." Eeew say wetin happen? Does he have big head? Hehe...

    Anyhow it's BVN day so I'm guessing that's the main reason you were riled up and not hearing him out like Tundun suggested.

    1. It has nothing to do with BVN. *straight face*

    2. Then it must be his head

  2. Lmaoooo @ uyi! Loooool!

    Thelma! Smh for you! And yes! You are wrong for waiting till now to get your bvn.
    All these despise not the days of little begin/stories that touch ehn... nwanem... Hmnnn... let me just answer your question. No, I don't think you were wrong + you were not rude. My personal opinion. :)

    1. Lmao @ I was wrong for waiting for so long. I accept but I'm still better than some. You wouldn't believe that some people I met at both banks who came to do transactions don't even know what BVN is. So you see, I'm not so bad after all.

    2. I've not obtained my BVN oo, I hope there are no repercussions

      as for the guy, T I perfectly understand him, were you not the one that did this post ;P
      goodnight lovelies

    3. You're right Kene. I "respect" his hustle, and that's why I gave him money. Notice I said I moved over to the other side when I thought he was a mere beggar? If he had nothing he was offering I would have parted with my hardy earned 500 bucks. But that's not enough reason to "cavort" with him or anyone.

  3. Tundun must be kidding.....


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  5. T I don't think U were wrong. Friendships & Relationships shouldn't be forced.
    It's got nothing to do with pride/ego IMO.
    Everyone has a right to CHOOSE those they need/want in their lives, Everyone also has a right to REFUSE!

  6. Hmmmm,All I can say is you are part of the 'Rush' crowd filling up our banking halls. Issokai....kontunnu,lols

    Hopefully you were able to get the BVN done today?

    As per the crappy singer,no you weren't wrong

    1. Latty latty comer Thelma, last minute NNE,back to the matter,u were not wrong biko,guess he got what he deserved. I feel the guy is a scammer jawe.

  7. As far as you were not rude to him, you did nothing wrong. You have a right to chose the kind of people you want around you and you most definitely cannot be everyone's friend.

  8. Its called setting standards for yourself. No need to feel bad about it.

  9. Oh Mami, I would have been awfully rude to him and anyone who says I am wrong will get it a dose too... Simple.

    1. You deserve a million hugs for your comment Erniesha, would have done the same

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  10. T, 'bet why'? Lol.
    The brother obviously liked you, you should have given 30 seconds of your
    What crap. Humble beginnings as per how?
    U even tried sef. You should have given him a systematic wash down.

    1. why though? why shouldn't he speak to a chic he fancies just because he's unemployed?
      i'm really curious

    2. Ada, who said anything about not approaching hercos he's unemployed?
      His kind are everywhere in Lagos, not just the malls. They piece 2 or 3 wack songs and beg you to buy with a pitiful look on their faces. When out of sympathy you buy the CD and play it, u'll be lucky to get other crappy songs that are not 'Jingle bell jingle bell'. Who wants to play xmas song in June?
      Most of them don't sing the songs themselves, they just lie that they sang the crappy songs.
      That Thelma's guy (T, sorry o, but he's ur guy for now), obviously wanted to try his luck with her. He probably remembered her as the 'aunty' that bot his CD, so why not see if she would accept friendship of 'getting to know him better'.....what crap.
      Again Thelma, next time give a systematic wash down.

    3. I might have no recollection of her buying the CD, an sure if he did, he won't have approached her

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    6. lol... ejoec, i get what you mean. by all means scamming on any scale should not be condoned. it seems your issue is with him being a scammer. Thelma's issue seems to be that he was "begging". it's a confusing situation sha. ah well. he tried his luck, Thelma no 'gree. aluta continua.

  11. hmmn.
    i don't know that this comes down to whether or not he was begging. I think it's a simple case of [d'banj] "Were you feeling the nigga?"[/d'banj], suit, voice, looks, wink and all, and the answer is No.
    However if the only reason you couldn't stand him was because he was soliciting for funds, then I don't have an answer. me sef confuze.

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  14. Begging doesn't really describe what he was doing as he had something to give in exchange for whatever he got from the willing passerby's. However that his scam of a cd entitled him to a slap and to think he had the effrontery to wink....

  15. No wayyyyyy!
    I saw d same guy. Gave him 200. He eyed me like "u're stingy". I no send. Album was awful. Beggy beggy husband??? No!
    Dr. N


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