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When Desperation Pushes You...

Daniella crushed on Chudi for longer than even she could remember, all she knew was that she had to meet him. One fateful Saturday night she spotted him at the club and thankfully he happened to be with an acquaintance of hers. Normally Daniella wouldn't have gone to say hi to this acquaintance but because of Chudi, she did. She had hoped he would take interest in her but unfortunately, he only politely said hi. Daniella lingered for any useful info and eventually heard him tell her acquaintance that he was returning to Lagos the next day. The next morning Daniella went online to check what flights were going to Lagos and when, thanks to the small town she lived in there were only few flight coming in and leaving the town, it being a Sunday made it even fewer. Daniella got her hair made, applied her makeup carefully and wore the most innocent yet flirtatious dress she had. Ready, Daniella headed to the airport an hour before the Arik flight to Lagos was slated to leave. The aero flights were leaving either very early or very late. Daniella reasoned that someone who partied hard the previous night wouldn't leave so early, and wouldn't leave so late either, because Monday is a work day. 

Yes, she "mistakenly" bumped into Chudi at the Enugu airport and there marked the start of a very passionate relationship.

Every time I remember the way my friend *Chioma met her boo, I LOL and SMH. It might seem a bit desperate but some people just don't believe in waiting for "time and chance", some people create their own opportunities. I guess, desperation can be a good thing sometimes. 

Thinking about Chioma reminds me the time I stalked and stalked someone on social media, commented on EVERYTHING she was linked to, and became a bit of a nuisance, just to get her attention. I eventually did and ended up working with her, and being friends with her. I've had some amazing moments in my career with her and I'm thankful I didn't wait for something as random as "time and chance". 

You know how they say necessity is the mother of invention? I think creativity is a child of desperation!

I once worked with someone who occasionally travels business class, not necessarily because he can afford it, but because that's where he's likely to meet his target clients. 

Another friend paid heavily for a ticket to an upscale event which she heard her dream boss was attending. She had no interest in the event, but that was the only place she could get a one on one meeting with the woman. During lunch break she walked up to her and started chatting with her. Well, let's just say the money she spent on the ticket was well worth it. 

I love stories about proactive people. It could be the gist of that runs girl who would board a plane with no particular destination, just to meet someone, (hehe. I used to know someone that would scrimp to pay for business class tickets so that she could be seated with the "wealthy" and meet wealthy aristos). Or that guy who wrote his credentials on a placard, wore a very neat suit and stood at the train station (the one who now works with one of the companies he targeted). It could also be that person who made the moves like FNLP suggested; "get as many CEO’s email addresses as you can and guess what guys? You can actually guess just by using the format of any email address you find on their official Company website... and the chances of the CEO himself replying you are very high". It could also be something like what my friend Chioma did to get her boo; she didn't wait for the Universe to put her in the right place at the right time, she found out what the right place and the right time was and put herself there!

*Side eye at y'all who deliberately got pregnant to snag a ring. *Yimu*. I'm shaking my head at you desperate heffers*. 

I'm eager to hear of one time that you didn't wait for "opportunity", "time & chance" or destiny to present something to you, instead you created the opportunity for yourself to get that thing you wanted; in your career, your love life, your finances, whatever! Let's talk. 

Ps... I believe in opportunity. I believe in destiny. I strongly believe in time and chance. But I also believe that if opportunity doesn't knock, one ought to build a door. 



  1. T this post is so me because I don't wait for opportunity. I started my own business when nobody wanted to employ me. And I asked my bobo out. I no get shame after all we are now engaged today.

  2. Oh T, I remember vividly...
    I was almost 15, He was 17, Social prefect boy & President of both Debate Club & Arts club V.P. From a wealthy home, Super intelligent & stammered a Lil bit which I found sexy. I had the "hugest" crush on him Esp when he spoke. *Fans self*

    Dear TTBVS, na so I go join Debate club not minding all the disgrace awaiting me, my 1st Poem recital was a huge joke, but since he was the one stroking me, I just drooled.
    But this guy still didn't get the occasional wide smiles, stepping on his sandals, offering to get him a drink or even buying him a wallet on one of our arts trips to Benin.
    He graduated high school without a goodbye & broke my fragile heart. *wipes tears*

    Well, I ended up being the President of Arts club & V.P of Debate club.
    Coincidently, I met him in my year one in the university & he told me he knew all what i's doing in high school but was too focused in his books to care. But now he was ready to Love me. *knocks his head again*
    Dude, that ship has sailed. I'm very focused in my books now too, so please swerve. I watched him hurt too, Yimu... I still liked him but I was with a better drool worthy guy at the time. LOL

    Desperation pays sometimes sha, just choose ur battles wisely!

    1. "but since he was the one stroking me, I just drooled" Lmaooooooooo! Ruthy! You are many shades of crazy!!!! I swear!!!! Lmaooooo! Chai!!! I was nodding my head all through the post and then first comment, only to see this! I burst out laughing! Jeez! You had to put a hilarious twist to it abi? Kai!

      Thelma how did you manage to gather all these witty, intelligent, experienced, funny, crazy but awesome people on this blog. *rubs grease on your elbow*
      you're truly blessed! Pele my dia... :*

    2. Lol! Very funny, Ha! Ruthyyyy, u no go kill person.

    3. LOL, @shards of Ruthie's fragile heart.
      Here..... take this hanky and dab those tears

    4. Oooh Ruthy you are just too hilarious

  3. I have had many moments...i have intentionally sat at lunch tables with people and ended up having conversations with them. Gotten different job offers, different insights, etc. Working overseas you have no choice but to figure out how to network and meet everyone you are familiar with is far far away.

  4. i seize the opportunity o... its only the violent that taketh it by force


  5. Hi thelma and blog visitors its my 1st tym commentng here and I love this blog already.

    Mz indomie says so.

  6. Welcome Damsel.

    There's no harm in trying. Take the bull by the balls if ya have to.

  7. Welcome damsel.....

    Some desperation ate definitely worth it and no I am yet to go that extent.....but na that job own sure pass. If only....


  8. Yep,success stories of desperation are always worth reading! Lol

  9. I like to read stories like this, especially the ones that end well.

  10. Yea.. It pays to go for what you Want, a.K.a "taking the bull by its horns"


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