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Women, Their Insatiable Needs and Their "Gullible" Men.

I have often compared relationships to baskets that can’t retain water. As a young man i have struggled to reconcile myself to the ways and behaviours of women especially when it comes to money. Try as i might, I cannot understand the lust for money that most women have, neither have I found a woman who does not yearn for financial contributions in relationships.
Most of the ladies i have met in my 30 something years on earth have been so money-grubbing that they have scared the heck out of me and have kind of put me off marriage.
After dating for several years and almost going bankrupt trying to please my girlfriends, i decided i had to find other ways to assuage my sexual appetite pending when i find a woman who can love me for me.
You see most of the ladies i have dated in the past have always had one request or the other that they needed me to fulfill. Their wants were always insatiable… from an iPhone, to an iPad, to assistance with house rent or their parents/siblings medical bills. There was always something or some project that needed funding and who better to provide the funds if not the gullible boyfriend?
Funny thing is that as soon as one need is met, another springs up almost immediately. In most of my relationships i have felt like a bank account which only experiences debits and never credits. This feeling is what pushed me to try the women of the underworld. I reckoned that since it was a pay as you go exercise i would be better off financially.
So i sought a decent one far away from where I live, got a nice room and prepared to be set alight. The fees were pre-negotiated and agreed upon. It fit my budget and I hoped the experience would tide me over for the month.
The sexual experience was satisfactory. I lie… it was beyond satisfactory for the budget I set. Compared to what I usually spent on a girlfriend, the amount was reasonable and I indeed got value for my money. Alas i got the shocker of my life the next morning, when i woke up and found my night pleaser and all my valuables gone. My wallet, containing the cash I had planned to spend for 2 weeks, my Samsung tab and my sunglasses were all missing.
My night pleaser had scammed me just as my other girlfriends. She had made away with my valuables without even giving me the “break-up” story that my past girlfriends had always come up with after milking me dry”
In a reflective mood i am forced to ask is there any woman out there who will date you for love? Is there any woman out there who is not a scam artist? Most relationships come with a heavy price tag? If as a young man i have to spend so much on a girlfriend’s need how do i acquire assets or even set up a home/life?**************
I found this interesting mail on LIFETITUDE's Blog.
LOL. Who lets a nightworker sleep over and doesn't hide his valuables? You're a learner bruv!


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    1. I'm sure this is Ur defense mechanism as a lady. Huh?

  2. Serious learner in every ramifications! When der are guys who don't even bother spending as long as dis gurl is all they want.. Some even beg u to ask dem, and wen u don't, they go ahead buy heaven n earth 4 u!
    Someone posted it on "Dear Thelma", how d guy got her a job, sent her abroad for masters, I mean spent solid cash but that she didn't want to marry him cos she didn't feel love for the guy and guess what, she told the guy from the onset!.. Real guys love responsibilities biko except d broke ones or not so balling ones of which der babes also understand it dat way!
    Biko onye emechikwana m nti dis afternoon.

    1. Lol! Queen don provoke! The guy bu ezigbo learner biko!

    2. And yet you will still clamour for gender equality... You will still shout that you have been *****... Let me stop there for courtesy sake.

    3. Lmaoooo... I agree with uyi on this one o! lmaooo!

      Loooool @ "Real guys love responsibilities biko except d broke ones or not so balling ones of which der babes also understand it dat wa".... really?!!! I didn't know that o! Looool! Queen come and explain this part o! How? Why?

    4. Hahaha kabuoy honey have u not read and even notticed that guys love to be d "superman"? They love to feel like the provider evn wen bae is working

  3. Why couldn't he date for love but for sex? Could he date a lady without having sex with her? He fails to understand that those ladies he dated have a common understanding that they could use what they have (their bodies) to get what they want (his cash). And how come that is the only category of ladies he could attract? How come he wasn't able to get for himself a decent career lady who is worth her onions; who wouldn't depend on a broke-ass nigga like him for the fulfillment of her financial needs? He needs to ask himself some serious questions.


    1. Now he's 'broke ass' cos he's complaining about fulfilling their insatiable needs?

      In short, from what you are proposing, he should remain a celibate until he finds a 'decent career lady who is worth her onion'

    2. Looool! Yes! His own insatiable needs nko! He is looking for free sex abi?! Na so nah! He wants to be sleeping with "bad bitches" for free? He never jam! Loool! Dem for carry him away too!

      Children of these generation... I don't just understand them anymore. in my days... people dated for love. you love a girl, you write/recite to her a love poem... give her natural flowers... and she'll love you for who you are.

      These days all the guy wants is sex... and all the girl wants is money. which I think is a fair deal!

      So this Mr. Oga should park well abeg. He doesn't even have a solid case. Iranu... aba *oops* soorry! *shines teeth*

  4. Why do I find this post hilarious? The narrator is a huge clown!!! Kai... I'm still ROTFLMSAO!!!

    So Sorry for ur losses Dear, material & emotional.

    But it's time the guy talks to God & find his rib that'll fit perfectly like Cinderella & her Glass shoes...

  5. phew..i can finally comment. anyways, let me LMAO first..

    lol! Ruthy im with you on this one..whoever wrote this needs a lot of help.. ROTFLMAO

  6. It's the kind of women he's interested in. He probably likes bad bitches and bad bitches don't come cheap. And obviously his pockets are not deep enough for the kind of girls he likes. He wouldn't be complaining.

    1. This is very true...

      The writer should stop looking at girls for the sexual features when looking for a wife.
      He should stick with one special 'sex delivery' babe. Wch is understandable in his situation. But the fact that u got robbed is Ur problem. I'm sure he won't add that part if it were a guy who robbed him. But there's no difference.

  7. obviously the relationships were all about sex, so why is he mad about the girls wanting his money when he also wants something from them
    Am with F on this he neds to ask himself some questions
    The kind of person he is,its what's attracting those girls...
    Hes here forming

    1. Law of Attraction... I recent saw a documentary series about how it affects our daily lives.

  8. Lol,really hilarious. Who sleeps with a night walker and keeps his belonging exposed, bros u be learner. His mindset is what attracts such gals to him. F and crimson has said it all.

  9. Haba, there are decent girls in my village bruv, you don't even need to spend much. ROTFL
    This dude no try Abeg, you just allowed yourself to be used ooo, is in no way the ladies fault. At least they won't kill him if he didn't give them all they ask. But this brother funny sha

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  11. Noting sweet comes easy Bruv. Babe's ain't smiling. Lol

  12. Ha! I am not gonna say anything on this one mami **covers face**

    How are you doing mamacita!

  13. Why is this dude complaining? It's so obvious he has a particular spec when it comes to dating a woman. He should pack well abeg. I even have the feeling that he actually entices the ladies with money before they agree to date him.
    The last xperience he got from the 'lady of night was 'learning upgraded' for him.


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