So basically, friend is in the abroads. Friend occasionally sends Ese to check in on the home to make sure everything is fine. Friend sends Ese because she's sure she can trust her. Ese "mistakenly" sleeps with friend's hubby once.
Ese cannot believe what she has done. She and hubby agree never to tell friend. They convince themselves it's better for friend if it never happens again and they never speak of it, especially not to friend. Because it will only hurt her more, so what's the point.
Except, Ese isn't very convinced. She's guilt ridden and is wondering whether she should come clean with her friend, and apologize.
She asked what I think.
I think it's tricky. Are you confessing because it will make you feel better, less guilty (as I think is the case here)? Or will your confession be for the other person's good?
Because I think that if she confesses its only because her conscience is killing her, and I'm struggling to see how knowing what happened will help her friend... One side of me is thinking "Don't tell her". And the other side is wondering; "But wouldn't you want to know?"
Ladies, (and gentlemen) would you want to know if your close friend slept with your spouse? Why?
Please we would also love to hear your argument on why the friend should know, OR why the friend should not know. Thank you.
Ps; please don't ask me what it means to mistakenly sleep with someone. But I'd say it wasn't premeditated and she somehow founding herself doing it, without intending to. If that makes any sense...