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#BeingFemaleInNigeria. What Does It Mean To You?

is being told countless times that I will never find a husband because I am "too ambitious" and outspoken.

A child's failure is the mothers shame but a child's success is the fathers pride igeria

not being "allowed" to move out until you're married because "respectable woman"

Guys can be aggressive. It's allowed. But a furious woman lacks home training no matter what upset her.

your brothers can go out anytime they like, but as a girl you have to give two weeks prior notice n be home by 4pm.

in case you don't know, immigration requests a consent letter from husband to get a passport for kids.

#beingfemaleinnigeria means your involvement in politics will be limited to clapping, singing and wearing aso-ebi unless you prove yourself.

Can I talk about how many strange men on the street feel entitled enough to my body to touch me when I walk past them?

is getting harassed in the market for wearing shorts in a country where the weather hits 40degrees on an average day

you're 30 years old? And you wanna leave your boyfriend for cheating? Ordinary cheating? I'm sorry for you. Wa le le.

we are taught to be submissive, accepting, forgiving, painfully respectful. God forbid we mistakenly voice our opinion

Do not try to get a PhD, you will definitely scare men, a first degree is fine, a PhD means you KNOW TOO MUCH.....

is tipping the restaurant worker with YOUR money from YOUR bag but the worker thanking your male companion instead.

Just to add to these tweets, Being female in Nigeria... 
Is being relegated to the kitchen while the men discuss and decide affairs for everyone. 
Is getting used to having your body pinched, prodded and pressed by strange men in public, particularly market places. 
Is accepting that you got cheated on, while standing with your head held high, cooking his food, cleaning up after him and screwing his brains out in bed. 
Is having a rich sponsor once you have a level of independence. Because God forbid a woman have her own money and live a certain lifestyle 
Is having people jeer at any bad driver. If it's a man; why you dey drive like woman? If it's a woman; no wonder, na woman!
Is receiving shabby treatment and service at the restaurant even when you're a paying customer, once you're without a man.
Is going for drinks with your girlfriends and receiving strange stares, because you ladies are either prostitutes or waiting to be approached by men. 

Guys, male and female alike, in your personal experiences what's it like being female in Nigeria


  1. Lool I can't relate to a lot of this because I didn't grow up in Nigeria... I understand it and know it happens but not living it.
    But I guess wherever u r in the world being female generally has its downside....

  2. Is being told to ask a man like your father to help you buy landed property on your behalf than to do so yourself.

    It is being told not to get your self car before marriage so you don't pursue the "low self esteemed boys" away.

    It's being relegated to the back ground when family issues are being discussed by the men including your juniors because they are men.

    Is not having a tangible inheritance from your fathers assets just because you'd end up being another man's wife.

    Hi T, being down with a fever. Thanks for your msg.


  3. If you complain of stomachache or throw means you are pregnant.

    1. Oh Dear. Memphis I will spank U!
      So We cant just be ill? LOL

    2. Lmaoooo! So true!!!!! I paid for a pregnancy test without even knowing.
      Apparently it's the norm.
      And I got stares that day from nurses ehn... I can just imagine what was going on in their head...
      "Hmmnn... this SU girl... maybe she don carry belle.. small girl like her... abeg no come vomit for hia o" and of course... I threw up and the icy stare doubled! heheheee!

  4. #BeingFemaleInNigeria is ur dad flogging u mercilessly in 400lvl for having the temerity to "talk" to a boy in a vicinity near him and then two years later after NYSC asking u when you're going to get married as if the guy is supposed to magically show up as soon as you finish school...

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    2. True story man!
      The day he asked me about "the brother"... Omoh! I told him without mincing words! Straight up mehn! looool!
      You didn't want me to have guys as friends(platonic friends o) at all throughout my years in the university! As ridiculous as it sounds. Then guys were liars, evil, deceivers, only want sex!
      And then magically! One year and few months later(only God knows what suddenly changed about guys), I should be engaged to someone because i'm now a graduate, I have a good job.. and of course the next "level of achievement" is marriage. "You can do your masters in your husband's house if you want. The choice is yours" which simply means... it is almost time to leave my house so don't even think of using masters as an excuse! loool, I never knew the day would come when i'll hear my father say that! Lmaooo! I didn't even have to wait for long! Looool!

    3. LOOOL, easy... Your father's tactics were for the greater good

    4. So many questions. So popsy was flogging you while you were at Uni? And did you go to uni from home, abi how else was he seeing these guys? Nawa.... But like Kene said, I'm sure he had the best in mind, but parents (and people in general) sometimes have a funny way of going about things.

    5. Sounds exactly like wht my pops would do!

      SMH @ parents who feel they are entitled 2 beating/flogging dr kids in dr 20s (coz they feel they are wrong or hv done smthg wrong). And whn u snap and talk back, fight back or do somthg outta anoyance, they'd scream that u are disrespectful or don't have manners.

      #Double SMH

  5. I had a discussion with a couple of my colleagues and I got to understand that being female in Nigeria meant u had no right to have any standards, my colleagues were of the opinion that if u don't like short guys and it's only short guys that approach u, then u have to settle for one of them because women have no choice and they need to get married. I was really upset because my argument was if only short men make advances at you, what wrong with walking up to the kind of guy u want to be with and starting of a conversation. The answer I got was " hope you are not the type of woman that will toast a man*

    Bottom line :So being female in Nigeria means I don't have a choice, if u find someone that is willing to marry u, better take the offer because there are no available men.

    1. When a lady makes advances at me, my opinion, i love it. It means she's got her own mind and can do what she wants from her heart.

      Mehn I dig confident babes jare...#turnonoflife

    2. Really? And the day she pisses you off, are you sure you won't drop her like a hot potato claiming "I talk say I dey find girlfriend, no be you chase me up and dan till I gree".
      You may be a very rare exception, but experience has shown ti e and over that men would rather be the pursues than the pursued.

    3. *screaminggggggggggg*

      27 Little Thingsssssssss!

    4. Eesah! I see u!! ....@ uyi omoruyi @ ada_ugo I'm not saying making advances, I'm saying start a conversation, make friends, get to know people that you might be interested in and anything can happen, I don't believe in waiting for guys to approach a lady, if for example we are at a wine tasting event and I see a guy I'd like to get to know, I won't sit around hoping he notices me, I'll walk up to him and start a conversation, that's different from asking him to be my boyfriend....and we might just have a lot in common and end up being good friends or even dating or he might not even be what I'm looking for. My point is as a woman I feel I call the shots, and in fact I'm the one who does the choosing.

  6. #Been female in Nigeria is u and your Husband going to work together in the morning and both of u coming back in the evening and only you making dinner in the kitchen and still bath for your baby while your husband sits in the palour watching T.v.. it can be annoying eh..

  7. I read one somewhere:

    #BeingFemaleInNigeria if you are pregnant before marriage,you are in trouble; if you are not pregnant after marriage, u are still in trouble...


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