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Blog Reader Asks... (Should Her Husband Contribute For The Baby Shower?)

Some of us want to throw a surprise baby shower for our friend but we can't come up with enough money. Is it okay to ask her husband to contribute? I suggested it to the group (we are ten) and almost everybody said no, that we should not ask the husband because it would be wrong. Even though we are ten organizing, some of us may bring a friend along, and other friends of hers and colleagues will come too. Her husband's friends may also come. We are ten donating 5k each, 50k will not be enough for do much, besides cake, small chops and drinks, we also need decorations and items for games. I think that her husband should contribute to his wife's baby shower but i am the only one that thinks so. They said it our duty as the friends and her husband is not supposed to be involved at all. Please is anything wrong in the husband contributing for his wife's baby shower? Thank you. 


  1. It's not your duty. Her husband has a load of bills he's budgeted for. Yours isn't on his list. Pool your resources together and buy her a gift. If she has running water and a gen, get her a washing machine. If she doesn't have one. You can buy her 6 month supply of diapers. Buy fabrics and make loose dresses (wrap and shirt dresses) that are stylish to be worn out. And easy for breastfeeding. Not cheap fabrics. Get Vlisco or Daviva. Offer your time and labour when baby arrives. If she doesn't have a car and one of you does, drive her to the hospital, salon or market.

    Don't let money sour your friendship. A helping hand to a new mother will not be forgotten.


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  2. Well speaking from my own perspective, I don't think my hubby would mind if asked to contribute for a surprise baby shower. Depends on who you're dealing with and I also don't think it's wrong to ask her husband.

  3. Haba. Una wan plan and want to collect money from the man too? What is wrong in just doig small xhops and drinks? Must people eat their entire meal there? If not yall cook from your houses, buy paper plates and bring it to her house. Let her husband figure out how to get her out of the house or use someones house for a venue. Otan.

    If you want to do a baby shower, be genuine about it. No need for papparazi level stuff. You can cook rice and chicken and 1 piece of beef for under n10k if you guys join hands. Buy a small cake for n5k - or someone can make the cake even or cupcakes for less, drinks for n5k. Its remaining how much? Give the remaining money to the woman as a gift from her association of friends.

    Cut your cloth according to your size. This life is not that hard abeg.

    And if you feel thats not good, no need to throw a it a pre push lunch in her honor or something. Be creative.

    Or better yet give her a voucher to a baby friendly store. Dont go buy diapers oh- because if the baby reacts to the brand you have wasted your money.

    1. If the rice option seems consuming - make the small cornbeef, tuna, sardine etc sandwiches - you cant spend more than n5k and thats if you even use salmon self..

      I have made sandwiches for friends for their prayer meetings of 30 people for n5k or less combined with fruit servings - pair two locally available fruits - pineapple and pawpaw put them in the small transperant cups and serve after the sandwiches etc.

      The world is your oyster- make do of it.

    2. You sure have the brain for planning o. I was reading like I'm the one planning the shower sef

  4. I see no reason they should plan what they cannot afford. As Pynky rightly said, make do with whatever you have and let the husband face the serious expenditures.


  5. Ha! Y'all wanna throw a baby shower for your friend...and you wanna involve the husband? Nothing wrong in that tho'...buh if you can't come up with enough money to throw a nice baby shower then pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee call it off or make plans for a specific number of people that fits the budget. Grrrrrrrr....I hate when people always think of the husband as the backup plan....I dunno when baby showers became a must...**rolls eyes** puliz!

    1. Was wondering the same thing too. Baby shower's a great idea but it's not by force biko.

  6. Make do with what you have,you don't have to make it elaborate,its the thought that matters
    Why do you need decorations n stuff,you can use her house,her husband can help get her out of the house
    Ms pynk has given you a lot of options just pick anyone that can work for you and let the man think of the kid he will have to take care of

  7. You guys should take Mallamas advice biko. A new mum needs all the help she can get.

  8. The hubby that is preparing for an additional member of the family which might reduce his income is whom you want to ask to contribute to 'surprise baby shower' that has no economic value.

    Please have mercy and follow one of pynks suggestion.

  9. Lol to all your comments.... They make real sense.....

  10. People have lost the plot. Do you want to support your friend or do you want to post fancy pictures on social media? Because that 50k would make a good gift

    1. Thanks o! Help me ask them.

      Please it's not cool nor considerate to ask your friend's husband for support.

  11. Capital NO..


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