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Dear Thelma... (He's Not Tall Enough)

I just have a little dilenma. I'm a pretty young lady in my early twenties, done with school and running my own business.
I met a guy at the beginning of this year via bbm. We hit it off and started chatting and all. Fast forward 4 months later, we eventually meet face to face and I realized he was really short. I've always been a sucker for tall guys. At least guys taller than me because I'm very small in stature. I've never dated a short guy ever. I decided To go out on a date with this guy and I realized I wouldn't be proud to introduce him as my bf even though he's cute. A part of me is telling me to give it a try, he's very rich.responsible, though he a Lil bit full of himself but most guys are anyways. Another part of me is telling me its not worth it, to just date him cos he's cute and all, cos with time I'll start getting irritated if he does annoying things and I'll start blaming myself for managing to date him. And I really think I'm too young to start making compromises right now cos I'm still young and all. And I don't plan on getting married until 5 or 6 years time. And I don't want to waste his time cos I'm sure he'll want marriage soon. And I just want to hold on believing I'll meet a great guy. He doesn't have to be the tallest or most handsome guy, but at least someone I can be proud of and he'll be proud of me too. Please can you throw it to the house and let me know their opinion. Thanks a lot. 


  1. "And I really think I'm too young to start making compromises right now cos I'm still young and all. And I don't plan on getting married until 5 or 6 years time"

    Poster there lies ur answer. Ur mind is already made up. Even if we preach to U about how height doesn't matter, how U should focus more on his personality & how great he treats U, U'll still dump him.
    So Please, tell him to move on cos U dont want any serious commitment & cos he doesn't make U tick! *Dont waste his time & emotions.

    I wish U the best with ur next guy. I hope U find ur heart desires!

    1. Exactly. Her mind is made up.

      "...part of me is telling me its not worth it, to just date him cos he's cute and all, cos with time I'll start getting irritated if he does annoying things and I'll start blaming myself for managing to date him...".

      Just move on instead of hurting yourself and hurting him. Stay blessed Poster.

    2. Her mind is made up,dnt date out of pity. Little tinz wud get u upset

    3. she answered her question herself before even asking us

    4. Exactly. She already knows what to do she just needs us to agree with her.

    5. Exactly. She already knows what to do she just needs us to agree with her.

    6. lol Ruthy..ur comment is soo on point.. #enoughsaid

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    8. Moni-ninu-ola-oluwa (I have a portion in God's wealth) waaawu! Beautiful name! I have never seen or heard the name before!

      Memphis oya shift! Monininuolaoluwa you're welcome! :*

    9. Hmmm? Shift kwa? So Nigerian girls can now cheat because of ordinary name?

  2. Hahahaha I second Ruthy. BTW most guys are not full of themselves. J

  3. My dear there's no need managing the leads to a very unhealthy relationship. If u can't deal with his height, pls free him n leave him to some other girls that love his height. Don't string him along biko. One man's meat is another man's poison.
    Jst to correct your view.. Most men aren't full of themselves.

  4. Short men are always full of themselves lol stay away abeg it's not worth it. You will end up getting irritated by him and misbehaving. Goodluck

  5. Don't know what to say because am also guilty of the tall guys ish....

    Reading comments...

  6. I don't think u have truly fallen in love before. Cos if its just height the gets u going... Trust me, its not love.

    Meanwhile, u can continue freelancing till when u finally have the mental maturity to take the decision of having a family.

    But they say opportunities come but once, any chance to live a life with love starts anytime, so u plan of not getting married till 5-7 from now is a bit tricky... Wat if after 9-10years from now it doesn't turn out that u are married, desperation comes in.

    All I'm saying is, don't put a date on when to fall in love and subsequently start a family. Give the universe a chance to have a say in Ur life cos in the long run, we all live in it and eventually it will always catch up with us when we least expect.

    1. For the first time in a long time I agree with Uyi, this comment is the truth!!!

    2. Lol... Agreeing with the supervillain huh?

    3. Very well said Uyi, don't put a time on love. I pray you don't get to the point where height will be the least of your worries. And if were so keen on the height thing how did you talk for four months without knowing how short he is?
      Meanwhile, not all guys are full of themselves although I have to say it's more obvious in short rich guys. Some use their money and arrogance to compensate for the lack of inches.
      Sometimes when you think someone is full of himself he might just be confident.

    4. Hehehe yh Uyi,@ kabuoy how body?

    5. For the 1st time also I agree with what uyi said and not all men are full of themselves

    6. Chioma sweetiee! *kisses* I dey o.. this weather just dey soothe my body sootey to wake up early these days don turn hardwork my sister! Hope you're fine... *hugs*

  7. Please dont date out of pity. Since you already feel this way i dont think u'll develop feelings for this guy anytime soon plus the attitude thing with him is gonna be a big problem eventually if you date him.
    All the best in your decision.

  8. Please never date anyone out of pity. However remember love comes in packages designed by God and not man. You said the guy is cute and rich right? Please package his details and send it to me. I have many friends and aburos who are looking for good husbands.

    1. lmao..pynk!that is sooo funny..but u just spoke the truth..
      if u dont like him someone else would.i am taller than my bf and im not ashamed of a matter of fact,he is the best bf ever

  9. When it comes to relationships, nothing, really is cast on stone. Only u can define what u want. But I would advice that u place value on the non physical attributes. I am sure u would have found some form of attraction to engage him in chats for 4 months b4 agreeing to meet in person. U have some questions to ask yourself. If his height is d reason why u don't wanna date him, then it's best to keep the friendship for when u think it will come handy but please don't toil with his emotions. We meet people for various reasons and they all can't end up in relationships. Start with being friends since marriage is not on your mind. You could be of tremendous help to each other. The time of your life, I guess, is still exploring. Be wise.

    1. 1000 likes! Spot on anon! *oya chop kiss*

    2. Thanks guys. I dey blush o.


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