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Her Boyfriend Threw Her a Party Without The Knowledge of Her Husband!!!

When Women Do Wrong….

I have come to realize that marriage does not change people fundamentally.
Marriage is just what it is: A relationship preceded by a ceremony. Marriage doesn’t have the capacity of making sinners saints or saint sinners. A promiscuous woman does not automatically metamorphose to become decent just because she now has a wedding cuff (ring).
Of recent I have seen too many things and heard too many tales from friends who are also facing sexual harassment from other people’s wives and mothers. All these happenings has gotten me jaded.
How does one explain a married woman celebrating her birthday with friends at an event center without the knowledge of her husband? What excuse could she have given her husband to enable her have a 40th birthday bash organised by another man? How can you explain her taking official pictures with a man who was not her husband? The laughter of the guests seemed like evil sounds to me and I couldn’t fathom how they could all condone her behaviour.
The most painful part is the fact that the woman had more than one of her “pokers” at the event and the others took turns to gaze at her admiringly and take pictures.
Sincerely there are many horrible married women around. Do you know they even have cliques, like clubs where their motto is “what will my husband do”???????
I understand that many women desire love, attention and affection and do not readily get same at home but others are glorified prostitutes who crave for material things they cannot afford and so gladly part their thighs in exchange for their palms being oiled.
I have sent this to Mfa to post not just because i like to rant but because i believe some women can still be saved from this evil act. If you are out there and you indulge in these practices please stop. Remember that as a married woman you are an oracle who should be respected and not desecrated.
Remember your children look up to you for direction and your actions will affect their lives. Remember your vows, remember whatever it is that makes you a sane person and desist.
Thanks MFA for allowing me to repost this. This post from was originally titled When Women Do Wrong.
I found it extremely interesting, and amusing (for personal reasons)... I need to ask a question MFA asked her readers; is it possible that “these” women described above were ever good women? Is it possible that their boyfriends, lovers or husbands turned them bad? Or are they merely exhibiting behavioral characteristics that come naturally to them?


  1. I love the way the post started. Runs girls and loose women get married every day, do you think they automatically change just because they now have a ring on their finger? But in most cases of married women in Nigeria irresponsibly having affairs, especially all these ph and abuja women, it is frustration from their husbands that cause it. Most women get married with best intentions but when a husband cheats and neglects you without any remorse, most women start to act the same to keep their sanity.

  2. Women cheat, men cheat. Nobody should be surprised that a married woman is cheating, happens everday. The sad part is when people start to blame husbands when their wives cheat. My question is: Do you blame wives when husbands cheat? A husband cheats and you say its his character. A woman cheats and you say its her husband's fault. Abeg abeg abeg.


  3. Wow, women have become very bold in the wrong way in this our society.

    What a shame, haba, what will youu tell your kids.

  4. True, there's no miracle that happens at the altar. A proud, vain person doesn't automatically become humble just because they are now married. Those characteristics stay and it's left to the individual to change for the sake of family. Most women these days blame their unfaithfulness on their husband. Two wrongs don't make a right, I hear women say that they cheat because their husband is cheating, "if a man can do it then why can't a woman do it too?" As much as I support feminists there are times when I think there has to be a moral boundary. One person has to stay sane, it doesn't have to be the woman. If the man realizes that his actions are making his wife act out then he can decide to be the one to pull back. What we forget is that these actions affect our kids in the long run. They should be our first priority. Sometimes we think they are blind but they are watching and copying everything they see the parents do.

  5. Human beings cheat in relationships it could be the men or the women. The same thing i'll say to a cheating guy is the same thing i'll say to a cheating woman. You made a vow, keep it. Cheating can never be justified.J

  6. Women like that do it cos they chose to ,no husband or boyfriend what so ever should be blamed ,same way women are not to blame when men cheat
    That's the path they have chosen,some do it just for the fun not because their husbands are mean or cheat or don't have their time
    Everyone with what drives him or her and possibly that's theirs

  7. I'm gonna fault a quote here. I think marriage can make a saint become a sinner. I've seen people become a shadow of themselves because of who they married and people end up doing what they vowed never to simply because they want their marriage to work...

    1. Good one sasha bone.

      You really cannot understand unless you wear those shoes. Yes, some men/women are naturally wayward and marriage cannot stop them from being cheats but trust me, there are men/women who started out with good intentions but their spouses made demons out of them. Truly, there are always options to choose from but making a choice in some situations is not so simple.


  8. Why do we judge married people differently though?
    I guess its because they have taken the oath to stick to one.
    I don't want to throw dirt on your blog but, NO is one woman that when I hear her story I weep for married men whose wives cheat.
    It is sickening, its disgusting and absurd.
    When I heard her story i started questioning a lot of things- and still do!


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