Good morning people!
I'm so thankful to God for today, yesterday was beautiful and today would be even better. I have a meeting for 9 at the Beehive but I came an hour too early, and they don't even open till 9! Thankfully the staff are kind enough to let me sit outside while they clean.
So the lady I'm meeting with, she's one of those women who married their long time sweethearts. And you know the thing about long time sweethearts, when the men are that young they are most often broke.
Watching Love Lounge a few nights ago, I heard Mr Kunle Soriyan say that he was still in school when his wife was already working and earning a good salary. What's more; the Mrs was from a very well off family. While he, he was still in school, he spent 9 years on a 4 year course. He was very wretched and didn't even know how to use cutlery. When he ate there was loud clanks and irritating noises, his teeth always fought with the cutlery. Everyone asked her to leave him and be with someone else, a graduate, with a life, and a future, someone more deserving. She refused. Today, he is one of the most successful Life Coaches in the country and is making mega Dutch. Oh, he also cleaned up nicely and is now a bloke.
Another lady, a guest on the show, also already had a fantastic job when Le boo was still in school. She graduated 2 years before him and he had little or nothing. She ignored people's advice to break up the relationship and stuck it out with him. Now they've been married 14 years and of course, dear husband is so much more than a bread winner.
I read a post on SDK on an unemployed 32 y/o guy who still lives at home. He fears his girlfriend of 6 years, who's 30 and employed, would soon leave him. He worries she already cheating on him. Several people said he should leave her alone and allow her marry someone better, while he focuses on building a life. I wonder what the girl is thinking at this point, I mean, in your shoes wouldn't you be tempted to leave? I'm 30 and if I've been with someone since i was 24, yet he's the same person he was six years ago, no visible progress and no change in sight, it would take the grace of God and divine vision to keep me there.
And that's why I'm asking. These women who dated broke, unemployed, scraggy men who later turned into multi millionaires or billionaires, stuck by them and married them, how did they know? How did they know these men were so much more than the eyes could see? We've heard all those stories about the broke guy living off his friends, she was the one who even bought him clothes, fed him, bla bla bla, and voila today, it's turned out to be a brilliant investment... Most of these women knew it would and I'm more than eager to know how.
I'm certain intuition plays a big part but are there more practical factors at play? Is that your situation, your story? How did you know and for us who want to know, how can we tell?
So youngens in the house, before you leave that "broke nigger", think/pray/reflect long and hard. Today's Boy Alinko might just be tomorrow's Aliko Dangote!
*just as an addendum, the guest on Love Lounge said that even though he was still a student and she was working, he gave her pocket money, no matter how little. Also he never demanded or depended on her, even if he didn't have. That's how she knew he was a keeper. Oh, plus she's naturally very intuitive too*
But what about those my sisters who stayed and stuck with them when they had nothing, they stayed on the grind, 'ride or die' chicas, soaking garri until it swells then sprinkle a few groundnuts and then drink it with love... Then when the going got good they were immediately dumped like a hot pan. Raise your hands if you've been there. LOL! I read that only one out of ten men marry the woman who suffered with him when he had nothing. Do you agree?