So apparently there's etiquette for dealings with pregnant women. I only started hearing about this recently, I didn't afore-know. Makes me cringe at the thought of all the times I must have gaffed and asked a pregnant woman questions she considered preposterous or simply innappropraite.
Some months ago I ran into a former classmate at the mall. Although we were never friends, seeing her at the lush mall in Lagos, a far cry from the backward primitive life of Bagauda, Kano, I was overwhelmed with excitement and stretched out to hug her. The lady placed her hand on her swollen bump and quickly recoiled from me, like I'd waved a machete before her belly. Honestly that hurt, I quickly concluded the greetings and walked away.
Everyone I mentioned the incident to (not her actual details but the general gist of attempting to hug a pregnant woman who shrank back), says you can't blame her... this is Nigeria, anything can happen... Maybe her pastor warned her against people touching her belly etc etc etc.
Speaking of touching the bellies of pregnant women, is this another no no? I watched too many Nollywood movies and saw how a fetus could turn into a tuber of yam just by a simple placing of a hand on the mother's belly. So with this carved in my memory I'm always mindful of touching pregnant women's bellies, lest I freak them out. In fact as I write this I realize that I'm all my sister's pregnancies, past and present, I've never touched her belly.
Oh, I also often ask; when is your due date? Something blogger/vlogger Sisi Yemmie says you absolutely mustn't ask. Hmmm. I think this is a harmless question. I'm probably asking, not because I care to know the actual date, but because I want to know when we'll receive the pleasure of welcoming your little one.
Still, apparently some women have a problem with telling you, so you don't... I really don't know what they're worried about.
Well, these are the things Sisi Yemmie says you shouldn't say to a pregnant woman
I think some of these are absolutely harmless but I could be wrong. Mothers and Mothers to be, please tell us, what's are the worst things that someone can say to, or ask a pregnant woman? What should we never say or do around a pregnant woman. Has anyone done or said something particularly inappropriate to you during your pregnancy? Please share with us. Thank you.
Also, are all these fears/rules/"etiquettes" peculiar to Nigerian/African women, is it simply "Nigerian mentality", or is it universal?