Skip to main content

Living My Life Like There's No God.

"I think that we are using religion to our own detriment. I mean... actively waiting on Jesus to save us...".  

The hit TV series Being Mary Jane is filled with so many thought provoking quotes, each episode begins with one. But the deepest quotes can be found in the series' dialogue, especially season 2. Season 2 began with a scene that had Mary Jane sitting in her living room, having an intellectual yet lighthearted conversation with her closest friends. That singular scene is very informative, the banter while entertaining, serves as an eye-opener (as does the rest of the show). But one of the many lines that resonated with me was the one above. 

I'm a religious person, also a spiritual being. But after my morning devotion one morning several months ago, I got off my knees and found myself asking myself some hard questions. I was in a place where (I felt) life wasn't being too kind and I didn't seem to be getting the things I wanted or thought I deserved. I had tried, prayed and fasted, prayed and fasted... 
     As I got on my feet that morning realization dawned. Was this belief/faith in God/Religion counter-productive? Had my reliance on a greater, supernatural Being made me lazy? If I wasn't waiting for an Almighty, all powerful miraculous God to come down and save me, wouldnt I grab life by the horns, pursue my goals with singleminded focus, determination and chutzpah? 

If I knew that everything; my daily bread, all my success, achievements and the attainments of my goals relied solely on me, wouldn't I, armed with this knowledge, stand on my own two feet, look inwards for strength and inspiration, look outwards for profitable collaborations, strong networks and ruthlessly make use of every resource available? Wouldn't my life be more productive, more notable?

"Do your best and leave the rest to God" is one of the popular mantras in Nigeria. But how often is our "best" even really that good? And what if there was no God to leave the rest to? Wouldn't you make sure that your "best" leaves no room for failure or wanting?

I think of times I've studied halfheartedly, written exams and expected a great God to come and wave his wand and turn a C paper to an A. I think of times I could have been out there, chasing down my dreams and beating down people's doors, but I stayed home because I believed in a miraculous God that would send my "helper" to my room, who would magically turn my life around. I think of times I could have made moves but instead chose to pray, strongly believing that faith moves mountains but conveniently forgetting that faith without works is dead. 

I remember my very intellectual friend Chimdi, who's a christian by the way, saying a few years ago; "why are Nigerians so crazy about God and religion? Is there any street in Nigeria where there isn't one church? Yet look at the state of things. Then take a look at the wealthiest nations; UAE, Hong Kong, USA, Singapore etc and tell me how many of them are christian countries or so high on religion. Doesn't it tell you something?" 

It sure does.

I believe in God. I believe in miracles, I have been a frequent recipient of His miraculous blessings. I believe that God has the best intentions for me. But the day I made a conscious decision to live like there's no God, to live like I am completely on my own, solely responsible for my success, my future and my destiny, that I alone am the author of my success story, was the day I sat up, got up and went to get it. My life has been considerably productive ever since. 

Sure, there are things in our lives we have no control over. Those are best handed over to God (for those who believe there's a God). But for those which we can do, let us do, and do spiritedly. 

Some of us, either religious or otherwise, have been wise and strong enough to grab life like a big juicy orange, and with our own hands squeeze it of every drop. But not all of us. Let's not use religion to our own detriment. 

Have a beautiful Sunday guys!



    Have a beautiful Sunday Thelma.

  2. Thanks dear T, I guess we all need a wake up call especially at these periods of uncertainties.

    Anyhoo T pls post MAMAwards red carpet photos or even their instagram photos let's gist fashion pls. I doubt dey'd deliver tho

  3. Replies
    1. Me!? I won't just say anything.... As in ehn I don't know how much I can...*deep breath* you know what, Let me just keep quiet and let the post itself continue doing the communication.

  4. This comment has been removed by the author.

  5. You said it already, faith without works is dead. You have to work and work hard for what you want in life but you have to believe in a higher power or in yourself if not all efforts will come to nought. Greatness and success doesn't come without challenges, how you respond to life's challenges determines your success or failure.
    There are two sides to every coin, there are people that are extremely successful due to unquestionable faith in God. They believe that they can do all things through Christ who strengthens them and with that faith in their subconscious they have the courage to take on whatever life throws at them and they come out on top.
    At the end of the day, as a man thinketh in his heart so is he. You are what you believe, be it in yourself or a higher power. How you apply that belief is what makes you differ from the next person.

    1. 'as a man thinketh in his heart so is he'.
      You've said it al .

  6. Happy Sunday T and everyone. Have a blessed Sunday.

  7. my dad will always tell me to pray like everything depended on it and when I work, I should do so diligently like I didn't pray, so I concur.

    meanwhile I had to pause at chutzpah and run to my dictionary.... been long I learnt a new english word, just drugs, drugs and more drugs so tnx for that.
    Happy sunday everybody, have a great one!

    1. So what does the word mean?

    2. Sasha bone no get dictionary. Smh.

  8. Thanks Tee. Have a fabulous Sunday.

  9. Happy sunday T and all BVs. I've collected my cake thanks a lot T and Sonia.

  10. It's so true. People depend on religion so much, looking up to the sky and forgetting to look around them. I just wrote something similar on my blog:


Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Turia Pitt Suffered 65% Burns But Loved Conquered All...

Amazing Story Shared by Dr. Ben Carson on Facebook, i thought it is inspiring and i decided to share;

The Australian ex-model Turia Pitt suffered burns to 65 per cent of her body, lost her fingers and thumb on her right hand and spent five months in hospital after she was trapped by a grassfire in a 100 kilometre ultra-marathon in the Kimberley. Her boyfriend decided to quit his job to care for her recovery. 
Days ago, in an interview for CNN they asked him:
"Did you at any moment think about leaving her and hiring someone to take care of her and moving on with your life?"

His reply touched the world:

"I married her soul, her character, and she's the only woman that will continue to fulfill my dreams."

This made me very reflective. I just wonder; if the person you love today encounters an incident or accident that transforms who they are physically, it could be amputation, it could be paralysis, it could be severe burns that scald their flesh beyond recognition, w…


Good morning people! 
Just checking in to sign the register. Lol. It's been a very busy week and it looks like it might be an even busier weekend. I was hoping to get some writing done when I got to the airport yesterday but I even almost missed my flight. It was hopeless trying to do any work on the plane as it was bumpy af, and this toddler behind me wouldn't stop screaming in piercing shrieks like he was being exorcised. 
I got into town pretty late and needed to keep an appointment ASAP. I'm heading out right now and it's going to be a long day, but thought I should drop this first. 
Have a splendid day. Im'ma be back soon.

One More Post...


He was my coursemate, crush, then my boyfriend.... he was super
intelligent, smart, tall, dark and handsome. Believe me he got
swag, but he didn't seem to notice me. (I'm a nerd but a sassy one
if I say so myself).  So oneday I decided to take it to another level..
After listening to a song "IF YOU LOVE SOMEBODY TELL THEM THAT YOU
LOVE THEM and watching the season film of The Secret Life of
American Teenagers. ..when Amy Jeugerns mum told her "you are only
young once". LOL that part got me.
Hope you know what i mean?

Though I'm okay with chemistry class I approached him to coach me for
the Quiz that was coming up, we found out that we had this
great chemistry between us.. hehehe both the covalent and
electrovalent bonds....

So one thing led to another till one unusual Saturday. I invited
him to my house and he came. The guy got swag, he even came
with a packet of durex condom.
We talked for a while and and and and and and
See how you are serious dey read this story....!


A side chick is commonly known as a mistress or a woman that’s romantically involved with a man who is in a committed relationship.  However after doing some reflecting, I realize that’s not the only type of side chick.  I want to discuss “the new side chick”–a woman who decides to stay by a man’s side after he has expressed his lack of relationship intentions with her through his words or actions.  So many women have made this mistake at least once in their lifetime, and unfortunately I’ve done the same thing. I like to think of the new side chick as an appetizer.  You’re there just to satisfy the immediate appetite of the man, but as soon as that mouth-watering entrée comes out to the table, you will get pushed to the side, literally.  Why?  Because that entrée is what he really wanted; he went to the restaurant to order steak, not hot wings.  You were just a placeholder, fling, temporary commitment, or  maybe even just a “good ol time” until what he really wanted was presented to hi…


I'm in an amebo mood tonight. Don't ask me, I honestly don't know why. Also I'd like to share too but I'd do that anonymously in the comment section. Tonight I want to talk about secrets. It's ok, we can all be anonymous. 
Is it true that EVERYBODY has a secret? 
Is there anyone here who doesn't have a secret? I'd really like to know; You're a completely open book and there's not ONE thing about you that you wouldn't mind other people knowing about? Please raise your hands up. 
And for the rest of us, what's something about you that no one knows, or very few people know? Who's got a dark secret here, or a weird one, or a funny one even? I really don't mean to be invasive but I don't want to be the only one sharing, plus I think hearing other people's secrets is quite fun, don't you think?

Let's Be Random Together! (Open Keypad).

Hey guys, a while back blog reader F said something about creating an Open Keypad post, where you can write whatever you want in the comment section. I thought it was a fun idea!
So who is interested? Comment on anything you feel like, ask me or anyone a question, talk about how your day went, your job, your interests, tell us something about you that we don't know, share a testimony with us, rant about anything you feel like, talk about your crush/boo/spouse/relationship/marriage, challenges you're facing, ANYTHING AT ALL! 
I'll only make one request; that we stay civil. 

(F it was you who made this suggestion, right? I'm not too sure and I can't even remember the post the comment was made on). 
BTW please Ejoeccome out come out, wherever you are!

Question of The Day.

TTB readers doesn't this tweet below remind you of something?
That mail that someone sent me a few weeks back. 
But why on earth should a man sleep with his son's fiancé? But what am I saying, some men even sleep with their daughters...

Oh well, I'm throwing the question to you. What has happened in your life that you never saw coming, you never hesperred it, you never imagined could happen, you never imagined could happen to you? 
It could be good, it could be bad, it could be ugly. Do tell!
And it can be more than one. Let me tell you a few. 
-owning a blog -week long dry fast at Prayer City (I never hesperred it).  -staying in an (emotionally) abusive relationship.
The others require anonymity. LOL. Now over to you.

Adventures, Fun, Friendship & Laughter at the TTB Hangout (Lekki Conservation Center).

Nicole to Clare: mummy lets go. I want to climb that ropy thing!

Isn't Clare beautiful?!

Uyi et moi. Clowning. 

Mother & child. 

Scary af! Trish on the ramp. The chica loves the outdoors so much, she was like a kid in a candy store. She and Uyi took this walk twice! More power to them, you can't pay me to do this a second time.

Uyi & Tiwa