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Love or Money...




Lifetitudes asked a question days ago. Which would you rather have; love or money?

Answers were split but I'm certain I said money, and added that the absence of money turns love sour. 

And I still stand by my answer. If I had to choose between money and love, I would choose money over love. I figure I've lived without love most of my adult life and it's never really bothered me or affected anything. Want to make me sad/mad/bad (that bad is as irrelevant as the K in Know but whatever...!); mess with my money and it's source. 

But this comment I saw on Bella Naija a while ago made me rethink...

"On another note, i wish my dad was just an average man who would come back home and make his family happy rather than the monster money has turned him into. Thus, i would rather me and my family drank garri in peace and love than the fried rice that actually tastes bitter now."

Or let me share this comment from a 2013 TTB post

"Money is not everything. On the outside everybody thinks I'm happy because of all the expensive cars, big house and traveling a lot but they don't know that I'm dying inside. DH doesn't even talk to me talkless of taking me out. Sometimes I wish I was still single". 

Hmmm, ladies and gentlemen, would you rather have true love or money?



Comments

  1. I can manage the pendulum of the heart but can't afford to go on several reluctant fasts. Money all the way.

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  2. Money rules period!!!!
    That 1st comment only feels dat way cos he/she imagines life wud b beta soaking garri but when the reality of that sets in he/she will beg and cry for that fried rice. Experience is the best teacher. And that comment was probably made by a young soul.
    As for the second comment, it has absolutely nothing to do with money abeg. Ur hubby isn't talking to u is family issue so leave my precious money out of it. Who says a poor man will always talk 2 u and take u out. Storryyyy!!!!! Beta 2 lament on a private jet o jare!!!
    MONEY MONEY MONEY!!!

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    1. Chop knuckle for that comment.

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  3. Thelma has asked a similar question in this blog before and about 80% of the women chose money. I strongly disagree with this stance and I find it a bit sad that y'all can say this proudly. TTBVs are generally smart folks so y'all come up with all these sleek justifications as to why you chose money but this is a simple matter. I'm sure when we were growing up, we were all taught that money cant buy happiness and all other related cliches.
    And Thelma, I disagree that without money, love turns sour. Those girls you talked about in the previous post, they probably didnt know the dudes will blow up - unless they consulted Primate Ayodele. They just loved what they loved without factoring in money and love rewarded them...gotta stop here cos I could go on for days. I've missed y'all

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    1. "Anyone who says money can't buy happiness doesn't know where to shop" - Blair Woldof

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    2. I totally love Blair Woldof and Chuck Bass! And that quote is very apt, Sasha bone. Thank you!

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    3. seriously, the person doesn't know were to shop abeg

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    4. yaa well, I said it didnt I. I knew I'd wake up this morning to see a sleek response..but thats just what it is..sleek. Its just pretty without the 'r'. We all know money cant buy true love & happiness there's no getting around that.

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  4. Money is a mindset, ,money is a visitor, understand that even if you have all the money in the world, it isn't really yours and could be taken away at any time. In that instant all you have left is love... if you cultivated any in your life. We don't seem to understand the concept of love, it's not just the love between man and woman, it's the love between you and everyone you come in contact with. Life would be meaningless without love. I think the only way we would pick money over love is if we're not grateful and content with what we have now and work towards getting more.
    Reminds me of something I read... Please forgive me for this but indulge me...

    And how will I act? I will love all manners of men for each has qualities to be admired even though they be hidden. With love I will tear down the wall of suspicion and hate which they have built round their hearts and in its place will I build bridges so that my love may enter their souls.
    I will love the ambitious for they can inspire me; I will love the failures for they can teach me. I will love the kings for they are but human; I will love the meek for they are divine. I will love the rich for they are yet lonely; I will love the poor for they are so many. I will love the young for the faith they hold; I will love the old for the wisdom they share. I will love the beautiful for their eyes of sadness; I will love the ugly for their souls of peace..."
    The line that got me is I would love the rich for they are yet lonely...

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    1. Shakespeare...?

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    2. Nah, Og Mandino... The book is called "The Greatest Salesman in The World"

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  5. Money....that which answereth all things! Of course I would want a combination of both but if I must choose, money is it. With good money, I could command all the love I want (fake or not). I have seen too many hitherto good relationships hit the rock as a result of lack of money.

    Here, I assume the money would belong to me and not a situation of total dependence on a spouse's wealth while I'm a broke ass.

    -F

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    1. nope, the question is basically asking if you'd pick a rich dude who you have no feelings for over a poor or relatively less affluent dude who you truly love. If anyone goes for the former, then he/she - I dont care how nice they are - is materialistic and needs to work on it. #HostileGospel

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    2. Forgive me for not restricting my response to the situation you pictured. More so, I've already answered the question, maybe not explicitly enough. Permit me to answer this way: I see no reason I should marry a man strictly for his money (this must be the situation for the lady Thelma quoted above). On a very personal note, I am too independent-minded and highly opinionated to depend solely on a man's wealth and not have my own money.

      What are we even talking about? Must the woman be always dependent on the man? Who says the woman cannot be wealthier?

      -F

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    3. All I need is a lady that thinks like F in my life. I will be dead before I even think about thinking of Cheating on her(wife). I don't need u 'depending' on me, in short be better than me.

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  6. I went through an ordeal recently and all the money in the world couldn't save me or get me out of it, the only thing I had going for me was the love of my family and close friends (even if they are quite few). I realized something very valuable and I came out of that ordeal a different person, never take the love you have in your life for granted. Money can only get you so far. My SO wants to marry me, not because I'm rich but because she knows that no matter how rich I get I won't take her love for granted and I will always love her. This brings me to another point, only selfish people value money more than love. They don't want money because they want to make other lives better. They want it because they want to cry in a private jet, how does crying in a private jet make things better? People will hail you that you have a private jet, but at that time all you wish for is people who love you genuinely and don't just hail you because of what they can get from you.

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    1. On another note, I noticed that a lot of criticism is being thrown around carelessly. Please before we criticize anyone again let's read Dale Carnegie's How To Win Friends And Influence People, we'll learn the real dangerous effects of criticism on one's psyche and how much more effective encouragement can be. We talk about developing a thick skin and ignoring critics but we can't ignore the toll constant criticism takes on our subconscious minds. Someone accused another of being defensive, that's a natural reaction to criticism. No matter how much you criticize someone the person will never admit being wrong. Instead you breed resentment and hate.
      Let's stop trying to tear each other down so we can feel better about ourselves please. Let's spread love people, please.

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    2. 50Shades...?

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    3. Yes 50Shades...

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    4. I'm so with your 4.20pm post! I just don't want to express myself now but I totally feel love is more important than money. In as much as we crave for money(we don't have yet) it sure has a Threshold.

      For me, Fall in love with your career and don't fall in love with the money that comes with it. The moment you start following the money, u start losing your humanity.
      That's just my opinion.

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  7. C.R.E.A.M...

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  8. Love over every thing please, if love comes with the money, c'est bon(I know love is sensible enough to come in good package)

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  9. Love conquers all. But not hungry love biko.

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  10. *singing* whether nah one naire, whether nah one million, baby you got me.... baby you got me... ..whether or not you get money... i'll stay with you if you stay with me *whistling*

    This question.. imma answer it in 2 ways.

    Now if you're saying I should choose between Love and money... i.e in a situation whereby there would always be love and no money lai lai to lai lai in the relationship.... i'll choose money

    But if you're saying I should choose between love or money based on the now... girl! love all the way because of the faith I have that things would definitely get better.

    Truth is...love without money has a high risk of going sour fast in the first scenario... but the hope that it'll get better keeps you going in the second one.

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