"What God has joined together,let no man put asunder" this is a saying I have heard at every wedding ceremony I have attended and I have been to quite a number of them.
It's funny how people attribute certain activities to God, activities that he has no hand in, I will not be suprised if by the time we get to heaven, people would have lied more with God than they have done with the devil..but I will come back to that.
The thing that has baffled me so much is that, are we all made to marry? Or let me rephrase are we all marriage material? Marriage is a huge commitment and blah blah blah women decide to stick to one man, all through their lives wake up to d same man and sleep with the same man,surrender all your wits and will, independence to that Man especially in Africa, your career choice, your dress sense everything is about satisfying this man.
As for the men, you are expected to do the same except take orders from your spouse, Sounds sweet yea! I know,like a comedian once said the sweet thing about marriage is you dont have to worry about a break up.
The question is are we all made to marry? Before you hastily say yes,hear me out, Now you will agree with me that all humans are made differently, even psychology identifies all sorts of character traits, the sanguine,the choleric and co..bottom line we all have different characters, some like me are fiercely independent, others need to depend on someone to survive, some others need a partner to share the burden. We can't all fit into the same shoes, into d same set of laws, even in schools some still drop out, why do we then put the burden of marriage on everyone! They end up getting married and become regular stars on an episode of "Cheaters". I used to know a guy, God rest his soul was never faithful to his wife for a minute and yes there are guys who will never cheat on their women.
This is just a pointer to the fact that, Some people can never be faithful while some can never cheat meaning not all of us are Made to Marry! Some women will not hand over their independence for anything it's not their fault they were simply not made to marry.
This unfair society gladly places the burden of marriage on us all and some people fail woefully,some others manage to pass in sadness being miserable for most of their lives others just drop out. Marriage should be seen as an optional institution,like the university, all the kids go in there some don't even know why they are there, others take a course they hate and end up managing to pass while they could have been excellent students had they studied something else. Some other students have no business being in the university, they should have learnt a craft or focused on business!
Just my take on this issue. As for the what God has joined together part,Hmmm a lot of people join themselves together and then say God joined them as far as I am concerned, if he didn't join you anyone can put asunder but if God did join you, Well,lucky you #just saying#
I know it looks like I'm all over the place with this,but the essence is this,All kids cannot be forced to study and graduate,All kids cannot be forced to study medicine.Some need to study Biochemistry,some others Law and so on.Even the bible doesn't make marriage cumpolsory,it says it is not good for a man to be alone,let's make him a help mate,Let's critically examine that passage.Are all women capable of being help mates? Some are not,that's my point.
Apostle Paul says, Marry so you will not be a serial fornicatior,he didn't even get married because he could afford not to, he went further to advise that if you cannot discipline yourself, go and marry!
I don't know the Quran take on this issue but I do know if all men were made to marry some people won't have to marry four (just saying). Age isn't a criteria at all, the minute you attain puberty just offend your mother or father or aunties the next thing you'd hear is,"your Mates are getting married".
God help you that you now marry and not have kids, you are in trouble.
Please agree with me or at least follow my line of thought that, Marriages will last longer and people will live happily ever after for real if we let only those made for marriage get married.Afterall even the society arrests quacks.