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On Proposals (Jide Obanikoro's et al...)

The addendum cracked my smile; that this would be his first marriage but he's got four kids from three different baby mamas, according to Linda Ikeji's blog... Isn't that too much baggage for a new bride, a young woman at that...?
But I'm smiling nonetheless. Because of the picture on the right. I love that she's in a caftan and he's in a casual Tshirt and they're laid back, home chilling, like normal people. Not some elaborate fanfares that I see on social media, most taken after the couples are even already engaged... This is so real. I like! 

That's not to say that all elaborately done proposals are a farce, but I just kinda fell in love with this. 

And you know I've got to ask the Mrs in the house, how did 'dear husband' propose? Or did he even proposal at all? You know the way some people just ease into relationships without any actual  discussions, a few people just ease into engagements; "we knew we were going to get married anyway so when the time was right his people came to see my people and we started planning the wedding" (ladies what do you think about that?)... Let's talk about how he proposed to you. Tell us how you proposed to her.

And for us single ladies, how would you like to be proposed to?

...For me, that picture above is my ideal proposal. In my house, in a pair of shorts and holey Tshirt and no makeup on. Just me, you and maybe my family.

BTW congrats to Jide Obanikoro and Fatima Garba. 


  1. Mine was in a nice Chinese restaurant. I had decoded that he wanted to propose...but was still shocked when he did. It's was nice and intimate. He got down on one knee and was sooo nervous he put the ring on the right hand...Loool. SBHM

  2. In as much as I feel the 4 kids the guy has would be real wahala somehow, I just had to accept that she is a grown woman, and she should at least be aware of what she's getting herself into.. So no need for me to worry, every mallam to his kettle...
    Very very cute couple by the way!!
    I just realized I haven't really given much thought to how I would love to be proposed to,now that I think of it, I would just love a chilled kind with my family and friends all there, in a restaurant maybe,just indoors, not outdoors biko, I would just freeze on the spot.. Lol.

  3. She is grown and should know what she is getting into. HML to them.

    My husband took me out to a fancy dinner at the intercon - food was horriblr and i kept feeling the ring box and asked him if it if it was a ring. He took me back to his house and proposed. No public proposal for me...dont care much for those.

  4. We were together in d room n he said "so I got something for u" n brought out d ring. I was surprised n excited though I suspected cos he had already hinted it

  5. We strolled to the jewelers place, I saw what I liked, he paid, slipped on the ring, then went for lunch.

    I keep telling him he never proposed, all is just film trick. The real one is brewing. Lol.

    4 kids is a handful. But that's none of my biz. Wish them plenty love.

  6. My cousin was in the club with his fiance, he'd been carrying the ring in his car for weeks but didn't have the courage, so he got real drunk, went back to the car to get the ring then came back in and handed it to her then shouted in her ear, "na mariage o!" When she woke up that morning she didn't remember what happened cos she drank too much, then she noticed the ring and started screaming.

    1. Lmao@na marriage o!Your cousin is a clown

    2. Now that's the kind of engagement I like... Something I might do.

  7. The hubs pretty much said from the first time I gave him audience that he wanted to marry me. He asked me formally after an intimate dinner at some cool 'abe igi' spot one evening. Just us. I honestly don't remember what I said to him. But it was the way I said yes that was more intriguing. I bought him a pair of shoes, wrote yes in one of the legs and presented them to him. He it was who was pleasantly surprised. He was so excited and squealing like a young girl! 16yrs ago. Inserts smiley face!!

    1. Awwwwwn!!!! This is my best! *shines teeth*

    2. Aawwwwww. Y'all are making me so emotional this morning.

  8. I'm sooo over this proposal thing jare....

  9. How do I want to be proposed to.... Well.... Somewhere private(preferably home) with family and my closest friends. If anybody proposes to me in public I just might forget to say yes out of shock and shyness

  10. Meanwhile le boo is such a public person. He made me come for his birthday thanksgiving at his catholic chapel and I had to dance to the front. I'm not even catholic o... Meanwhile I got to church late and had to sit in the front with some elderly women that were looking at me like who is this person...

  11. I would just faint or run away if I was publicly proposed to (so much for the 'super woman' in

    My husband made it known from day one that he wanted marriage.As a matter of fact, the wooing was an outright proposal just that there was no ring. He began with a story of a certain man who fell in love with a young lady he was mentoring. He loved her so deeply that he would want to marry her but it wasn't an ideal situation (the two families were very close; mentor-mentee situation etc). What would I advise the man to do? In my care-free attitude, I just responded 'he should make his feelings known to the lady. If she accepts, fine but if otherwise, at least he asked and he wouldn't end up beating himself for not asking'. He then revealed he was the man and I the girl. I was shocked because I (and everyone in my league then) always looked at him high up there. Why me? My response? I ran away and avoided him like mad for days but the rest today is history.


  12. I'm not particular about the how and the where of the proposal...anyway its done would be fine by me.

    What I really desire is the medium of proposal. I don't care much for rings, especially the none fashion kind. So dear future husband just in case you ever stumble upon this (one in a zillion chance of that happening though), I want a platinum anklet. That way you know I'll never stray too far away no matter how much I'm tempted.

    To the couple pictured above, four children from 3 baby mamas, meaning that one was probably a serious kind of affair if not all. Issokay! I'm sure the babe factored it all in and decided she was up to it. I For one, wouldn't take on that kind of challenge for a lifetime.
    May their union be blessed with all good things.

  13. Mine still leaves me blushing with shame....He came to my house at 4am in the morning after a trip outside the country, In my mind he had missed me and couldn't wait to see me.

    It was a work day and I had just come out from the bathroom with a towel still tied on, my sisters were already dying from excitement but I still ask myself how I didn't realize what was about to happen. Before I knew it, omo boy was kneeling down to ask for my hand o, I just started laughing and crying the same time.

    The rest as they say is history.

  14. I think I wld like mine very private. So private that I wldnt even see it happen like in Diary of a Mad Black Woman. Slip it on my finger and shock me with it then go on ur knees and start the speech...

    1. Is the speech necessary?...... Just a question o!

  15. Just tell me genuinely and sincerely you love me. ring or no ring. too old for drama

  16. I would love a private proposal@tiwa me is blushing at your proposal oh

  17. Mine was on my birthday, Hubby told his friends to call me, and quite a number of them called, then he told me he was out of,Lagos.. i got back home from work, he opened d gate for me and just said Oya bring your hand and he slipped the ring in...

  18. I knew from the moment I saw him I was going to marry him.... He went to see my parents and asked for their permission first then just chipped it in the following week when we were together...."babe you will marry be abi" lol and I said "before nko". I chose my ring myself

  19. Mine was at home in bed on a Saturday morning. We were just talking about random things not ready to get out of bed when he went down on one knee, and said " baby I love you so much and am glad to have seen something in you which other men seem not to see, you deserve the best and I am just a work in progress but can you marry someone like me.?" I said "yes" and later that day we went out to get the ring. I chose the ring I wanted and he paid for it.

  20. I'd prefer when it is just me and him alone. If not I will just faint from shyness lol

  21. I always had in mind a proposal was about to happen and since we were planning to travel to Paris at that time, I concluded it would be there, but I got a shocker, which now that I look back, I love it, because I was utterly surprised. I walked in ready for us to head out to the airport, and as I opened the door, he came smiling towards me, held my face, said all the mushy things there is to say, knelt down and asked me. When I said yes he brought out the ring and that was how our travel turned to an "engagement moon". I was so happy because he managed to surprise a curious mind like me........UGO

    1. Lmao @ engagement moon. There's nothing I won't hear

  22. Hubby n I are very private individuals, so I was expecting a private proposal o just me n him. Only for my birthday to come n we suggested we go karting just me n him o, I even purchased d deal on dealdey myself like 2 days before my birthday, only for us to get to get-arena and saw my family n friends waiting, it was very surprising cuz I didn't see them at once, u know something like walking into a place n then u see a familiar face clueless me was still saying ah babe see so so n person o, I honestly thot they came on their own n then another familiar face before I knew oh it was a party for me o, I was so shy cuz I never expecterit, he proposed while we were karting. I wanted to send some pics to the blog sef but am too shy n private to do so. I had fun, still thinking on how to surprise h too o cuz I couldn't believe I could be surprised.


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