Today was one of those days... Quite frankly I'm too exhausted to put it in words, and that's one thing I've prayed for, let my days be so busy and productive that I come back at night and crawl into bed, too exhausted to think!
However it wasn't work all the way. Everything work related ended at about 3pm. 3pm was when my friend's driver came to pick me up and take me to Marcopolo to meet up with him (but I still had to wait!)
Marcopolo makes great Chinese and the service was pretty fantastic too, but they could season their chicken better IMHO. Lunch was over, we both had meetings to attend but mine wasn't to be for another hour. So my "date" asks 'do you want to make some money this afternoon?' My mind races in several directions but he immediately clarifies; 'come for my meeting with me as my lawyer, do the negotiations. If he agrees to your terms then you get a percentage'. Oh dear.
Now the meeting in question was over a JVA worth several millions. I didn't know ANYTHING about it. Bros said he would give me the general gist on our drive there (Marcopolo to Sailors Lounge is barely three minutes) and when I get there I should "just wing it", but I should "make sure not to fuck it up".
I'm ashamed to say I chickened out of it. I kept telling myself just go, just talk like you don't care and keep a poker face... But, bottomline is I chickened out. We would be doing other businesses together but with those at least I'd be more prepared.
Quick stopover at Ebeano and then for this other meeting. It's those ones you wonder why it wasn't just held over the phone. Aaaaargh!
Back for a quick change, I'm so happy to see my children, plus I needed that work out after mounds of very calorific rice, sugary sauces and dumplings (you notice my belly is swollen?), and children don't need a reason to jump like a bunch of loonies, so jump we did! (I ate way too much and I was only getting started).
The later part of the evening, darn I would like to give details but I know the parties involved would read this. One is an IT guru that works with Oracle, the other works with Mobil. My host was actually Mr Mobil, Mr Oracle is his bff.
We were having a really swell evening amidst fish barbecues, bottles of Heineken and Shania Twain in the background. Then Mr Oracle says to me
'Are you... Are you... Do you think you are almost an introvert?'
'I am an introvert' I say proudly, I might have as well beat my hands on my chest!
'Oh' surprised 'I didn't want to say it outrightly, didn't want to offend you'
'Why would that offend me? I AM an introvert. What's wrong with that? Why are you asking by the way?'
'It's just that... You're actually boring'
In my life no one has ever said that to me. They may have thought it, but they've never said it to me. I wasn't surprised either, I'm really quiet and it's easy to forget I'm there most times. Still... I wasn't being quiet, I was actually making real efforts to be chatty and chip in every now and then.
'I've talked about so many things tonight and an interesting person would have actually contributed more, like, taken the gist to so many different levels, in fact by now we would be talking about things totally unrelated to the original topic and we wouldn't even know how we got there. But you, you just...' he scoffs and shrugs. His tone is accusatory, with a hint of disdain.
'Well, I'm quiet but I would have you know that some people think I'm very interesting. In fact my boo often says I'm very fun to be with!'
'You?' pointing at me. 'You? He must have mistaken you for someone else' Mr Oracle says dismissively.
Ah! Kilo n śe bobo yi gan? Hmmmmph! 'Yes me, and he knows me better than you so he's naturally a better authority'.
'I doubt it, but whatever...' He shrugs.
He expected me to take offense but I actually found it amusing. Still I had to clear the air (Thelma, defender of Introverts)
I would do a more indepth post on introversion soon but let me just say...
We aren't (necessarily) boring, we just like to connect on a more intimate level. (when I said "we" they said I make it sound like we have a club. LOL, yeah I took it personal!)
We prefer deep conversations and are both inept at and uninterested in small talk.
We prefer our own company to anyone else's
Large crowds and people in large numbers drain us
We are unlikely to contribute to a conversation being had by a group of people
We don't like being the centre of attention, we almost hate it even.
We think and think before we say anything and sometimes by the time we're ready to talk the convo has moved on to other things (nawa for us sha) so most times we end up saying nothing (SMH).
We have some of the most brilliant minds but if you're impatient (like Mr Oracle) you'll miss that.
During my tirade, Mr Mobil inserts; well just do you, as long as you're happy.
And I couldn't agree more. I'm happy.
LOL. My happiness is only tainted by my chickening out earlier today. Professionally I'm a trained mediator and conciliator, but not a negotiator. But should I have just taken a risk and winged it, regardless of if I "fucked" it up? At worst they would have looked at me like who is this effete idiot? (But life would go on). At best I would have made an impact (and) some cool cash and have a fatter bank account.
Oh well, spilled milk.
I will end this post by saying introverts are not boring. We are just the most misunderstood set of people out here *sobs*.
I'm curious to know. What's your personality type? What are the traits you love most and least about your personality type? And, do you consider yourself an interesting person?
*feel free to respond when you wake up. Good night my dearests.*