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Petty Exs? Be The Judge.

Haha! What's with these Exs that keep asking for stuff back? 

Sometimes we do things that surprise even ourselves. Something similar happened with a close friend of mine. *Chioma used to be very overweight, like a size 20 or 22. Naturally it affected her self-confidence. She was in a really good relationship though, and Le boo was crazy about her. She was very happy that in spite of her weight she had a great guy who loved her and found her sexy. Still, she couldn't shake the feeling that even though he never complained, he found slimmer gurls attractive.  

She then went on a diet and started to exercise vigorously with some Jillian Micheals videos and eventually dropped to half her size. She came back to Nigeria after her Masters and was a totally transformed person, mentally and physically. Unlike the likes of me and a few others that lose the booty and boobies when we lose a little weight, Chioma didn't lose those and as such had this banging hour glass body (Think a slimmer Toolz). Of course she started to get a lot of attention from guys and once admitted that she was beginning to feel like she was too good for le boo.
    Eventually Chioma who had never cheated before found herself cheating with someone whom she felt was more worthy of the new her. 

The whole thing makes me wonder if we're with certain people because we unconsciously or subconsciously feel that that's the best we can do, and when our status or standing is elevated, we'll look at them and think you ain't shit. 

I can't say I blame Chioma or that poster's wife, I've never lived their reality. I just think that if someone stuck with you at your worst, they deserve you at your best. Reading this, I can't blame that girl who said she feeds her boyfriend fat because she's worried that if he loses weight he'll become too good for her and dump her. LOL. 

So back to the post, If you were the Judge in this matter, and this man comes to you for an order asking his wife to reimburse the surgery money, would you grant it to him or not? And why? Do tell. 


  1. This is how I see it, he stuck with her when everyone else rejected her. Then he realized that she could even look better than she did with a little work and investment, now he invested in her and she's refused him the dividends. It was his idea, his intellectual property and he has a right to profit from it. Or at least get his investment back. At all at all na bad market.
    Ladies who are significantly overweight, please try to lose weight before you agree to marry anyone. Don't marry someone because you think no one else would want you. This is what happens when others start to give you attention, you'll start wondering if you could have done better and that's the beginning of the end.

    1. Lol,so people like me who feel the right weight at the right places wld come after childbirth shld get myself knocked up before I marry? Just kidding...

    2. I agree with steele, or
      He could hand her name to a babalawo, they'll make her regain all the lost fat.

      *tongue firmly in cheek*

    3. Hehehe@handing her name to a babalawo. That could work in our dear Africa.

  2. hahahahaha this is so funny o. In a fair world, it would be unfair for anyone to deprive him of the dividends of an investment but we do not live in a fair world. Spending on your wife is like spending on yourself because two have become one so..... If I am the judge i will rule in his favor though.J

    1. So why do women still clamour for a fair world? Can't we just accept that I broke Ur heart, life isn't fair? And move on like nothing ever happened. How's that for living in an unfair world.

      Ladies... Make una listen to J oh. Life isnt fair and you best get used to it in time. Most men already did. Lolz

  3. PLEASE she should give the guy his money! I'm in Support of Steele & J's comment.
    The woman should ask whoever deserves her now to pay her Soon to be Ex husband. It's Just Unfair!!!

    This is why people shouldn't date or marry out of pity, pressure or superficial attributes! Be with those U love till triple infinity.
    Weigh all their pros & cons & decide if U'll still Love & Be with them in the cruelest circumstances.

    Personally, I WONT marry any man who I can't still Love & be his BFF if he has Aids *the right way though, lol*, loses his limbs or gets cancer!
    I'm weighing ALL my options!

    1. triple infinity nde. For ur mind. The karma wey go visit you still dey do press up. There are some lines you just don't cross. You know what happens to ungrateful dogs who dare to bare their teeth.

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  4. I really don't agree with u Ruthy,it was his opinion to invest on the gal,it's just like saying because a guy saw you through uni then u have to marry him,like I begged him to see me through uni nii. Doesn't the gak have her own financial inputs in the relationship too? Definitely she will. Don't know much about laws so i don't know wat to do if I were to be the judge but my opinion above is or will b my decision as a lay man.

    1. Eh? Mabel...isi gini? That's unfair o. You must marry mbok. Lmao.

      But seriously that was unfair but the guy should move on. It's almost like the story of the guy who asked a Poster for *his* Gen set and other items when they broke up. The money (and time) is gone.

    2. Memphis stay there ohhh,na so,marry fire.

  5. She should refund the guy his money with interest sef...

  6. Anonymous Rider!1:52 pm, July 06, 2015

    Such a funny world,
    Ive had someone say to me that we are not physically compatible,
    Because I'm a portable size 8.
    One of his many excuses for wanting to dump me (HIMSELF___BYE LOOSER!!! NO MORE SHEETS)
    While i struggle to gain weight, some struggle to loose it. Wherever you are just be happy in the body that you are in as long as youre HEALTHYYY!!!
    LEPA AND OROBO will make heaven. The gate no get size.

  7. If I was the judge I'd make her refund the surgery money and pay for damages for the next 10 years. The bad the is this new confidence is false confidence because physical beauty always fades.

    That's why it's good to marry what u like, my X liked size 14-16 girls and I'm a size 6 he always made me feel bad about my weight and was always encouraging me to eat. Well I dumped him because I am okay with my size. So if the guy knew he didn't like fat girls he shouldn't have even married her in the first place.

    1. But u just said confidence from being fat or slim are false, so why spite the man for seeing her beyond her fatness and still married her. And he said he did it so they can live healthier lives. Or is DAT a crime now?

  8. The guy should forget the matter. He has lost the money. Life can be unfair sha.

  9. Uhhhhhhh boy! This is not good mehn! So uhm, when the going was good, you saw/felt/thought that of alllllll the things in the world you could help your wife with, it was to pay over 10 grand for breast augmentation and a tummy tuck??...Oh dear God! And now that the going is bad, you wanna get reimbursed for the money you spent eh? You should also get reimbursed for all the love you gave her, all the sex you 'gave' her...and many more...whachu think?

    Howdy mamacita!

    1. I'm sure you have this belief that sex is a one-way traffic.

  10. If i was the judge i would ask the husband if he got to enjoy "her" after the surgery? If he didn't at all then he deserves a refund... But if he did, even if it was for a while then he shouldn't get anything. He spent to rehabilitate not to construct. As a tenant you cannot sue your landlord for the cost of the upgrade you effected in his property after your tenancy elapses and he chooses not to renew. Unfair but the harsh reality.

    1. So being married is now being compared to living in a rented apartment...

      Can someone tell me, Am I on planet earth right now?

    2. Uyi, marriage cannot be compared to any other relationship, however for the purposes of this discussion and legal implications it has to be compared to something.

      And yes, you are on planet earth

  11. The ex should pay the money back....period!

  12. Her new body size and weight may not be her reasons for seeking a divorce really. We might assume she's started to feel too good for him whereas, the man himself might have wronged her in other ways. Even if that were the case, he should be the bigger person and know that ingratitude is a self destructive trait
    So no, I don't think she should pay back anything. This time I vote for karma as judge. I definitely wouldn't post that anonymously either. Add up the second paragraph of ruthy's comment(not dating for pity and all) and I'm done.

  13. What is it with all this Exs and wanting things back

  14. Let God be the judge mbok....obiri na need to ask for pay back... She will still eat and gain weight again.keep watching her with your 3D glasses ....hahaha.......

    1. Na 5D glasses dey reign now oh! Lolz

  15. Let God be the judge mbok....obiri na need to ask for pay back... She will still eat and gain weight again.keep watching her with your 3D glasses ....hahaha.......

  16. Let God be the judge mbok....obiri na need to ask for pay back... She will still eat and gain weight again.keep watching her with your 3D glasses ....hahaha.......

  17. It's not fair sha...but his money is gone.

  18. Thelma but bia you have many friends bearing the name "Chioma" lool.


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