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READ. Inner Court Of Relationships - Atilola.

You know how when you've thought something and you've tried to articulate it but failed, then you see something somewhere that expresses your thoughts but even better, more concisely and more indeptly than you could have? That's the way I felt when I read this and I needed to share it with you. 

Written by Atilola, of Atilola's World

Don’t be deceived by the first two paragraphs, this is not a religious post. Just stay with me, I am going somewhere.

Remember in the Old Testament, the temple had the outer court, inner court and holy of holies. Your 
level with God basically determined the areas you had access to. Almost everyone was limited to the outer court, which is where people offered sacrifices, and most of the general activities happened.

Some of the people who served at the temple were in the inner court, and they were all Levites, the tribe God specifically chose to serve Him. Then only one person was allowed into the holy of holies, and that was the high priest. Before he can enter, he must be clean and have made some atonement. He must be deemed blameless and sinless in the sight of God. Anything short of this, and he will be struck dead if he enters the presence of God. That is why they always tie a rope to the leg of the high 
priest so that if he is struck down, the Levites in the outer court can pull him out since they cannot enter the holy of holies.

As human beings, we also have different levels of access in our lives. We have our outer court, inner court, and holy of holies. When we meet people, it is just natural that they be in our outer court for a 
while, and depending on the level of the friendship that evolves, they graduate to the inner court, and very few people get to the holy of holies. Some people will forever remain in the outer court, and some will graduate to the inner court faster than others.

Pains and betrayals that occur in our lives basically happen when people in our lives have access to courts they have no business having access to. Imagine someone who is supposed to be in our outer court being in our holy of holies. It is madness for someone to meet us yesterday and call him our best friend tomorrow. 

We are most guilty of this in relationships. We meet a guy today continue reading here.

I trust we've learnt something... 


  1. Deep. Very true.

  2. We need to let people prove themselves. Failure to guard our hearts will lead to continual disappointment and eventually, bitterness. Deep... Deep post indeed. We learn everyday. Wish this blogger (Thelma) started earlier than now, or I knew this blog earlier, guess I would have been a better me.

  3. i totally agree and i really needed to read this ... i'm still suffering from the effects of letting someone who had no business being in my outer court sef into the "holy of holies" and d reward is threats and insults.. (and yes, its me , talking to u)
    anyways, thats a mistake i KNOW i will not make a second time .
    moral: be careful who u trust with sensitive information. not everyone is worth it.

  4. Read the entire post, learnt something

    1. Yeah, you really have to read the entire post to get the full gist. Describing this as deep wouldn't feel complete.
      They say it's never too late to learn new realities but I wish I had known this truth a long time ago. It would have saved me a lifetime of complications. Thanks for sharing this with us T, I really appreciate you and what you do. Keep it up

  5. Replies
    1. Wow! Mummy baby! Is that my namesake? She's such a cutie fa! She looks like her dad and has your complexion. Please take care of her for me o.

    2. Hi hope! Lol yea that's our baby o. She is a complete replica of her daddy and I think she will get darker cus her ears are black!!!! Maybe the next one will look like me lool. I'll take care of her just for u hun lool xxx

    3. Lol! Thank you! The next one will definitely look like you coz 2nd babies always look like their mum.
      And you are very pretty too so it's high time you started passing on that beauty, hopefully in the nearest future one of my sons will come grab one. Lol!

    4. Lool I'm blushing hope thanks xxx

    5. Congrats once again dear.. Beautiful pic.

  6. No one in my Holy of holies yet. Even though I've got a "bestie". Lolz

  7. Deep words. I'm extremely careful to a fault sef who I let into my inner circle.


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