"every woman I know -- no matter how successful and ambitious, how financially and emotionally secure -- feels panic, occasionally coupled with desperation, if she hits 30 and finds herself unmarried." Lori Gottlieb. I found this an apt quote for the story below.
A very decent guy has been on my case for a while but I've been putting him on the shelf for a while. He has pursued me with interest but I have never quite given him the reason why I won't date him. I keep telling him I'm not ready even though I'm burning with desire! My friend said to me I should stop looking for a great guy and "settle" for an okay dude. So I gave her the run down of my situation and asked her to judge. Ive been on many dates with this guy and we have great chemistry. He is confident, refined and well established. To top it up, he is good looking and manly. We met at the airport after a delayed flight about 8 months ago. I was starting to fall hard for him when I did a last name check with a friend who told me how deeply involved his immediate family was in a business scandal that left a number of people bankrupt. His uncle and father were charged with all manners of fraud. I did more research and it was true. It was a big deal and was all over the papers and news. He of course did nothing wrong but by virtue of his last name is just as guilty. I told my girlfriend that as much as I liked the idea of this guy, and how good he makes me feel. I can't allow myself to fall deeper for him because I have to take on a last name that will cause people to be skeptical. She said "im your friend and I get you but if you continue thinking like this, you will find yourself single at 45. No person or situation is perfect " she kept shouting "he didn't do it he didn't do it".
How important is the reputation of your spouses last name. Are we overly "name conscious" as a society. Is this the curse of being over 30 where flaws in a guy just don't seem so bad for any girl to put up with? or is he a decent guy she should "settle" for given the scrutiny and consequences for going ahead. #Relationships
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