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To Spill Or Not To Spill?







Hey T, good day. I broke up with my boyfriend because he was cheating. Cheating as in repeatedly, I continued to forgive him but it's as if the more I forgave him the more he cheated. When he gave me an std I knew I had to be strong and let my no be no. I have moved on and I don't regret because I know God has better plans for me. Before we broke up I found out that the person he was cheating with is his close friends fiance. As I'm typing this both of them are still bedmates and she is currently planning her wedding to his friend. I was bitter because we were all friends and we all used to go on double dates and she even used to give me relationship advise. Although I'm not bitter again, because at my age my focus is to get married and build my career not to carry malice in my heart, I am wondering whether I should tell her fiancée what is going on, or I should keep quiet and allow them to get married. He is a very nice guy and I think he deserves to know what his friend is doing with his new Iyawo. But I don't know if I should talk or allow him to marry the hoe. Blog readers what do you think?

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  1. ahhh! dis one pass me o bt left to me j wud send him an anonymous tip den leave him to figure tins out himself nd leave d circle of frndship....my own opinion o...

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  2. Na,its none of ur business. Face ur work...!!!
    (truly misery does need company)

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  3. U don't need to tell him,every day is for the thief and one day for the owner of the house,she would definitely put herself in trouble,so my dear let them be. God has a way of exposing people.

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  4. I would have said spill but it's wise and safe to keep mum on this for your own good and safety. cos a lady that can open her korokoro eyes&legs and sleep with her fiance's friend while planning her wedding is capable of MURDER!!!!!!!

    #keeprunningwithyourlipsealed

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  5. Lol...she said or allow him to marry the hoe
    No chill whatsoever
    if it were me I will totally want to know,if you must spill do it anonymously

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  6. If you do have a personal relationship and you are good friends with the male dude that is being cheated upon, I believe you owe it as a duty to tell him. Whichever manner (either anonymously or in person) you choose to adopt is up to your convenience.

    PS: Glad to know you could take the brave step and quit the *broken* relationship. I hope soonest you'd be rewarded with a great dude that would tick your boxes and cherish you.

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  7. I can't advice you on this buf if I'm the guy I'd expect my close friend to tell me but people are different and in this case It could backfire, so doing it anonymously would be safer.

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  8. Why do people say they have moved on and still look back to see what is happening behind them. From you words, you have moved on, dear move faster. No time to waste by looking behind. I thought his name now for you should be ex. so what is your business with what he does. I see it in your eyes that a part of you still longs for him.

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  9. I think it's better you mind your business but if you really have to tell him,then do so anonymously so that you won't be called "bad belle"

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  10. If you are sure you are doing it for the right reasons,I'd advice you to spill but do so wisely and if you have evidence you can also present it to him.


    If not Nne face your work and ask the Almighty to bring your other half.....

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  11. Theres no minding of business oh... How would you feel if u were in this guy's shoes upon prepping for marriage?

    Not telling this guy is not an option. The issue now is how. And there's only one way u can do this and that's anonymously, Irrespective of whether u were still in a relationship with his friend or not.

    Mehn I like myself oh. I can't see any acquaintance of mine or even stranger entering fire blindfolded and I will keep mum. Hian!
    Even that babe sef, my God.
    World's drama will never cease to exist as long as we humans continue to live in it.

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    1. Please,give me the permission to dream about you Uyi.
      "Theres no minding of business oh... How would you feel if u were in this guy's shoes upon prepping for marriage?"...Exactly!

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    2. Thank you so much Uyi and Aramide, how can you with hold such info from a close friend?? People are on "self mode" too much, imagine if you were the guy, finding out you're about to marry such a person, please free your conscience and let him know anonymously if you can't face to face with evidence, your own part is done.

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    3. I go with Uyi on this one.

      Dear Poster, spill and spill your guts out, all of it no holds barred but do it anonymously.

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  12. Its hard..but I agree on d anonymous hint...d tin get as e be sha o...na wa!...people dey oooo.....#JoyDaNuGirl

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  13. My dear, I'd love to tell you to mind your business but if my fiancé were cheating on me, I'd want to know. Like others have said before me, you should do so anonymously tho just to avoid any unnecessary drama.

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  14. Madame face your work o! Leave ur ex and his baggage alone.. One day the truth will surface .. Move on with your life .

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  15. ... just move on babe. It hurts, but move on and find your peace.

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  16. No pls dnt move on just like dat, spill pls I beg u but do It anonymously, find a way ls, set a trap, somethhing, just do something!!! Chai ano go fit hol am o, especially wen d said guy is nice and deserves to know! No b all dis orishirishi guys.

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  17. Spill anonymously! It just might be the closure you need. After that, cut off totally and move on.

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    out of the house because it was a rented apartment and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly because I was desperate and left with no choice… He did special prayers and used his power… Within 2days my husband called me he said he was sorry for all the emotional pains he had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily and our kid is happy too and we are expecting our second child now… I have introduced him to a lot of couples with problems across the world and they have had good news… Just thought I should share my experience because I strongly believe someone out there need’s it… You can email him through his email:onimatempleofsolution1@hotmail.com you can also contact hes number +2347068487430, if you have any problem contact him,

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  19. Hello every body my name is success, am from London,but i live in USA, I just want to share my experience with the world on how Dr ONIMA, help me got my love back and saved my marriage… I was married for 5 years with one kid and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and argued almost every time… it got worse at a point that he filed for divorce… I tried my best to make him change his mind & stay with me because I love him so much and don’t want to lose him but everything just didn't work out… he moved
    out of the house because it was a rented apartment and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly because I was desperate and left with no choice… He did special prayers and used his power… Within 2days my husband called me he said he was sorry for all the emotional pains he had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily and our kid is happy too and we are expecting our second child now… I have introduced him to a lot of couples with problems across the world and they have had good news… Just thought I should share my experience because I strongly believe someone out there need’s it… You can email him through his email:onimatempleofsolution1@hotmail.com you can also contact hes number +2347068487430, if you have any problem contact him,

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