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Dear Thelma... (S.O.S)

Hey T and TTBVs. So my boss has traveled for summer vacation with his family but his calls regularly to check up on the office and give us orders. Most times he communicates with us through emails and chat messages. When he travels he sometimes gets things for some of us in the office. This morning he pinged me and asked for my shoe size and I told him. Then he asked for my bra size and favourite bra colour but I haven't replied since then. I have left the chat unopened because once I read it he will know. Do you think there's something wrong or am I the one overthinking the situation? What would you do in my shoes please I need to know how to respond. 

P.s please there is nothing going on between us.


  1. Shut it DOWN. Tell him firmly that u don't divulge private details. Save d chat for evidence. Reject even d shoes and keep your distance.
    It may be a good time to start job hunting. Except u work in a firm where sexual harrassment is unacceptable. This man will soon get physical, if u get my drift.
    Dr. N

  2. Its no big deal. If you are not comfortable with it reply and say you just bought a lot of bras so you dont want any bra or pant for now. Simple.

    If you dont mind then go ahead and tell him. I wouldn't mind if a female boss wants to buy me boxers.


    1. this post made me laugh so hard i swear,i think you shouldn't bother so much,just tell him politely that you aint in need of that.dont make it a big deal. thelma please try to work on the aspect of blog comments,at times its so difficult for my comments to appear.

    2. I share same sentiment! Don't make an issue out of it. If u wanna quit,pls feel free...

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    4. Well said Kon. U don't have to make a big deal out if it please. Follow Kon's advice

  3. Your boss wants to start something with you, shut it down now! He has no business knowing how big your boobs are before his wife prepares a cocktail of some skin altering bath for you.

  4. Just send this message as I have written below

    "Respectfully sir, I am unwilling to discuss such intimate details with my employer and would rather not accept such personal gifts, once again thanks for the consideration".

    Also start looking for a new job as it sounds like a one man shop.

    End of story. Its a sod off and get out of my presonal space rather than saying it directly. Also screenshot the conversation and save it.

    1. GBAM!!! Na from clap dem dey enter dance, today it's bra, tomorrow panties, then.... vibrator.

    2. Oga Steele, vibrator ke!!!, na toy be that na. We talking the real instrument. LOL

    3. Oga Steele, vibrator ke!!!, na toy be that na. We talking the real instrument. LOL

    4. LOLZ, biko I'm fasting.

      That miss pynk's reply is apt

  5. It's a delicate situation. On the one hand you want to establish the boundaries in no uncertain terms, but on the other hand, you want to ensure you have a job to go to come Monday morning.
    I would say reply that the shoes are enough for you, and jokingly tell him to spend the remaining money on his family.
    When he returns from his trip, accept the shoe, and thank him for them. And after that, maintain nothing less than professional distance with him. No more chatting about what you did on the weekend, or discussing TV shows, or whatever things y'all used to discuss that gave him the audacity to think it's okay to ask such an inappropriate question.
    And last, but not least, start spending your free time looking for another job. As they say, yanga sleep, trouble go wake am. If you don't want to mess yourself and your career up, you're better off seeking for greener pastures.

  6. That boss of yours is in for a grand scheme. He is just wetting the arena.

    I like Pynks response, to keep it even lighter and pass the message subtly.

    "Sir, thanks for the kind considerations, but I take a rain check on the bra" happy holidays and safe trip back home with your family.

    That would be my response. Then I'd Google, current jobs in Nigeria for august 2015.

    Good luck

  7. That boss of yours is in for a grand scheme. He is just wetting the arena.

    I like Pynks response, to keep it even lighter and pass the message subtly.

    "Sir, thanks for the kind considerations, but I take a rain check on the bra" happy holidays and safe trip back home with your family.

    That would be my response. Then I'd Google, current jobs in Nigeria for august 2015.

    Good luck

    1. Spot on Clare! Please there is nothing like a harmless gift when it comes to inner wears, we only buy those with friends and pals whom we are so free/familiar with. Growing up my mum once said to me "if a man get you a pant as a gift, baby one day he would ask you to wear it so he can see the fitting"
      So poster to avoid stories that touch make you stand clear as Clare said.

    2. Spot on Clare. Poster 'll advice you to take Clare's advice. @Blink your mum is a wise woman.

      So happy I can finally comment again.

  8. Hahahahahaaa! Funny post!
    My dear kindly reject it politely, u could say.. "Dats very kind of u sir but dat information is private and I alredy got some recently, thank u sir".
    Hahah funny boss, he started with the shoes!

  9. I'll go with Clare keep it casual but firm. Be very formal with him henceforth. J

  10. when I read this post... I just laughed! cuz I know if any of my bosses ask me this question, they are either trying to pull my legs or they just really want to buy it. No strings attached. I know Mr. A would even call ni! Very mischievous man! Lool!
    Sometimes I feel like i'm not in the real world.(the naive kabuoy talking)

    But if Mr. Aj was my boss, and he should ask me this kind of question! Walahi, I will screengrab and send to HR! Cuz i know he can't be up to any good. Loool. That man's shina noh be here! Lool! (now this is the jasi kabuoy... lool)

    Poster what Clare said jare. Nip it in the bud now!
    And if he does any roborebe(threatens your job) after... just bring his name here, let us take it to ori-oke, so he can find his way out of that office. loool!

    1. Your comment got me rolling on the floor - literally

      So I actually got a couple from a married male colleague once and it felt awkward even though we are buddies(he has moved on to another company now). This is how it played out - there's this lady that comes to my office to sell lingerie to me so he peeped in at some point and thought to buy for his wife too which he did. Unknowing to me, he told the lady to wrap up some for me but he did the presentation at a later date - my birthday.

      Friendly or not, truth is I doubt if your boss would mention his purchasing lingerie for another female to his wife which I am so sure my friend never told his wife as I couldn't my bf either and I hope he doesn't get to see this comment as he has always felt the guy had feelings for me but naive me argued otherwise. My advice? Nip it!

  11. Is he normally promicuous? Has he made a pass at you before, regardless of how subtle it was? He may mean no harm. I've jumped into a conclusion before when I was in a related situation and it almost landed me in serious trouble.

    You may give him your size or give a diplomatic response that you have more than enough for now.


  12. Make investigations to be sure you are not the only one he asked. IMO, I would say give him the bra size biko since you said there is nothing btwn you guys and no passes has been made. Afterall, it's not like he knows what your boobs look or feels like by the sizes.
    On the otherhand, you can just suggest he gets you a dress, purse wristwatch plus the shoes since to buy you gifts dey hungry am.

  13. What if it's the wife that used his phone to have such conversation with you all in a bid to know if something is going on between you and her husband?


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