I'd wrapped things up really early and decided to stop by at my friend's site. When I got there he was taking a call and I listened to him switch between Yoruba and Hausa. For the thousandth time I wanted to whack him across the head. He seems to have this group of friends that speak both languages so fluently that I'm not sure who's from the north and who's from the west. He's from the north btw.
Last week I was talking with one of these friends of his, who coincidentally was friends with my former boss. We got to talking about why I don't visit the law firm and I admitted I never quite felt at home there. Individually, I loved my colleagues, they were/are all good people. But I never quite felt like I vibed with them. "Yeah, I know what you mean. And then the way all of them used to gist in igbo all the time and you...." Yes, I, unfortunately couldn't join in on the daily girl chat, so yes, maybe that's why I felt like a second cousin of the family, and not a sister.
The guy, my friend's friend, speaks Yoruba, Hausa and Italian fluently.
Now back to my friend, after that call he got another and in two minutes he spoke three languages, he started out speaking yoruba, predictably he switched to Hausa (I hate it when they do that!) next thing I know he was conversing in French! That sucked majorly.
On the day I talked with his friend about my former office, he told me he didn't think language was a big deal and he didn't know why people placed so much emphasis on it. Then in the same breath, just a few minutes later, he suddenly turns to me like he just saw me for the first time and shrieks, "So you are Unilingual!!! Buhahahaha". I'm like, you just finished talking about people who place emphasis on speaking or not speaking languages, now here you are mocking me?
I've spent quite some time in the last few weeks with these guys and their effortless use of language "oppresses" me. I've told you guys before how I sometimes want to bite of my parents' noses for not bringing me up speaking igbo as I could and would have inevitably learnt english outside. Yeah I know some of y'all said I can still learn igbo but ain't nobody got time for that right now! I'd rather learn Mandarin or Arabic. I envy people whose native language is their first language. I'm extremely jealous of people who speak their native language and other(s), besides the Lingua Franca, in our case, English.
So who else is Unilingual like me? Don't be shy, let's wallow together. Lol. And who are the bilingualists and multilingualists in the house! Raise your hands up y'all. What language(s) do you speak?
...I know Easah is multilingual, please don't come and show off again! Hehe.
Now, on to my second question. Where two people in a relationship/marriage don't speak the same language, is one justified in taking offense if the other keeps conversing with his/her family members or friends in that language, in the presence of their partner, knowing fully well that they don't understand the language?