Some People Just Do It All For The 'Gram; so during my foray into something new and different, I got to work with and became quite close to a public personality. During this period I met quite a number of celebrities but this one (not exactly a celebrity but close) in particular still makes me snigger everytime I remember her. It started with commenting under each other's pictures, but her comments would often go beyond compliments to plans for drinks, dinner or something "fun". It seemed she always wanted us to make plans and for some reason we had to post the details of these plans on IG, something I felt uneasy about. Eventually I had to suggest we make these plans over the phone or something more private, that the rest of the world wouldn't have to be privy to. Long story short I came to learn there were no real intentions of actually realizing any of these plans and the lunch/dinner/drinks/dancing/movies/events were only for the 'gram. Seen!
Sometimes Sorry Just Doesn't Cut It, And Never Will; this year I've hurt a few people I love and when you've done an undoable wrong, all you can do is sincerely apologize and promise it would never happen again. This year I've been deeply wronged by a few people I loved and all they could do when they'd done something that couldn't be undone, was say "I'm sorry". And although they meant it, and although I meant it, sometimes sorry really just cannot piece back broken china. It's looking like sayonara forever.
Your Best Friend Can Become a Stranger In a Matter of Seconds; you could find yourself sitting before the one person you loved above all else, whom you shared your deepest darkest secrets with, who knew you in and out, who you couldn't go a day without talking to, at least twice, and realize you both have absolutely nothing to say to each other. The words are flat and empty, the stares are vacant, where 24 hours in a day once weren't enough for you to spend together, 60 seconds in a minute suddenly become too much..
The Entertainment Industry is Fraught With Fakers Who don't have shit and would do anything to keep up with the joneses. I remember when it was someone's job to do an MTV Cribs kinda show in Nigeria. They had all the celebrity friends, they being one themself. Yet the job was proving almost impossible. "But why?" Asked I. "Because how many celebrities really live in 'ok' houses? And for those who do, how many of them live in their own? Forget all the packaging, most of these people don't have shit!". I soon learned that some of the biggest names in the industry are also some of the biggest debtors in the industry. There's gold and then there's gold-plated...
Once or Twice In Your Life You Will Do things that will surprise the hell out of you; Damn! They do say never say never, don't they? Guess what, they were right. So this year I've found me doing thing(s) I thought I would, could never do. Some close to me have done or are doing things that they once considered unthinkable. On the one hand, it's exciting. On the other, it's freaking scary! Life is full of surprises and sometimes you are going to be your own biggest surprise!
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It's the eighth month of the year and if you've not had any experiences that taught you something new, or perhaps even surprised you, then I've got to ask if you live under a rock! So tell me what you've learnt this year and do tell the experience(s) that taught it/them to you. You know i'm always eager to hear, share!
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ReplyDeleteI hate comment moderation. Makes interaction dull and it takes u forever to post comments Thelma.
ReplyDeleteI hate it too but it's the best option for now. I'm sorry it takes me time to post sometimes, I promise to improve.
DeleteAs in, that's the reason I no longer comment- I'm sure it's same for other readers.
DeleteOh shut up anonymous. Some people are just so annoying.
DeleteYes thelma... I understand that some people can't comment easily because of the robot thingy, hence the comment approval ish... but when it takes too long... like 12 hours! it makes it hard and boring. So nwanem, I know you're trying... but pls try harder! thank you! We lof you!
DeleteWill do...
DeleteHow tall r u Thelma? U r huge!!
ReplyDeleteI'm exactly 6ft baby! Lol.
DeleteThelma are you absolutely sure? 'cos I'm scared of *female* heights. :D
DeleteYes I'm absolutely sure. Lol @ female heights.
DeleteMe too oh... I'm also sensitive to female height ehn!
DeleteAt least Thelma is not taller than me. Hehheehe
Av learnt that these are actually d good old days!!! 10years from today we gon be like.."I remeber my lepa days", "I remeber our hangouts with Bruno", I remember d Lagos life! Since I learned this, I live everyday with so much joy and happiness, I don't have to have a near death expeprience b4 I can appreciate life and my loved ones.
ReplyDeleteI learnt some many things year but one that I would forever live with and not forget is the fact that secret are better kept to yourself, yes yes yes, it might sound funny but that's one tough lesson, even if mouth dey scratch me I would rather tell myself my secret. All lessons learnt are like stepping stones to move forward in life.
ReplyDeleteInteresting five you have got....
ReplyDeletei learnt to....
*Trust God more,worrying won't change anything.
*That some things are just out of our control,like friendship.
*Pray about certain things even though I may not be ready for them now.
* comparing one's self with others kills one's spirit and leads to depression.
*to take what I see on social media less seriously,not all that glitters is gold.
*more giving because only in giving is there receiving. Although. I haven't given as much as I would want to. Lord help me.
That's all I can think of now....
As I walk through the valley of the shadow of this blog, I can't help but think 'where are the blog readers'?
ReplyDeleteKratos
Lol. Kratos please help me ask o! To the best of my knowledge most of them are still here, some reading silently. But a few I know of are so swamped at the moment and theres hardly anytime to visit a blog.
DeleteI have learnt I have a yearning for something which I do not know or understand some times it feels empty. Been praying to understand this yearning I keep hoping
ReplyDeleteHey my darling Anon, using punctuation marks sometimes helps a lot. That said, if you're praying then you're on the right track. I know what it feels like to have a void that you're not quite sure how to feel. But with prayers and continuos attempts at self-discovery, I'm certain it's only a matter of time before you'll get clarity. Best wishes.
DeleteChai, T no mind me. Took a break and was typing fast. Correction noted . Thanks
DeleteI learnt not to compare myself to anyone... turns out you're probably doing better or you're equally not doing badly. Comparison is the thief of joy truly.
ReplyDeleteLastly, I have learnt to trust God and not fret. I'm a big worrier and I can worry for the entire Africa. To the extent that, I won't be able to sleep or eat. And when things don't go exactly the way I plan or expect it to go, I become unhappy and worry sets in again.
But this year... God has taught me to let go. I don't worry as much because I cannot come and go and die. Lol. Iv learnt to leave everything in God's hands and let his will be done. God has got me! And he is faithful! :)
Sometime last year, I almost threw a dear female colleague out of a moving car through the window. I was driving on Eko bridge but had enough energy to scream insults at her. Her offence? She said I and my husband could still reconcile and re-settle as a married couple.
ReplyDeleteLess than 6 months later, I was at her table to announce our reconciliation. I was sober, humbled etc.
Morale: NEVER SAY NEVER
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Lmao
DeleteNever say "Never" o
DeleteI've learnt to take each day as it comes and to treat each person good. To show love to those you care about at all times.
I've learnt to solely and fully rely/lean/rest/stand/sit/focus on God for all kind of help. Nothing is ever too small to talk to Him about.
I have learnt the importance of learning a skill and being very proficient at it because in the short and long run it is the only thing that stands you out to earn mega.
• I have learnt to worry less, and trust God more.
ReplyDelete• I have been reminded to never envy.
I learned that I'm responsible for everything that happens to me, from what people think about me to the energy I let into my space. I also learned that nobody owes me shit, so I stay grateful when someone let's God use them to affect my life.
ReplyDeleteI also learned that I could really be humble, and that even when everything seems bleak around me I still feel real pity for the less privileged and it makes me sad.
I have learned to trust God completely. Even when i don't know where the next meal is coming from i just say in my mind ( if God can provide for the birds how much more me).
ReplyDeleteI have learned that not everybody is going to like you no matter how hard you try.
Interesting thoughts.
ReplyDeleteI have learnt to just stay positive,these days I believe it will be better.
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