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A Fool or a Fine Man. Thoughts?

Reading through this I couldn't decide if this guy is a halfwit, if he's simply god-sent or both. I mean, I'm not quite sure what to think. I admire his selflessness and sentiments, but if at 21 what you want to do is sit down and take care of a woman with three children, then dare I say you might fail to provide a life and a future for your own children when the time comes. 

Oh well, what say you; should we applaud the 21 year old or give him a knock on the head? 


  1. 1st thought that entered my head was my 21 yr old brother whom i still call BABY i'm going with a knock on the head

  2. 3 days ago the argument was if it was alright for a 22 year old lady to date a 37year old man and the general consensus was that age sometimes has nothing to do with maturity. Well here's a 21 year old man who started dating this heavily pregnant lady, single mother of two, for approximately 90 days. At his age he already knows the pains of single parenting and the damage it's doing to the Black Race and he's been supporting his pregnant boo with 2 kids...for 90 days. Halfwit? I don't think so, not after 90 days and this Facebook Post.

    1. Memphis if your 21 year old brother did this will you congratulate him?

    2. My youngest sis had her first date when she was 19. It's about maturity, not age.

  3. Did he have to tell the whole world his life history??

    1. That is raising awareness to the reality of the hood most times in america. That's war u don't see on cable televisions like CNN and FOX. *sigh

      Stop leaving babies fatherless. That's the point

  4. I'm totally in support of his actions. So he should run away from it, after all 'Wetin consign am?'. That's a 21years old MAN. I'm sure the real father is a 30years old boy or more.

    I'm even surprised that this is being deliberated on here. He didn't just wake up one morning looking for babies to father, he loved a woman and found she was pregnant. That pregnancy didn't stop him from loving her less.

    Please this should be applauded abeg. We should be promoting fatherhood. Imagine this guy out of his life, that would be another child without a father figure.

    1. The "man" is delusional.

    2. Let me assume u are trying to defend your age, as u can't believe someone younger than you could act this matured and yet u can't even think of being in that state of mind at yours.

      Neymar the Brazilian player was born 1993(22). He has a child already. #stateofmind. Please ignore age (it is a number)

    3. cosigning.
      This 21yr old is a fine specimen of a man. He has the heart, courage and all the love to do a good deed that many men twice, thrice and a quadruple his age cannot handle. He should be applauded for choosing to take on the role of the father to a boy who would have joined the statistics of millions/billions out there who are growing up without a father-figure and getting themselves into all kinds of mess.

  5. Applaud him all the way! As long as they both have the resources to take care of the children together.
    My Friend's Step father adopted her and her 2 siblings when he married their mother.Her mum is late now,The man still caters for all their needs. Infact, you will NEVER know he isn't their dad.

  6. Thanks Uyi.
    It takes more than age to be a man. The father's of the kids who knocked her up are prolly older than this 21yr old yet he walked in while they walked out.
    It (or they) might not be his kids but he's making a conscious choice to do right by them.
    Age is nothing but a number and I wld always praise a man who chooses to rise above.

  7. Well all I know is he chose a woman.
    I'm not sure if he's "a fool or a fine man."

    I'm wondering what story the woman told him, how old she is, and if he is capable of the responsibility of having "a family" in such short time of knowing her.

  8. If only he was older.......

    Time will tell. If he stays with her for another ten years, then I'd applaud him. But right now, I hope he knows what he's getting into, that's her third baby oo

    1. Really? U wld appluad if he's there till another 10yrs?
      Kids aside,there are r/ships and marriages that cldnt survive the 10yr benchmark yet the men in those relationships were older than 21.

    2. In those ten years, he would have seen LIFE and all there is to being a single father to three children. (I only hope they are from the same man). What it really entails. Nurturing them. Then what do I know? I guess I'm speaking from the Nigerian perspective. :)

      Age has nothing to do with marital success. Forget those men....

    3. Even the men that got married at 30 have no idea what it takes to be a father.They take on that responsibility as soon as the kid comes so seeing life has nothing really with having the experience to be a father. All fathers learnt as they go so the 21 year old won't be different. I applaud him whether he stays 10 years or not, he was bold enough to take on what some men twice his age cannot handle. The point he made about rebuilding black families shows his level of maturity.

    4. The full story I hear is that the dude in Question is a Soldier. So yh they've seen more death and strive than their average male counterpart. So it takes courage (not just age) to take up the responsibility of fatherhood be it to ur own kids of those of another...

    5. I'm just thinking, probably he never even had a father figure in his life, u know.

  9. I would look beyond his age but his actions and words coupled with the fact that we are talking of a developed economy (I believe) unlike Nigeria where at 25, if care is not taken, you are still struggling to pass out of the university with a fair grade. I think he has a good idea of what he is getting himself into and it's a noble cause with selfless intention (it is in Nigeria that an average guy who wants a single mum may be a dupe).


    1. Yeah, average guys!

      But what if the single mum isn't wealthy, Can we still classify an average Nigerian guy as a dupe?

    2. Uyi, I wrote 'may be'...... More so, wealthy is relative. I have heard experiences of some not-so-rich single mums being 'duped' financially and otherwise (please insert s3x etc)


    3. So because of that we should assume the average Nigerian guy with a single mum is a dupe? Lol.

      Anyways I get Ur point but I'm kinda looking at it from a different perspective.

      And I don't think u can just judge an average Nigerian guy with a single mom as a dupe, mainly because I'm a true believer of Love.(u can roll Ur eyes, yeah yeah)

  10. I think he's a fine young man. In this day and age where men are ditching their responsibilities(like the baby's dad), we should applaud those who are actually taking responsibility. Yes he's 21 years old but he's most definitely more mature than whoever knocked that woman up. That said, he also didn't say he was going to drop out of school to take care of them, bearing in mind that he stayed with her for the last 3 months of the pregnancy and birth, and the hospital bills have probably come, its safe to say he has a fairly good idea of what it takes. I hope they make it.

  11. This 'fine' young man is not just mature. He is BRAVE!

  12. All I can say is The Almighty grants him the will and strength to carry on in this part he has chosen....
    All the best to him.

  13. Today is Nubian princess's birthday jare! She hit the big * and 0! I'm gonna leave you guys guessing! Loool! Happy birthday to her! *big smile*

    To the post... he is a noble young man. I hope he fully(or partialy even)understands what he has taken on. I wish him well jare.

    1. Happy Birthday, Nubian Princess! Age with grace.

    2. Kabuoy,I know which big * and 0 it is,*tongue out*
      She's one very beautiful woman.
      Happy birthday Nubian princess,God bless you.

  14. He's a fine fool, he has good intentions but he doesn't know what he's getting himself into.


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