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All That Matters Is Here and Now.

Last night, Tai asked what church I'd be attending today and when I told him HOTR, he scrunched up his nose and said "But your parents are catholic". What followed was a list of reasons why he doesn't like unorthodox churches ie Pentecostal churches. All his reasons could be summed up in one; they don't preach posterity. 

Who cares about posterity anymore? I asked him. Let's be honest, how many of us live our lives with eternity in mind. We are a hungry people. Hungry for success, hungry for career advancement, hungry for money and then more money, hungry for pleasure, hungry for travel, hungry for marriage, hungry for children, hungry for good clothes and the good life. Who's got the time to think about golden cities or damnation in an afterlife that we're not all sure exists, when we've not finished thinking about this one? 

Most churches these days are businesses and business thrive by keeping their customers happy. To keep them happy you've got to tell them what they want to hear and people want to hear that "This week God is going to do a great miracle in your life!!! This week you are moving forward!!! This week that contract you are pursuing will locate you!!! This week God will connect you with your life partner!!! This week you are blessed!!! This week your helpers will locate you!!! This week you are getting your dream job!!! This week that visa will be granted!!!" And the people all scream in holy frenzy; AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!! This they follow up with weighty offerings, or seeds, to seal the deal. 

Tell me who's going to sow a seed or give you any meaningful offering after you've depressed them senseless with your talk of eternal damnation and gnashing of teeth? Who will be impressed with cities made of gold when right now, this city is made of sludge and mud and their bellies are empty?

In this we are all guilty, I'm not pointing fingers at any pastors because all they're doing is catering to our own desires. The desire to hear that we will be prosperous, that we will be found by our husbands, that success is surely ours... and all those other things we need to hear to keep going. 

But pastors do make alter calls. Alter calls, the ones the pastor makes when he's asking that you give your life to Christ and accept him as your personal Lord and saviour. You would think that this is about eternal life/posterity, but nay, it always come after the prayers for prosperity. "Yes, but you know, if you want your prayers to be answered, if you really want that miraculous contract, then for God to do it, you must accept Him as your Lord and saviour". And the people throng out in the dozens to the front row, to receive Christ, not to be able to live with him in eternity, but to accelerate the process of that long awaited promotion. Eeiiiish! Have you noticed this as well, that alter calls are not about posterity but prosperity?

So talk to me guys, do you really think about posterity (ie, eternal life)? When last did you think about heaven or hell fire? Do you ever do or not do anything in a bid to make heaven? Do you even believe that there's a heaven or/and hell?

And this I'm really curious about, it's not a rhetorical question. When was the last time eternity/heaven/hell was preached in your church? I don't mean mentioned in passing, I mean when was it the actual sermon? Please share. 


  1. Without pointing fingers too,he without sin in the orthodox church shld freely cast a stone at the first person (or everyone) in the unorthodox church.
    That said, I love HOTR. And the weird part is,they don't really preach how to make money but instead why you shld key into the One who has the power to give wealth thru faith and ur works.
    The truth is,God is a God of riches and blessings and prosperity. There's no one in the bible who happens to be blessed without having material evidence to show for it.
    As Kendrick Lamar says,I'm a sinner who's prolly gonna sin again. I love to worship in church where I'm reminded that I live under His grace and not under the law....selah!

    1. More evidence why Thelma actually wrote this post. Ironic right?

    2. Lmao, Sasha Voltron. Defender of the universe

  2. Very rare. Very few churches maybe the catholic church, deeper life, mfm do this. Saw something similar on sdk this morning. It had me doing a whole lot of thinking.

  3. And to add to what I said above, following ur 2nd question, I believe eternity/damnation are best left for Sunday skl aka Kiddies church. "Teach your child the path he shld tow and he wldn't depart from it"
    If at age 21 and above and you've been attending church all ur life, ur conscience shld be ur guide in how u live ur (christian) life and I understand the church is meant for sinners not saints...

    1. I totally agree wth all u said sasha!

    2. Another evidence... I'm sorry I just can't help it lol

    3. Everything you just said here is so wrong.

      "...God is a God of riches and blessings and prosperity. There's no one in the bible who happens to be blessed without having material evidence to show for it..." And is this material evidence present in the blessed Moses and the prophets, Ezra, Nehemiah, Joseph, the Apostles, JESUS?

      So someone who has been attending church for 21 years should have a guaranteed serene conscience in serving GOD? The church is meant for sinners, not saints? Unless somehow you're naive about the composition of the Church; there're saints and there're sinners.

      "...I believe eternity/damnation are best left for Sunday school...". Lol. Maybe the crowd JESUS talked to about HEAVEN and hell were 6 year olds.

    4. Memphis you are a very intelligent person, and I don't say that lightly

  4. Hi T and happy Sunday to all BVs'. Well in my church there is no time we don't get the reminder that hell is real & and the world is coming to an end faster than we think. Nothing wrong with preaching about prosperity once in a while but if that becomes the only foundation of your faith then i have a problem with that. And Woe to preachers who mislead their congregation cos at the end God will demand for the blood of the sheeps they have led astray. May God help us all.
    BTW i am a member of AG.

  5. My pastor preaches heaven and he'll every Sunday, even if the topic isn't about the above, he would surely chip it in, he doesn't joke with it, trust the church I attend now (Mfm) , they don't joke with heaven and hell, my pastor hardly preaches prosperity, maybe once a month or two self and I like it that way because it just keeps u on ur feet. Our desire for wealth, prosperity, promotion and the likes has taken over so many life's that people hardly find time to reflect on christ, eternity and after life. As for ur question, yes I think of heaven and hell every day, I don't joke with the thoughts trust me, especially when I have to read through the book of revelation and every other Bible chapter that talks about eternity because when we allow the things of this life to over whelm our thinking, then it becomes a different ball game, I live my life like I would sleep and not wake up the next day, I try to do things that please God and not man, even though am not there yet but the fact that I av moved from crawling to walking gives me joy. To ur other question, I believe there is heaven and hell,the book of revelation from d beginning to its end says it all.

  6. I don't believe in heaven and hell. If Heaven was dat gangster then why are Christians afraid to die? Shudnt they even be slashing their throats to unburden themselves of all the poverty and hardship of this world to a place supposedly 10000 times better and eternal? Yimu.

    1. lolz anon.. but I just want to know from you.. in essence are you saying that their is no God

    2. Hmmmmmmm, Hello anon may I refer you to the book of revelation, Peter and conritians? Kindly read the whole chapter and yes Christians would be afraid to die because not all Christians are born again, how can u want to die when u know for sure you haven't lived a life that is pleasing to God? Even me I don't pray to die because I know I have little sins in me that doesn't qualify me for heaven now, sins that we don't even see as big deal, Peter and the likes made heaven cos they were without blemish, they lived a life that pleased heaven and God. So please try read your Bible more often, from the old testament to the new and u will be amazed at your findings.

    3. @Mabel please don't refer him to any book that guides you. If it is a law, I would understand.

      Hey I'm not siding anon but try arguing with something that would affect him/her not you(Mabel)

    4. Why would you assume I would care to read the bible? Cos you believe in it? A whole revelation? Cos I'm jobless of what?

    5. #SundayLaughs. Hahahahahahahaha.

    6. @uyi what makes u think am. Referring anon to what affects me and not him or her? So the Bible doesn't affect or apply to anyone cos sometimes ur argument just makes me Rotfl @anon so only jobless people read the Bible? Smh, signs of end time. I rest my case because the race of Christianity is personal, no one can be forced.

    7. Err... Mabel, now u get why I said wat I said? Cos anon just replied with a reality check.

      You don't wanna know the number of people who don't care about Ur verses of the bible. Find something else to support Ur claims, I repeat, not what guides you.

    8. So if I don't believe in wat u believe in means its 'end time' or whatever?smh at ur ignorance. It's just like me forcing u to believe in what I believe in. Christians learn to worship your God and stop feeling that whoever doesn't share your belief is beyond you or is worthy of a 'smh'. Such silliness!

    9. The white man came in the form of missionaries to brainwash gullible Africans and without any form of evidence, the missionaries were believed. Wud you have known about your God if the missionaries didn't bring it? Wudnt u still be worshipping idols? You say your God is real, so why havent you seen evidence instead of strictly believing the missionaries. Have you ever thought that a bored white man just sat and wrote a book of fictions and decided to gather his brethren and raid Africa bcos he knows a lot of them will buy it? Apart from the good things that happen in your life that you claim was done by the will of your God, do u have any EVIDENCE?? So please keep your bible to yourself.
      Same Anon

    10. It's just so obvious that u have never stepped your foot in church and u are a pegan, no one is forcing u to believe what's not, @uyi what other thing should I support my claims with if not the Bible? U are among those who think the missionaries came to brain wash us it's a pity, I would still keep smh, I am not ready to argue with you on this cos like I said, all man for himself, @anon I intend keeping my bible to myself. Whoever lives his or her life outside the standards of the scripture is obviously pushing towards destruction. So dear anon, believe and accept whatever u like, ur bad not mine.

    11. Dear Anon, I understand that a lot of Christians do that... and it is wrong... I apologize if that's how maybel's comment came across. i'm sure she didn't mean to be rude or anything like that... I also understand that we can believe whatever we choose to believe... one of the most powerful powers(lol) God ever gave man is the power of choice. I believe my choice of being a christian doesn't make me superior to you... my only prayer for you is an encounter... *smile* do have a wonderful week! *hugs*

    12. *sigh... I'm still a christian

    13. Perhaps the Anon up there has not read that it is unlawful for Christians to take lives, even their own?

      "Thou shall not kill" applies to everyone + ourselves.


    14. Anon I am so angry at me, I just read your comments this morning. I am also so disturbed that all Christians around you haven't told about the "realness" of God.
      Dear even the Muslim faithful, idol worshippers of old and present day can testify that there is a supreme God. With regards to other religion you can think of, they believe in a supernatural being or force that controls earthly happenings. just as some preach the law of karma which oversee our deeds, work, actions, acts and the intent in relation to our present and future lives, they would attest to the existence of a force. The scientists would tell us the Big Bang story about explosion of light/energy, but a smart astrophysicist Robert Jastrow said that they still couldn't find the Force that caused the cosmic explosion. So if other religion believe in a force that hasn't got an explanation, why not belive mine? (Oba ta Ori, ta rise owo re) From what standpoint are you writing, Why would you say that God doesn't exist?

      Well it is your decision Anonymous, no coercion here, but if you want I can speak more to you about God standing at the door of your heart knocking. Always remember that little Blink once said "God is Real, e over real sef"

    15. My blog crush is back, with her calm words blink blink blink

    16. I always maintain that Theological debates on blogs are usually a waste of time between Theists and Atheists. Y'all have tried explaining to Anon but I would be shocked if your opinions aren't each greeted with serious #yimus. Roundtable discussion on Theology is the only way this can work.

  7. Yes I think about eternity often. Its like I have faith that God exists and I believe in him, but then the reality of heaven and hell was passed down to me. And on this note I would tilt to the catholic when the talk about purgatory. It makes perfect sense. And as to when last posterity was preached in my church I can't remember. But every Sunday there is a consciousness dropped in my heart of the reality of God and heaven and hell.

  8. I'm catholic and it's preached all the time, and at my fellowship (wwp) my pastor is always hammering on end times and so I'm not taking it for granted, this days my prayer points has changed. We all love money and success but whenever I go back to read revelations in the bible it reminds me that heaven and hell is real.

    1. Good to see a WWP member here. Pastor Opi ko.. I hear Heaven and Hell everyday and I TRY to live my life conscious of that.

      Doh Thelma. Life feels sweet when I read this blog. Its sweet though..

  9. Also I think out lives should not be lived with the consciousness of heaven or hell, our lives should be lived with the consciousness of God. All our efforts to reach God will be futile, God has already reached us through Christ. And we should live because Christ has reached . Shalom

  10. The thought of Heaven nd damnation is Always on my mind. I try to consciously strive to be better daily, but it's not easy.

    I always ask God for his grace, honestly the struggles of this world is too distracting.

    Churches nowadays ain't helping at all. When I'm in Church, (e don tey small). I ask the Spirit to open my heart, ears n inner self to discern the words from the Priest or Pastor.

    Some days going to church is just routine and I'd rather stay home than go hear about seed sowing

    1. My dear, I'm with you oh! This is just one of the ways I see it too

  11. I have a problem with that line of thought... "churches have become businesses and you have to keep your customers happy" chai! is this what Jesus died for? To keep people happy and coming to church... these days... the only messages I really listen to(or pay attention to)are messages about spiritual growth.
    The last time (heaven message) was preached was today. Topic was Divine examination. And during announcement, the evangelism group also spoke to the church for about 5 - 10 mins. If all your pastor talks about is prosperity, keys to wealth, demons, principalities, bondages, marriage, relationships and you listen to messages about heaven once or twice in a year... you are in the wrong congregation/church.
    I must admit that I don't think about heaven as frequently as I used to before... and it worries me a lot. Because, once you take your eyes off the price, focus is lost and the race becomes meaningless.
    This is not what Jesus died and suffered for! This is not what the martyrs died for. Don't let us rubbish Christianity by comparing it to business and customers! Na dis kain tin make Jesus commot cane dey flog people inside temple. We are doing the same thing these days. And it's sad.
    The church is where we are supposed to be reminded of the important things... why we are all here.. but these days... it seems to be more confused than the world. It is well.

    1. You might not like it, no one does really, besides the beneficiaries, but it doesn't change the fact that most churches these days are profit making organizations. Hell, I even saw "Customers are welcome" on a church banner in Onitsha, so what are we talking about?

      If I had a dollar for the number of times I've been asked to pay, sorry, sow seeds, for a prayer request, I would be richer. Someone dear to me just parted with 200k because pastor said "God wants to bless 19 people here!" Almost everyone rushed out but when pastor informed them that this particular blessing doesn't come free, in fact it comes with a 200k price tag and some gullible (or desperate) people were keen to be part of the 19, they parted with that cash...

      Bye byeeee.

    2. Exactly Thelma.

    3. Thelma Thelma lolz.

      There was a post on TNC some few weeks ago, a video on YouTube abt churches in america and their pastors 'living large' and a comedian talking abt it.
      You guys have got to watch it. Lol

      Anyways, I will just keep reading and commenting on comments while sipping Spurs chocolate milkshake.

    4. Hia. Uyi please they pay for advertisements on my blog. Warrizalldis? Spurs gini?

    5. Jesus didn't die because of heaven and hell, Jesus died because of love. He wanted to restore our fellowship with God and the restore to us that which was stolen by the enemy. Jesus died for love. I don't even know how to explain this well enough. Im not saying heaven and hell aren't real tho. All I'm saying is JESUS DIED FOR LOVE. BECAUSE HE LOVED AND WANTED TO SAVE US, AND SO THAT WE CAN LOVE ONE ANOTHER. Thereby bringing about the greatest commandment, love the Lord your God with all your heart.... Love your neighbour as your self.

    6. Uyi reads TNC too! Yay! That's like my latest addiction, been hooked for like 6 or 7months now...

      I watched that video too and I wept for the church... Azzin, some churches are just one big, giant scam! Its very very difficult these days to separate the wheat from the chaff. God help us o.

      The last time there was a specific message on rapture in my church was last month but they never cease to tell you to get right with God cos Jesus is coming soon.

      That said, I'm inclined to side with Iyanuoluwa on this. Jesus did not die for us to make heaven, he died to bridge the gap that sin put between man and God. He died to give us a relationship with God and that's why the bible says no one can get to the father except thru Jesus. Saying Jesus died to take us to heaven is trivialising his death. If that was the main purpose, all God had to do was rapure the "righteous" jews at that time.

      Christians who are trying to live a holy life so they can make heaven and leaving out the relationship with God are going to get a rude shock on that day cos Jesus is the way and if you dont know him or have a relationship with his father, there's no room for u in his kingdom. I have a friend who always says, "If God is not in heaven, I don't want to make heaven. What I want is to be where God is." And that is how we should live our lives. Not chasing heaven, but cultivating a relationship with God through Jesus.

    7. Iyanu, you didn't understand what I typed... I didn't say Jesus died because of heaven or hell. The point I was trying to make is.. Jesus didn't die for us to turn the church into a place of business or use his name to scam unsuspecting people. O yes he died to bridge the gap between God and man. He died because of the love he has for us and not forgetting... he died to redeem us from our sins and to save us from "destruction" John 3 v 16.

  12. Posterity is the real deal in my Church, not worldly prosperity. As a matter of fact, it was the same thing preached today vis-a-vis evangelism. No matter the topic he preaches on, even during vigils, my Pastor has a way of drumming eternity into our ears. He would often remind us of the need to walk in God's ways in order to inherit His kingdom. We are constantly reminded that either you serve God in truth and in spirit or not, you may become rich but for the salvation of our soul, we need not pursue worldly riches but keep Matthew 6:33 in mind at all times (this verse and Mark 16:15-our motto).

    Personally, in the last 2 years plus some months, I've deliberately desisted from doing some things just to be nearer to God for His Kingdom sake, not for what I stand to gain here on earth.

    Revelations 22:10-17.

    How could anyone claim to be a Christian and not believe in eternal life and eternal damnation?

    The time of repentance is now, just as it was in the days of Noah.


    1. This is rare. F please what church do you attend?

    2. The True Covenant Church of God
      Quite "unpopular" and young.


    3. Where is it located please?

  13. In almost all sermons in my church Eternity is preached and so is prosperity preached. I personally do not like the fuse against preaching prosperity, are we suppose to preach poverty?

    As Sasha rightly said, we tell you about GOD, and in HIM everything other thing is inclusive.

    1. Blink we have missed you! I was worried for a minute but I heard from the grapevine that everything's fine. Glad to have you back.

    2. Tee you know I miss you too right? And my lovely kabouy, bear hugs sucre

    3. Uyi gerrarahia! Jealousy!!!! *tongue out*

      Blink is here! Finally... where have you been dearieee... i'm guessing cccc delivered my msg! one kiss for her! :*
      Hope you're doing ok? Awesome! *hugs you right back*

  14. "...When last did you think about heaven or hell fire?.." Truth is I don't even think about hell because I believe I'm not a qualified candidate. And that "what matters is now" statement is a worrisome statement especially when posterity is shelved. JESUS never taught that, HE always taught in relation to HEAVEN. "My Father's House this...the Kingdom of Heaven that...". Teaching such a thing should compel us to be mindful of our planning. What if you preach prosperity and you die suddenly the next minute? No one knows his appointed time and Posterity Teaching is far more important than Prosperity Teaching. That's not to say both aren't important or aren't taught in Orthodox or Pentecostal Churches but we MUST have priorities...and the main priority now is HEAVEN. Let's stop focusing more on Posterity during funeral services (since that's almost the only time we remember death, HEAVEN, and hell) but focus on it everytime, everyday. Stay blessed.

    1. But come to think about it shaaaaaa, if I thought about heaven and hell everyday I might become a broke useless bum! LOL.

    2. Lmao!!!@funeral service! True though.

    3. Lmao. Naahh. Think Posterity (HEAVEN), think Prosperity. Do you have business with hell? 'cos I dunno what your beautiful mind is doing wandering towards that zone. :D

    4. Rotfl, broke useless bum? How kwaa Thelma? ☺☺☺☺☺☺

    5. Lmao Thelma, Cos u wil now be thinking "oh all is Vanity"!!!

    6. @Iyanuoluwa, by "priority" we're referring to either Prosperity or Posterity. Love is a virtue, a *tool* we use to get the prizes. I understand what you're trying to say but you're going of the focus of this debate. Without Love there is no Prosperity or Posterity, the point is: which is more important?

    7. Oh... Okay I get you, but I'll still say that both are important. Make sure you get to heaven but also influence lives here on earth

  15. Please na let's be considerate to people like me who might not know "regular" acronyms like WWP, TNC.
    It's not easy to use Google just to read comments.

    Posterity and prosperity are well preached in my church. I think it's mostly posterity and believing God even whenthings are rough.

    I agree with Blink on this "tell you about GOD, and in HIM everything other thing is inclusive." all we need is Faith and Obedience

    1. TNC is the naked convos. One blog full of very unwell people! Loool.

    2. Oh, thank you. Someone mentioned the naked convos to me just yesterday. Didn't know it's TNC.

  16. All the topics for Sunday school in the months of July and August were on posterity. I hear about it every sunday morning.

    One day, hubby said even if it was proven that Christianity is a fraud, he'd have no regrets because the doctrines helped in the formation of his character. Maybe we should think on this, would you regret the 'christian' life you're living?

    All I can think of right now is I could have been me, that drunk in the gutter, that addict shooting up some drugs into her veins, that prostitute, that convict serving time. I could go ........... I'm no better than them but grace found me and I'm thankful. For it is by grace that we are saved. I

  17. Funny, I just had an argument with someone a few days ago about a particular church (name withheld). I said I've been to the church 4 times in 2 weeks and not once had I heard any message on repentance, it was all about what God will do for you. Instead of what you should do for God. Then the person said they did altar call some weeks back but I missed it. Funny I experienced the "altar call" last sunday and it was just like Thelma described it in her post, it lacked conviction and substance and it was very brief, almost like an afterthought.
    I think we have to balance this, we can't just keep asking Him for blessings and favors but still go on to live a life of sin. It doesn't make sense. When Jesus said it shall be easier for a camel to pass through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the Kingdom of God, He wasn't just yarning. Most of us take this statement for granted, but let's look at what is happening today. When friends meet the most important thing on their minds is how we go make money (nobody cares about your spiritual state or other aspects of your life are), family members betray each other for money, people fornicate for money on saturday night and go to church on sunday morning and thank God for blessings, yahoo boys carry their laptops to church when the pastor says bring the tools of your trade for prayers. The list is endless. Who are we fooling really?
    The same reason Jesus destroyed the temple out of anger is the exact same thing we do today, people think that the best place to sell their products and services is in church.
    We need to pause for a bit and ask ourselves if we are really Christians at heart or just by lip service .

    The government is trying to start taxing churches because they've recognized how much of a profitable institution it is and the churches aren't accountable to anyone. The government wants their own share of the church bounty and who can blame them?

    I try not to enter arguments that involve the church but I must say that I have learned a lot from these comments... Thank you guys so much

  18. "Seek ye FIRST The Kingdom of GOD (Posterity), and HIS Righteousness, and all these things (Prosperity) shall be added unto you" - JESUS.

    Look for Heaven, and Riches will follow you. We all know who said that, just paraphrasing. Lol. Stay blessed y'all.

  19. I still maintain eternity/damnation shld be concentrated more in sunday skl and kiddies church, why? Cos its easier to capture the mind of a. Child than an adult. Jesus shared his message to adults who inturn passed it onto their kids afterall his ministry was for roughly 3yrs so yh,no time.
    When the bible said "teach ur child the way of the lord and he wldn't depart from it",it knew what it meant. There are people (even christians) who don't believe in heaven or he'll and you wonder why?
    I believe there's a diff between being anointed and being blessed and yh the blessings of God which not only doesn't add sorrow can't be measured on some Forbes matrix or standards. Having all u need and some is a blessing in itself.
    You can't pray to make heaven, ur actions determines that and even still...
    In summary, if u wanna hear about eternity and damnation, u knw where to go. If you wanna hear about Faith,Grace,Hope,Love,etc you knw where to

    1. You’re jumbling up your points to support an opinion that's difficult to grasp. You just said, "If you wanna hear about eternity and damnation, u know where to go", limiting Posterity teachings. Ok, but before that statement you said, "eternity/damnation should be concentrated more in Sunday school and kiddies’ church". LOL. How can you discourage adults, who are technically closer to the grave than kids, from hearing more about Heaven, just because it’s easier to convince a kid more than it is an adult? Is that what JESUS had in mind when HE *realized* HE had "no time"? So that the adults HE taught could teach their kids?

      Also it seems you delved from the focus of this debate when you listed these virtues, FAITH, HOPE, and LOVE. These virtues play ALL major roles in Prosperity and Posterity teaching and GRACE is acquired immensely from these virtues. This isn’t what we’re talking about. Which is most important from Prosperity and Posterity teaching? What you should be worried about is the way both are taught, they’re both important teachings, not saying kids should focus more on Heaven and adults should focus more on…whatever, because JESUS had 3 years to minister. What about the Apostles? Did they focus more on other teachings than Posterity teachings?


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We talked for a while and and and and and and
See how you are serious dey read this story....!


A side chick is commonly known as a mistress or a woman that’s romantically involved with a man who is in a committed relationship.  However after doing some reflecting, I realize that’s not the only type of side chick.  I want to discuss “the new side chick”–a woman who decides to stay by a man’s side after he has expressed his lack of relationship intentions with her through his words or actions.  So many women have made this mistake at least once in their lifetime, and unfortunately I’ve done the same thing. I like to think of the new side chick as an appetizer.  You’re there just to satisfy the immediate appetite of the man, but as soon as that mouth-watering entrée comes out to the table, you will get pushed to the side, literally.  Why?  Because that entrée is what he really wanted; he went to the restaurant to order steak, not hot wings.  You were just a placeholder, fling, temporary commitment, or  maybe even just a “good ol time” until what he really wanted was presented to hi…


I'm in an amebo mood tonight. Don't ask me, I honestly don't know why. Also I'd like to share too but I'd do that anonymously in the comment section. Tonight I want to talk about secrets. It's ok, we can all be anonymous. 
Is it true that EVERYBODY has a secret? 
Is there anyone here who doesn't have a secret? I'd really like to know; You're a completely open book and there's not ONE thing about you that you wouldn't mind other people knowing about? Please raise your hands up. 
And for the rest of us, what's something about you that no one knows, or very few people know? Who's got a dark secret here, or a weird one, or a funny one even? I really don't mean to be invasive but I don't want to be the only one sharing, plus I think hearing other people's secrets is quite fun, don't you think?

Let's Be Random Together! (Open Keypad).

Hey guys, a while back blog reader F said something about creating an Open Keypad post, where you can write whatever you want in the comment section. I thought it was a fun idea!
So who is interested? Comment on anything you feel like, ask me or anyone a question, talk about how your day went, your job, your interests, tell us something about you that we don't know, share a testimony with us, rant about anything you feel like, talk about your crush/boo/spouse/relationship/marriage, challenges you're facing, ANYTHING AT ALL! 
I'll only make one request; that we stay civil. 

(F it was you who made this suggestion, right? I'm not too sure and I can't even remember the post the comment was made on). 
BTW please Ejoeccome out come out, wherever you are!

Adventures, Fun, Friendship & Laughter at the TTB Hangout (Lekki Conservation Center).

Nicole to Clare: mummy lets go. I want to climb that ropy thing!

Isn't Clare beautiful?!

Uyi et moi. Clowning. 

Mother & child. 

Scary af! Trish on the ramp. The chica loves the outdoors so much, she was like a kid in a candy store. She and Uyi took this walk twice! More power to them, you can't pay me to do this a second time.

Uyi & Tiwa

Question of The Day.

TTB readers doesn't this tweet below remind you of something?
That mail that someone sent me a few weeks back. 
But why on earth should a man sleep with his son's fiancé? But what am I saying, some men even sleep with their daughters...

Oh well, I'm throwing the question to you. What has happened in your life that you never saw coming, you never hesperred it, you never imagined could happen, you never imagined could happen to you? 
It could be good, it could be bad, it could be ugly. Do tell!
And it can be more than one. Let me tell you a few. 
-owning a blog -week long dry fast at Prayer City (I never hesperred it).  -staying in an (emotionally) abusive relationship.
The others require anonymity. LOL. Now over to you.