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Does She Need More Life Experience? (Dating Significantly Older Man).

I'm 22 years old and I'm dating a 37year old guy. He is mature, fun loving, sensitive and he loves me. Being Nigerian, I was skeptical about introducing such a "mature"man to my family as I didn't give much thought to his age. We met at a conference and have been dating for a year long distance. We see each other every two months as we both travel frequently with work. He wants us to take it to the next level and has been pushing conversations towards us being in the same country and settling down. This is like my first serious relationship and I have major anxiety. Some days I'm really into him and how experienced and responsible he is and somedays I feel I have to experience more of life

before I commit deeply. I love him and how our relationship works but I can't help my occasional panic. Is marrying a significantly older man early advisable or should I wait, date more and experience more? #AgeDifference #Couples #LongDistance #Relationships

Today's chickchat with @conniegirlswag 

The lady asked a question I find interesting. Does one really need to have more life experience before getting married? I remember back then in the university, in my early twenties, we had a few classmates who were getting married then at ages 20, 21 or 22. Some of us would snigger when asked if we'd want to and say "no, I feel like I have to experience life more deeply" or some variation. Now at 30 I wonder if it makes any difference if one "experiences life" before venturing marriage or not, I really don't think so. What do you think?

Oh, there's also that talk about women who get married at such an early age (without "experiencing life") and how they're likely to go haywire and start acting out later on, probably have extramarital affairs, become party animals or generally totally different people, because they didn't get the opportunity to "experience life" and do other things their mates were doing when they were doing it. True?

Just boarded. It might take me a short while to approve comments. Please bear with me. 


  1. My only issue with significantly older men is them using the age-factor to intimidate and enforce respect.
    If they are on the same page, why not if not?

  2. Marriage is a union between a matured man and a matured woman. It takes maturity to commit to marraige , whether u are 18(when KANU's wife married him) or whether u choose to do urs in Ur 30s. It takes a maturity.

    So to me, so far u are mentally matured to understand what marriage entails before entering it. You are alright.

    As for the age difference, it matters not to the heart. And the heart is what matters.

    Oshiomole n his boo is an example. Even one other pretty lady(forgotten d name) who also married a billionaire businessman.

  3. Well, most times maturity comes with age, but notwithstanding we still have people growing old without growing up. Sometimes as we grow older, we discover decisions we prolly would have taken @ much younger ages, we tend to give them more thought before taking when we grow older. Personally I feel if I had gotten married even two to three years ago it would have been a disaster. If she has doubts, she should stall a little and clear her doubts before taking the big bold step.

  4. If that is what the op wants and they are both matured about it then no wahala. No one can really make that decision for you but you.

    So make it and stand by it and stop thinking what other think or not.

  5. Marriage is all about maturity and understanding. Although some people may frown about the age difference but what is most important is love, communication, respect and tolerance.
    Bv i need your prayers i am down with malaria.

    1. You'll be fine, hope you are getting medical help.

      As for the post, babe has doubts and why not? I mean she's quite young. She should take her time

    2. Pele, you are healed in Jesus Name.

      Don't forget to take your meds sha

  6. Why does he want to steal her groove? Personally I wouldn't marry anyone below 26-27 because from experience the younger girls still have so much more to live through before really knowing what they want and being mature enough not to get easily carried away.
    That being said it totally depends on the individual at the end of the day, I know sisters who were quite young, one of them decided she wanted to settle at 22 and she did and they seem quite happy right now. The other sis is now 27 and still more interested in clubbing and dating hot boys.

  7. Age difference is much though....more like two different generations. I don't like.
    But then, I don't think 22 is too young an age to get married though.

  8. For me, it's all about maturity and the ability to understand each other.
    Personally I prefer older guys although I might not go with someone with whom the age difference is more than 10 years

  9. I think the girl should give it some time. I doubt she will feel the same way (lovey dovey) when she is 24. What's the hurry.

    These months off seeing each other isn't enough, when a man wants you, he'd move olumo rock. After that, pray he behaves.

    The age factor is key. They need to spend more time together and see if "her" feelings pan out.

  10. My question is: when is the right age to marry? I actually believe that, for career oriented young ladies, marriage should be at age 26 $ above. This gives them enough time to at least, start the career path before being lost in marriage and another family.
    But then, I am being told that if you marry the RIGHT person, you two can build a career together. How true is this? What if your career paths don't cross? What if the marriage makes you forget the dreams you had for yourself as a young girl?

  11. I cannot catch such relationships... They have different view, thoughts etc. But my friend advised me reading , she told that this article will change my mind!) I'll try!)


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