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Does Size Really Matter? #Proposal #Weddings #Ring.





This Article is inspired by an interesting story I heard from a close friend about a guy who proposed to his 2 year girlfriend with a ring which could be referred to as a "Full Stop" or a "Dot ring" i.e the rock was so small and displeasurable to her. She accepted the ring but didn't wear it often or put the standard ring finger picture on social media. After a few weeks her boyfriend got angry and confronted her about not posting the ring out there or telling anyone, she lashed out and said this isn't the ring of "my" dreams. .

They got into a fight which eventually led to their breakup. 


Wait, whaaat? This morning I read a quote to single men that don't want to get married; "I pray you don't meet a woman that wants to marry, more than she wants to marry you". The lady above obviously doesn't want a marriage. She wants the huge rock everyone can gush over on Instagram. She wants the Bella Naija wedding and people tapping into her luck at the sighting of the skillfully photographed pictures. She wants the flair and glamour of being a new bride. But marriage, she does not. Any wonder why many young people's marriages are dead on arrival these days? Priorities people. Priorities! 
Continue to read what Joro Olumofin had to say. 


My question; Does the size of the ring or rock matter in saying yes to your man? 

This issue requires a situational approach or solution as we all have different personalities, family background, or orientations. .

Psychologically and in my opinion a ring should serve as a symbol of love or an interest in starting a new life with another person, the price of the ring should be based on ur pocket or account at the time, if a big or small ring comes it's the gesture / idea that someone wants to spend the rest of their life with you that matters. .

Most guys want to give their lady a big rock but what if there are more pressing issues like rent, business projects, health issues ; will a man leave these things or empty his account for a Big Diamond Rock? .

As a couple you can always upgrade your ring in time as you grow financially. Social media and competition amongst friends has made it a " sine qua non" I.e an essential for ladies to have a big rock, some ladies have been proposed to change the way they walk or place their fingers a certain way so the world can see, if that ring was very small/tiny/cheap would u walk and put your hand in a way that will blind our eyes? Do what works for you in your own clime. Don't pass on a good man because of variable which can be made a constant in time! 


The above was written by psychologist @Joroolumofin. 

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So ladies, how do you react when the ring you get is far beneath your dream ring? Turn it down? Accept it but buy yourself another one? Accept it but never wear a ring? What say you?

Comments

  1. I actually never had a dream ring...all i knew was i wanted a nice ring from the man of my dreams and i got that and am happy.

    I think social media has influenced a lot of people, a friend's boyfriend got her a ring and she sneakily saw it and told me she does not like it and hopes he wont propose with that after years of been together and what will people say when they see the ugly ring? I was shocked and asked if the ring makes a solid foundation for marriage!
    But yeah,we all have different dreams!
    Thelma, do you have a dream ring?

    Jackie

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  2. No b ring I wan chop, I would accept whatever ring he proposes with and gladly flaunt it before the world. No one should compare herself with those instagram people because some of them live a fake life.

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  3. When you are truly in love the size, shape and cost of the ring is irrelevant....

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  4. I don't even want an engagement ring sef. So I don't know what d fuss is about. Gimme a blinged out wedding band and I'm great. The babe who obsess over wedding rings are crazy. I know someone who didn't display her ring/proposal because it was not done spectacularly. She wanted dubai, guy did it in his house in abuja. She was vexed for days. Oh well, different people and their needs

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  5. Diamonds are forever,right? Irrespective of the size, that is.

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  6. My husband (then boyfriend) knew rings was one of my favorite accessories, we were in a relationship we both knew was heading for the altar. He chose the ring but
    I had an idea of the kind of ring I wanted to wear, I made sure I hinted every now and again on my preferred style (showed him pictures sef). I don't like rings with big rocks, I prefer them set into the metal. Its an accessory I will wear for the rest of my life so it might as well be something I enjoy looking at everyday.

    He picked out and purchased the ring all by himself without my knowledge and ended up proposing when I didn't expect but it was with a ring I loved and I'm still in love with.

    A little nudge in the right direction can go a long way. As for the babe in the narrative, I think it was evident that they weren't meant for each other if that kind of issue can dissolve the planned union. They are better off apart, they both need to gain some more maturity before venturing into marriage.

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  7. Funny enough those "huge stones" most times are not even the real thing sef. If you want such a huge ring have a very small wedding and spend the money on a ring(the price for the hall alone will buy you a huge ring) A girl that is bothered about a ring size is not serious yet..... when you can always change your ring. I blame social media for all the unrealistic expectations of young people now. J

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  8. The size doesn't really jare. All na for show and social media. As i am here patiently waiting for him to come, i will still form untop size of ring too? God forbid.
    Le boo biko hurry up oooo

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  9. I guess this is not for some of us that don't even use rings... lool!

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  10. Rings are not my thing, generally speaking. When I was still wearing my wedding band, I was doing so because hubby wanted it; I did not care and I still do not care much for it.

    How I wish men could propose with things like C of O of a nice building, documents of a parcel of land at a choice location, share certificates or other forms of investment in my name. I'd rather a man invests the money in my name rather than invest it in a ring which could get stolen or lost (I lost a lot of solid gold jeweleries. Some were snatched; others just found a way of getting lost without me finding them)

    -F

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    1. Hahahahahaaaaa! F! That's my kind of proposal too... C of O.. bonds... you know... that kind of tin... loool!

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    2. lol... C of O abi? ori e wa mbe!

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  11. Those who bother about size are the ones trying to compete with others or just want to show off. True we all have our dream ring but that shouldn't be a determinant to saying yes or no to our le boo especially when he ticks almost all the boxes.


    Would accept the ring either small or big as long as he treats me right.

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  12. This ring issue eh... a friend of mine got his wife a nice 2carat diamond ring, it's set into the metal really pretty. But just cos it didn't have a huge blinding stone at the centre like kim kays own, and he couldn't even afford it, he decided to get her another one that had a huge stone (sterling silver with cubic zirconia stones) I asked him why and his response was that the other ring tho diamond was not huge enough to fit into his dream... so you see it's not just women that obsess over rings. He would rather she wears a huge fake ring than a small original one.

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  13. I don't blame social media, I blame those who choose to be controlled by social media... whatever he brings is what he wants and can afford, I will gladly collect it and appreciate it...

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  14. It is no longer the size of the man's tool. Now it's the size of the stone on the ring. What do women really want???? #Puzzled

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    1. LMAO @big things.

      I didn't even know that size of rocks now matter in a relationship/marriage. This era scares me, and it's definitely going to be scarier in the next 20 years with the way we're going.

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  15. If you propose to a girl that lives her life on Instagram then you know what to expect. We are a very shallow generation.

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  16. Different folks want different things. I wanted a nice ring and even hinted my husband at what I wanted...he entertains a lot of my excesses, so I got one way bigger than I expected. One thing I have always said is dont buy me cubic zirconia- don't insult my intelligence. Simply tell me we can't afford it. I never wanted a big wedding, neither have I ever had a dream wedding- so that part was not important to me. I was fine with just the registry.

    I have a nice ring that didn'tmake it onto social media until my wedding pictures showed up. The catch is tokeep costs overall within your means and if you own anything above a carat - single stone insure it if its a decent quality diamond.

    My gripe with many youger women who shout about stone size is they can't tell the difference between cubic zirconia and a diamond...at this point folks are just doing themselves. There is nothing wrong with wanting diamond, however if your desire for the diamond outweighs your desire for your union, then you aren't ready. No one has ever said you cannot buy your own diamonds or upgrade your ring.

    www.pynk360.com

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  17. Well,without supporting the chick,i believe we all have right to like what we like! Some love blings,some don't. Making ur woman happy shld be ur priority as he future husband and if a nice ring makes her happy, pls indulge her...

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    1. and what if he can't afford it??does it make him any less of a future hubby???

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    2. And is that the excuse she wld get all thru? A ring is a big deal (for me too). When the going gets tough,looking at a beautiful rock on my finger wld remind of some things. You can call it vain or shallow but like I said,we like what we like and me, I love big, heavy and shiny...

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    3. I expected you to have a different opinion and as usual, you didn't disappoint.
      I support your opinion on this.

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  18. Lol... women sha. So you throw the relationship away because of a ring? This our generation ehn? Can you imagine?

    For me, I wouldn't know the difference between a diamond and a cubic zirconia if they were staring at me(gotta go learn tho...if i can) so the ring doesnt matter as long as its nice.

    Seriously tho, if your boo goes out of his way to get you a nice ring that's within his budget, you should appreciate it. But, if you want to start soaking garri after the wedding, you can tell him to use his life's savings to buy you the biggest rock at tiffany's.

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  19. She is not serious. Size doesn't matter. Y didn't she in a subtle manner tell d guy then sell it n buy the type she wants for herself. Shay she wan wear big rock.

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  20. I re-read the story. Lol. The guy is a clown. So he's the one vexing that she didn't put it up on social media? Is it that he didn't see the type others put up on the social media? So he like attention? Champagne life on alomo budget...hiss

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    1. Lmappp @ champagne life on alomo budget! Walahi! Sasha bone is not very okay! Hahahahahaaa!

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    2. Lmao... Sasha ehn you will not kill somebody

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