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Just Can't Deal!

Last night my friend Jibola* calls me, all irate and impatient. He tells me that he and bae broke up about a month ago and she's returned the ring. But that's not why he was calling. 

About a year ago Jibola (who was once a boo, of sorts) approached me to incorporate two companies for him. He made a deposit and I began the process. After the names were approved I got him the forms and and gave him directions on how to fill them. He wanted to sign and hand them to me immediately but then I told him, "No, you can't be the only director in a limited liability company. Get at least one other person and apportion some of the shares to them, the amount is at your discretion". He asked me whom I suggest he get and I remember stating clearly that if he didn't have any partners in the business that could come on board as directors, he should add a family member, either his parent(s) or any of his siblings. He's got at least four siblings and they're all adults, so he had a big pool to pick from. I explained that It's got to be someone that he can trust and hold accountable. A director is entitled to a portion of your company to the extent of the shares assign to him/her. That's why if you're registering with no business partners, trusted immediate family members are your next best option.  

So I was surprised when he came to me with the signed forms and the name of his other director was his girlfriend's, with her signature. It wasn't my place to ask or know why, for all I knew they were in business together; in which case it made sense for her to be a director. And they were indeed planning to get married at the time, so... 

Now Jibola no longer wants to her as a director of his companies. That's a looooong thing, contrary to what he thought it's not by 'tipexing' her name and signatures off the forms! I explained the odious process and told him  that if I'm going to handle it, it comes with my legal fees, in addition to what it would cost at CAC. My dear friend says that I should handle it and adamantly says he's not paying a dime for the work. He says that I should have told him that this could happen. Huh?

He's done my head in. First off, my job is simply to carry the details you give me to CAC and get the job done, provided everything is in order and in accordance with CAC regulations, which I ensure it is (was, in his case). But I even went further and told him who he could use and why. Unfortunately love was shacking him and he made her a director. How on earth is that my fault? Please how was I to know that they would break up? How was I to convince him not to use her without sounding like a jealous ex? Was I supposed to force a grown man to make his family member(s) his director(s) if he didn't want to, is that even my place? For all I knew the business belonged to them both or she was an investor, wouldn't it then be ridiculous for me to say "nna, don't make this babe a director"?

Eishhhh! I'm way too busy to start my week with this headache biko. 

Y'all need to really think about the decisions you make when you're in love. Just saying...

*aproko mode activated* speaking of decisions you make when you're drunk in love with someone, is there any you've made that you later came to regret? Spill biko! Hehehe (just last night we were talking about this chica that tattooed Le boo's name on her nether region. Now Le boo don waka. Classic example of regrettable action caused by love. LOL)


  1. Lol one chance. The guy is funny though, I guess he said he wouldn't pay because the whole thing is still fresh, and T,u should have told him in a way that wouldn't make him see you as a jealous ex,depends on d kind of person he is,the guy should take a chill pill biko,it has happened and solution is tyr next thing and not blames. Back to making decisions when in love, na tatoo bin dry reign one time,my neighbor had her ex boos name on her waist and its been two years since they separated now she wants to cover it up but the fear of tatoo pains is d beginning of wisdom for her. Lols. I don't take decision I would regret later when dating someone, never I don't, when we learn not soak in all our emotions when in love then I guess we wouldn't be crying foul after break up,I remember an ex suggesting we do something fetish back den to make our love strong and I said never ,the dude went all u don't love me,yadayadayada and bla bla bla,I dust my slippers sharparly no time biko. Long epistle, chaiiii,sowwy.

    1. Long epistle ke, O'girl,you be learner where oga Chrisyinks dey o.

    2. Abeg leave our legendary Chrisyinks oh!!! Bloggitup you just dey find trouble! Lmao!!!!

  2. When "love is shacking", Red (danger) looks kinda Pinkish. Been there, done that, phlenti phlenti regrets. Lol.

    1. I see ur speaking in the accent of ur boss...

    2. As you noticed I'm enjoying the accent. Lol.

      *tongue out*

  3. Torrr! Story story..... No mind the guy abeg, what was he thinking when he made her a director. Shuuuu!

  4. I once drowned in lake chad for le'boo.#Ghostmode.

    If I hear say I do anything stupid in the name of love?

  5. Will he keep kwayet! LOL. Which part of ''I explained that It's got to be someone that he can trust and hold accountable. A director is entitled to a portion of your company to the extent of the shares assign to him/her.'' did he not hear? The guy should park well abeg.
    One of my sisters' apprentice has ''I love Kayode'' written on her arm and from the story we heard, she cheated on the so- called ''Kayode'' with another man and got pregnant whom she later married.

  6. Will he keep kwayet! LOL. Which part of ''I explained that It's got to be someone that he can trust and hold accountable. A director is entitled to a portion of your company to the extent of the shares assign to him/her.'' did he not hear? The guy should park well abeg.
    One of my sisters' apprentice has ''I love Kayode'' written on her arm and from the story we heard, she cheated on the so- called ''Kayode'' with another man and got pregnant whom she later married.

  7. Story for the gods. Did he really refuse to pay? Because you supposedly didn't advise him right?

    Peeps should always learn to take responsibility for their actions and in actions. When someone suggested a family member and you went and brought a fiance, does married and almost married sound alike? This is a non issue biko. If he won't pay for the service, biko don't render. And if/when he decides to pay, let him pay 80% of the fees upfront so there will be no stories that touch later.


  8. Lol..make the guy take heart.

    He is still hurting,when he calms down he will definitely pay the money to remove ex-le boo's name.

    Who send am work before?

  9. And I never done anything I regret so far in a relationship and thankfully so.

  10. Love love love...
    Fuck love, I'm tired of trying... My heart beats but it beats quiet.

    1. Uyi who hurt you? Love itself is a beautiful thing but we're often collateral damage, and that's what sucks... But we'll be fine Uyi, of that I'm certain.

    2. Lols,Thelma calm down,that's a line from the track Deuces...

    3. Hia. Which of the Deuces please? I had no idea and I doubt it, but either ways there's nothing wrong with borrowing quotes.

      ***Now that I drop lines worthy of A list rappers I think it's time to switch careers***

    4. Not ur comment boo, talking bout Uyi'

  11. Thelma there are many lawyers in Nigeria. You might consider setting yourself apart by giving some additional services. In this case, further advising him when he came back with his girlfriends signature- I know I know you couldn't be bothered, but imagine you had voiced out your concerns I'm sure your ex would today have appreciated your extra effort.
    Everything is not always about money- it's called added value and that's what sets those in way advanced climes apart from us.
    Outside the country you go for a pap smear, na you fix appointment oh. Still before you part your legs the doctor or nurse will read you all the rights in the world and even describe what they are about to do to the last even though it might not be your first time.
    I'm sure you know where I'm going- supposed little things like this set them apart even though you might argue its to prevent lawsuits and bla bla at the end of the day it's still value added.
    Just think about it, be that lawyer that's outstanding!

    1. I voiced my concerns, I told him the import of choosing wisely, I advised him to use family, I told him why. Yet he made his decision which is entirely his prerogative, reminding me that they will soon be man and wife.
      Being a lawyer means you also have to be an adviser and inform clients of every possible/probable outcome, good and bad, that's part of my work ethic. I did this yet he made his choice. I can't imagine what else I could have possibly done...

  12. Lol. Thelma i have patience. I aint signing anything with non..relatives or lovers. People just be acting funny...even marriage can be undone in this life.


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