Ever since I moved to Europe, I have no plans of permanently returning home. There is this spirit of freedom and independence that possesses you in the white man´s land. Germany in particular, provides women with plenty of opportunities. Marriage? before 35-40? Not here oh. Men and women are in competition for financial success and lucrative jobs. Each time I visit my birth country, relatives dnt care about what I do for a living or how successful I am. The first question is “So my daughter, where is your husband? When are you getting married? You know time is no longer on your side” and I am only 25 oh. My mates in africa are on to their 3rd kids already but my mates in Germany are busy building up their CVs and furthering their education. This difference in society is very disturbing. The african society denies women the opportunity to realize their full potential and fulfill their dreams. Getting married is priority. A woman who has low education but married is more respected than a single woman who is financially and academically successful! this is truly disturbing.
I followed the comment thread on a Bella Naija post yesterday and the comments were rather interesting. The comment that followed the one above was in agreement with it, with the poster stating; Nigerian women are unambitious.
These comments were under Charly Boy's article where he said that in Nigeria, regardless of a woman's success or achievements, if she's not married she's seen as incomplete. Do you agree with this?
Well opinions were diverse and very interesting. Most people agreed that in Nigeria a woman is nothing, if she's unmarried. Others said that Nigerian women are simply unambitious.
So who's to blame; Society? Or the woman for her lack of ambition? Or is society simply to blame for the woman's lack of ambition?
As mothers of the next generation, we would do well to break this cycle and raise our daughters with CEO as an end goal and not Mrs as the be all and end all. Our mothers made that mistake but we (ought to) know better. #bethechangeyouwanttosee.