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Run, Little Girl RUN!!!

You're such a pretty young thing, your beauty is still untouched, untainted, saintly. You're green, still green, yet to embark on hurt's journey. Green, leafy green, not yet jaded, not yet faded. Run, while you're still ahead. 

He stands tall, his shoulders wide and broad, fanning his slender hips. He just got a shave; sharp and modern. His white native is very well tailored, he looks like a million bucks. He's got the right words, the right lines, always knows the right thing to say. And it doesn't matter if he's flawed when he says "I'm making you mine, I'm not here to play". I know he makes you weak in the knees but those legs need to be strong, you need them to run. Run, little girl run, while you're still ahead. 

He's something new and different, something exciting, something mysterious. There's just something so sexy about something that might be dangerous. But with this Prince Charming there can be no danger, your happiness is the only thing for which he's desirous. When you're with him you're happy, you're excited, you're delirious! You try to hide it but you can't hide the obvious. Run, baby girl run!!!

After church service last night I met up with a friend at The Palms for a movie. I ran into my Ex, who happened to be on a date. When I looked at the chic he was with, my heart melted. Classic case of the Lion and the lamb. *Lekan is so going to slaughter this girl! This first word that came to my mind was RUN!!!

She's so young, about 21 or 22, but it's not just the age, it's her wide eyed innocence, her vulnerability, her naïveté. There's something so open and trusting about her that made me want to wrap her in my shawl and take her home to her mummy. 

Barely an hour after they left Lekan called me. The call is actually to gauge my reaction, to weigh if I'm upset or nah. I assured him I'm not upset, I'm just worried. 

"About what?" He asks. I say; "Lekan, that babe. Please nau guy! Couldn't you find someone else? Couldn't you find somebody wey don tear eye like you? Why do you want to scatter that innocenty?"

Lekan laughs, a very sinister and knowing laugh. "Seriously, she's so innocent. Why do you want to do this, you know you just want to f***!" . More laughter, he's not denying it. He knows I'm right, we both know I know him too well and he can't BS me. "Seriously though, sometimes look at these girls like your sister. How would you feel if someone did what you're doing, to your sister?"

"Abeg abeg abeg. She's not my sister jare!" he says dismissively, ending that conversation. "But Val, I dey miss you ooo", he says. I smile, and SMH. Lekan is the only person who still calls me Valerie...

I can't stop thinking about her, and I send her my best wishes wherever she is. 
     But then maybe it's just as well, maybe this is her rite of passage into womanhood... there must be battle scars on this journey, she's found her first conqueror but she will survive it, we always do. And it will make her stronger and wiser... I wish I could say it always does. Unfortunately some of us never get wiser. We keep falling for the same types of jerks that use our hearts to play ping pong... (This is only pardonable if you're still in your 20s IMHO)

It's that mystery I've never been able to unravel; why do good girls love bad guys? Why do bad guys love good girls? Why don't they date girls that are just as "bad" as they are? Not fair!

Do you remember your very first heartbreak? Yay if you do, who was it, how old were you, how long did it take you to get over him/her.  Spill, I've got nothing but time today! My heart has be broken like plate, shredded like suya, torn like paper, too many times to remember the first one sef. Smh! 


  1. Come take some e-hugs T. God will men that heart in time.

    I feel sorry for that young girl as well. She probably thinks it's love.
    Lekan will get his dose of karma in time as well.

  2. "Why do bad guys love good girls? Why don't they date girls that are just as "bad" as they are? " i just dont get it you know..... just why?!


    1. Hmmm..Are you trying to tell us something Kabuoy? Do you love bad boys? :D

    2. *clears throat* seeing that I have a crush on you... you tell me! lmaooo!

      Anyway... I don't like bad guys... I'm just confused as to why they run after good girls... that's the question i'm asking. shikenah!

  3. U have said it all T,she has through pass through this stage,90% of women pass through this stage to get to woman hood,it makes most of us stronger and some of us still fall for it in as much as we try not to. A bad will not wanna go for a bad girl because the bad girls know what dey want,their paroles and what they are capable of doing(the bad guys) Sometimes I just pity girls, I see a very bad guy who goes on a date with a 20-23 years old girl who isn't experienced yet and I just shake my head and I wish I could go close to d girl and tell her NNE u are with wrong guy. My first heartbreak was at 20,I started dating him at 18,two years after secondary school, he was 25,just got his first job with a bank after nysc and he was transferred to Abuja, we were still communicating until after a month when he suddenly stopped calling, I didn't mind I still continued calling but I noticed I was doing d pushing, after few months he broke the news to me,said I was too young for him n he doesn't wanna spoil me(we never had sex though, he was afraid to touch me),I cried for weeks, I suddenly fell sick, was in hospital for close to a month. I was a child but I knew what it felt like,he was my first,though we are best friends now cos he is married, it took me months to get better, I couldn't imagine we were no more, I enjoyed my relationship with him,he saw me as his kid sis and will always flaunt me when we go out. Heartbreak is something I don't wish my enemy cos trust me it's a terrible thing ,even at my present age of 23 I still find it hard to recognize a play boy.

    1. Eiya Pele o, I know how you feel. Till now if I'm in a wedding and I see the one that broke my heart I lose my appetite instantly, for food and alcohol. It's serious mental anguish.

  4. I'm afraid to start typing this because it might be long and there's no time so please forgive me if I don't properly get my msg across.

    The thing is that most relationships are made of one person with high confidence and another with not so high confidence. Good girls love bad boys because the bad boys have that high confidence that makes up for what the good girl lacks in self esteem, they feel somehow validated by the attention from the bad boy.
    Bad boys usually don't go for bad girls because they are on the same confidence level, the bad girl can spot their bs from a mile away and honestly they don't have the patience it will take to convince her otherwise. Plus bad guys know what these bad girls have done in the past and vice versa, so it's a case of not wanting to be with their type because deep down they know their type is horrible.

    Thus brings be to a thought I had while I was reading the comments on the disrespect post... Sometimes women are the ones that confuse us because some of them don't know what they want. I've always been a very respectful guy with very respectful friends and we've heard women say that they can't date us because we're too nice or too sweet, they want a hard or a real man. Now when you see the man they end up with you know his someone that doesn't treat them as good as the nice guy did, but they'd rather stay there. Well I guess it still boils down to the confidence thing. Somewhere deep down they don't believe they deserve a good man.

  5. Never had a boyfriend, just a close friend I met online, but he stopped talking to me after a while because I couldn't date him. Infact our friendship started and ended online; never saw him face to face. I was hurt then but I'm over it now. As for heartbreak I don't know what or how it feels like.

  6. My first heart break was when he died in a car crash and my heart broke literally . I'm ashamed to say but he was married but he's the only man who treated me well daddy inclusive. And then I met this igbo boy with sweet mouth, I remember the first day we met, he said I looked so innocent cos I didn't make my hair and I was looking all natural, he lied a lot of times but I still stayed cos I loved his sweet mouth. Everything I did and was was perfect to him and he told me and that kept me there. I met the hubster and moved on. I still speak to me ex but I know one day I'll have to cut off all communication s, but untill then... I've spoken too much now.

  7. Am even vexing for the guy

    Let hopes she gets out of it without regrets.

    About heartbreaks....never had one and I don't pray to.

  8. Never been heartbroken... and I was very active in the dating pool when I was single. I guess I have a natural bullshit detector, once it starts buzzing I know it's time to say sayonara. No time...

    1. Me too.. I can relate. Never been heart broken cos I smell bullshit even before it starts. I don't give excuses for guys at all n i guard my heart jealousy. My ex keeps saying I broke his heart..Anyway, we parted ways well n we've both moved on.

  9. Ah Tee some of your blog readers are lucky o...void of heartbreak AKA mgbawa obi......the girl or lady is an adult and can speak for herself nevertheless that ex of yours has heart shaaa....

  10. There has been this guy asking me out for almost 4 years now...I was 15 at then and he should be nothing less than 30...I can't see me dating him,,,he acts real cool headed but I don't understand why he would want to date a little girl like me..
    On some days I feel.guilty n others I am damn angry,,,like why will he be doing this... Is love or paedophilism??? Would you let your younger sister date someone like that??


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After listening to a song "IF YOU LOVE SOMEBODY TELL THEM THAT YOU
LOVE THEM and watching the season film of The Secret Life of
American Teenagers. ..when Amy Jeugerns mum told her "you are only
young once". LOL that part got me.
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electrovalent bonds....

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