Two Sundays ago when I attended service at HOTR PH, couples who wed the previous day were brought forward and the husbands gave brief speeches. Each one praised his wife for being such a good woman, for being exceptionally beautiful and kind hearted, for roughing it out through the rough times and sticking with them. But this one groom, whose speech ironically was the longest, only seemed to praise his wife for one thing; her cooking.
He went on and on and on about how she's a good cook, how he's an igbo man and she's a kalabari woman and she spoils him with both Igbo and Rivers delicacies, about how there's nothing she cannot cook and how he is thankful for a future lifetime of good food. It was only towards the end that he added, albeit unconvincingly; "and as you can see she is beautiful".
Made me wonder, why so much ado about cooking! My friend told me about her mum's extremely beautiful friend who was in a very abusive marriage. She then added "it was when we grew up that we now understood why her husband used to beat her like a mad man; she couldn't cook!"
Since when is that enough reason, or reason at all, to beat a woman?
In any case, this cooking thing is obviously more serious than I thought, see this mail a young man just sent to @Nigerianwedding on Instagram:
now- and I really do like her. However, she's such a terrible cook (un edible) ! I do really love food and a woman that can cook as well. I can't see us going strong like I would have wanted because of this and contemplating breaking up with her. Would it be rude to tell her I am breaking up with her because she's a bad cook?! Also, should I enroll her in a cooking class?! she can be super sensitive
sometimes-and can take it to be a bad gesture)"
Hmmmm, what advice would you give this man?
Ladies, let's talk, on a scale of one to ten (1-10) how good is your cooking?
-Think it's your role as a woman/duty to cook for your man?
-Do it just because it makes him happy?
Fellas, on a scale of one to ten (1-10) how important is it to you that your woman know how to cook?
If you had to choose would you rather your woman be good in bed or good in the kitchen?
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