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Spill or Let Sink?




I am the general manager at a high net worth banking institution. On a daily basis, I have to approve wire transfers over a certain amount and pay close attention for any red flags. Over the past 9 months, I have approved over 6 wire transfers to an offshore account for my sisters in laws husband (in his name). A part of me felt it was suspicious but I didn't think much deeper and chose to ignore it. Me and my SIL have grown closer with each other over the last year. She has opened up to me about their financial hardships and how she is not sure if they will make it. Her husband is forever pleading poverty and has been looking for a reason to fight her at any chance he gets. He hardly comes home and has been seeing another woman in his office for a year. I don't know how deep their issues go but he seems to be restless. My sister inlaw works but she can only cope with 2 of her 4 kids on her own salary if she leaves. 
I don't know if I should tell my SIL about these wires just incase he is planning to leave her dry or should I just mind my business. I can see the ship sinking but would I be wrong for just watching? I don't want to be dragged into family issues.


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Above is today's chickchat with @conniegirlswag

I understand not wanting to get involved in family issues, but this sounds a bit too much to just watch while the ship sinks...

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  1. I think she should subtly hint the husbands actions to her sister in law

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  2. Give her an anonymous tip but ensure there is enough information in it for her to know that the tipper knows what she/he is talking about. I wouldn't jump into the issue head on sha, maka ndi uta.

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  3. An anonymous tip might make it easier and better for everyone but bae u re definitely telling her



    R.J

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  4. Dear Poster, I would have advised you spilled; but you might lose your job in the process should he find out you are the little bird. He might decide to report you to high authorities in your office. Please thread carefully or speak to an elderly person in your family that is close to the parties involved.Best of luck.


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    1. Which brings about my next opinion, DO NOT TELL HUSBAND FIRST( except you think he has a church mind, which I doubt), Husband would have the upper hand and turn your truth into a lie, blackmailing blackmailing you in the process. Subtly pass hints to SIL dear poster. And pray for them. Prayer is always a winner

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  5. I assume the poster was male, no?

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  6. Some men sha, you watch your own wife n children suffer , if there is any justice in the world, he would lose all that cash.

    They would rather spend on a whore than make it work with a good woman. I tell women of today, have a maximum of 2 or 3 kids just incase.

    The institution of marriage has been monetized, bastardized and all you can imagine.

    I say, give her a hint to investigate further. However, do it with utmost caution. Cos you ought to be a professional an not divulge confidential info.

    So sad

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  7. There's something called duty of secrecy in banking, you'll have to choose between your job or your sister in-law. But if you have to talk to anybody, it should be the husband

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  8. Wow! This is dicey...client confidentiality to be considered.

    Does he have any good friends in higher authority with same bank? Speak to them about the challenge...especially because of the wife and children. Then speak to the man; in-laws husband about why you know- transactions and have observed- home troubles. I'm thinking that might aid your decision on how to spill.

    I don't think he should keep quiet.

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  9. What Anonymous 1:39pm said. Anonymous tip with enough information to let the woman know that the tipper knows what (s)he is talking about.

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  10. Keeping quiet shd not b an option. I'll go w d anonymous tip

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  11. Chai! Some men are going straight to hell!!!! Haba?! That's just not fair.

    Blogittup is making sense but mehn... keeping quiet is not an option abeg... that woman needs to know what lies ahead of her. so i'll go with the anonymous tip thing if it is possible and it won't be traced back to her. subtle hints. Like indirect spilling.

    O ga ooo...

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