I got a call this morning from my friend Amanze*. There might be trouble in paradise. Amanze thought he had found the one and this came as both a source of joy and a huge relief, as Amanze is one of these guys that really wants to settle down and start a family. His lady is indeed a nice person and everything Amanze had thought he wanted in a wife.
However for the umpteenth time, this morning Amanze finds his wallet flatter than he left it. The first time he decided that he must have been careless and lost his cash when they went out. But barely two weeks later more cash mysteriously left his wallet. This time around there was no other explanation, they had spent the weekend together and hadn't left home at all. He still felt very uncomfortable asking her about it. Subsequently one of his designer perfumes mysteriously varnished from his room and he told himself the cleaner or one of his friends must have stolen it. Now gets to work only to find that the cash that had been in his bedside drawer meant for some office logistics is short by half, and the only person who had been in his room besides himself was Kate, he's beginning to rethink things.
He's very confused about her, but even more pissed off at the fact that he'll have to now use his own money to replace the one that's been taken. There's hardly any point trying to explain to the boss, first off, isn't everyone meant to be cashless now? Same thing I asked him when he said he kept cash at home, but that's besides the point at the moment.
I avoid being asked to input on matters like this. As my friend will say, nor be from my mouth you go hear say pope mouth dey smell. I believe that everyone has good and bad in them, and provided the good heavily overshadows the bad, you should stick with them.
But what happens when someone ticks almost all your boxes, yet there's one box you didn't even have, because you never thought about it, and this one thing is too big to ignore?
Amanze loves this chic, this I know. However the issue is that stealing is too big a deal to ignore. I've heard things like she's too lazy, she's not neat, she talks too much, she nags, she doesn't know how too cook, her body count is too high, I can't trust her, she doesn't have a job, she doesn't have any ambition, etc etc etc. These are things that I think can be overlooked. But sticky fingers? Hmmm...
Amanze wants to know if this is something he can overlook? If he should confront her and hope she changes? If perhaps she might have thought it's ok to take his money without asking? Or if it's best to just walk away from the relationship now?
What would you advise him to do?