Those Things You Were Doing...

You see, when my gateman started to give me attitude because he's a big boy (dude, if you're too big to be a gateman then go look for bank job. Gerraraherrrre!) and I couldn't quite take that walk to the junction to get air time, then I messaged you and you immediately responded, I was quite shocked when I got the VTU alert for 2k credit. My eyes stung and it was a strong indicator that really you have come to relax and become very lax, too comfortable perhaps, and you no longer feel the need to do the things you used to do. 

I remember days when you were hot on my trail, when I wouldn't even ask and have my phone bombarded with air time running into tens of thousands, and then the days I actually deigned to ask, I'd get double of that. 

I remember the days, not too long ago actually, when I'd be minding my business and then get credit alerts from my bank, with follow up texts; Go spoil yourself this weekend. 

I remember the days you used to open the car door, open the door to the lounge and let me walk ahead, you'd treat me like a queen. 

And those days you would send me sweet texts before I wake just so that they'd be the first thing I see when I wake. 

Speaking of texts, Chinwe recounted to me how when her boo was toasting her he used to send sweet texts early every morning but the minute she 'agreed' and started dating him, the early morning texts suddenly stopped. She said she called him one day and said "Bia nna, you know those texts you were sending when you were asking me out, continue sending them" 

Loooooooool. 

But isn't that the truth? Why do you think it's ok to stop doing the things that made me fall for you? Is my reciprocation which you vehemently thirsted for now reason enough to stop?

I know it's not out of the ordinary to relax or for things to change, I'm not a child, I'm neither naive nor idealistic.

However Mr Man, those things you used to do, you better continue doing them. Because, where you stopped, someone else is willing to start from. And you see, if it made me fall for you, what's to say it wouldn't make me fall for him? 

But we don't want that to happen now, do we?

So dear men, the little things you used to do that made her trip, made her fall for you, you can like to keep doing them, ok?

A woman's affection should not be taken for granted. If anything, it's even then that you should intensify the efforts, keep her happy and glad she chose you. Don't relax because you think you "have arrived". 

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I'm just here in bed wondering why men think it's ok to stop doing the things they were doing when they were breaking sweat trying to get a lady? Answers anyone? Who else feels as miffed as I do? Talk to me...

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On this note, I shall try to get some shut eye. Meanwhile don't you just hate traveling with aviophobes? The man to my right wouldn't stop praying, and at any slight turbulence he would break out in gospel songs. I wanted to thump his head with something hard! The minute we started to descend he all but went on his knees in thanksgiving. Don't get me wrong, I'm always grateful for journey mercies but people like this just make it very uncomfortable and unpleasant. 

Meanwhile see this guy who was on my flight! I don't know who he is but his attitude was as loud as his appearance. He got on board making the most outrageous of demands. I wish I could get a frontal picture of him, he had on his head a crown, he held a golden walking stick in one hand and then that other thing in the older, gold shades and plenty plenty gold-plated jewelry. God created sha....