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Was It Rape Or Was He Right?

Taiye and her husband Kenny had been married for just under 4 years. In that time they have had 4 beautiful children. Taiye loved that they had their kids early, however with kids comes great responsibility. They lived in Ukraine and unfortunately Taiye did not have help. She juggled a full-time job and looking after her kids. Kenny was a great help too.
The problem Kenny was having is that every time they had arranged to have sex. (Yes they would book a sex appointment, Kenny would put it down in his diary as ).Taiye would be too tired.
On this special day, with nothing but sex on Kenny’s mind he organised a nanny to look after the kids from 8pm Friday night till 8am Saturday morning. Kenny took Taiwo to dinner that night.
“Kenny is so sweet, how thoughtful of him, ah I cant wait to get home, so i can sleep some beautiful sleep. Ah Temidee is not here to keep me up till silly o’clock trying to put him to sleep. Ah and Tayo too wont wake me up at 6am for milk. Thank you God, sleeeeeeeeeeep here I come. Why is Kenny going back for more food for God sake” Taiwo thought to herself as Kenny made his way to the buffet for the 4th time that night.
“I wanna get freaktly with you….Yess, today na today. Let me eat well well so i can pull an all nighter on Taiwo today. Yes, she gon get it. Finally, some action, all styles, sideways, front-ways, back-ways…ah that wheel barrow action, i saw on big sef” Kenny thought as he grinned to himself sheepishly. 

On getting home Taiwo thanked Kenny for a beautiful dinner as they got undressed. Kenny went into the bathroom to spray himself with Taiwo’s favourite men’s cologne. By the time he got to the room, Taiwo was snoring.
Pissed off Kenny yelled at her to wake up.
After a few words were exchanged and Taiwo calling him inconsiderate for not understanding that she is tired and selfish for only knowing to book a nanny when he wants sex, rather than for her to rest. Kenny pins her down and forced her, as she struggles and begs him to stop.

The question here is, is this rape. Is it called rape when its between a husband and his wife. 

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Guys, this is a pretty interesting scenario. I'm dying to hear what you think. Please share. Is this rape? Or not, seeing as they're married? Or "justifiable rape" (lol)? Just what would you call this?


  1. I have goosebumps just reading this sef.

    Yes it is rape,even though they are married.....i don't believe there's anything as 'justifiable rape'

  2. Well, for me, there r days when am tired, or we r quarrelling, or am ill, or am not in the mood, just something, and I really dnt want to have sex, I just lie der for hubby to do his thing, how many mins biko? At least, he knows how I feel, so he wnt complain since I still spread d legs, if am dry, he'll get oil, or if he is really in d mood, he'll suck, touch, do all he can till my boning go fade I begin moan.
    I think men can b really inconsiderate, but depending on y u dnt want the sex,( maybe quarrels relating to him cheating, or something really horrible) der's no harm in just lying der and opening Ur legs.

    1. Eh! Madam there is serious harm o. What you have given your husband is what I call mediocre sex, over time it can cause serious damage to your sex relationship with your husband.
      - After he humps and is done. While laying on his back he will think to him self "That sex was not worth it. How different is that from wanking? Shade wont have just stayed like a log of wood. I think Ill try Shade"
      - It is no longer sex. You have just become a hole. Its no longer emotion in motion.

      Ill advice that you either have proper sex or no sex. This mediocre sex is bad for relationships. Women just dont know it.


    2. Omg, TMI...!!! Lol

    3. So, when u refuse and refuse, won't he still go to the Shade that will be begging him to do her?

    4. Kon, the day I tried it, hubby said no sex would have been better. I second your opinion.

  3. There's nothing to debate. #Rape.

  4. In Law Rape is complete upon penetration without consent. There are no provisors. Whether it is your husband or a stranger, when you are forced to have sex you are forced to have sex.J

  5. Two words. Inconsiderate. Rape. Well, the latter will depend on the jurisdiction; as 'marital rape' is not recognised in the Criminal law of some country. Consent is ab initio, implied.

  6. It's rape cos they had a fight before it happened BUT if he just went the Christian Gray way, we wldnt be having this #50ShadesAllDayEveryday

    1. The word "consent" distinguishes the scenarios you stated above. Christian Grey has consent so yes,we will not be having this conversation. (BTW does scenario have plural? Igbos say na onye ajuju anaghi efu uzo).J

    2. My point is he cld have worked her up with kisses and all. Is he a learner???

  7. Its rape o, no two ways about it.

    I understand that most days, you just want to undress and sleep for a whole week cos you're exhausted but I think that as a woman, you should find time to satisfy your husband's needs to avoid this kind of violent acts. I'm not trying to absolve this man or justify his "animalistic" behaviour, I'm just saying that women should pay more attention to their husbands and their needs just like they do their children. Give him what he wants so you can have rest of mind.


    1. Sunshine, easier said. Being a wife,mother and everything in-between isn't child's play. If she works full time 9 to 5, caters to his needs and those of the kids and lacks sleep and all, sex will simply become a chore. Since he knows exactly what needs to done, why not make it easier for the woman once in a while. My next life, I wanna be a man jor. Shebi na to make money. Hian

  8. Uhum! You guys didn't consider this guy's feeling at all. I think the poor guy is only trying not to go outside and get it. He could have chosen to get it somewhere else, the guy is full and needs to offload, abeg he did not rape her. He only got his marital right. You said he use to help his wife at home, this shows he is really trying. Some guys won't lift a finger to help their women at home and they will still claim their entitlement.
    I just see this as the poor guys only way of relieving himself from 'kongi' and that thing na bastard. Abeg the law does not even recognise spousal rape, it is either abuse or warreva but nothing like spousal rape. HE DID NOT RAPE HER biko!!!

  9. The guy should have just cheated jeje. No time for begging for pussy.

    1. Smh Alfarsi the world does not need husbands like you please. You are what is wrong with this generation.

    2. Cheating is bad. But he is right. Begging for pussy has far reaching damages. Destroys the relationship, hurts the mans ego.


    3. I don't support cheating in any form, be it emotional or physical. But if there was ever a good reason to cheat, then this would be it.

      Kon is right, begging for pussy or forcing your wife to have sex damages the relationship and emotions of both the man and his wife in ways that could be irreparable. In this case it might be safer just to cheat jeje.

  10. I want to believe it was rape because it was without the wife's consent.

    However, I do tell women, having sex with husband is the only 'function' we cannot (afford to) outsource in marriage, as such, we should do everything possible to be effective in that department to the extent that sometimes, we initiate it. I am aware of the tiredness as a result of house chores and taking care of the children but that should not be an excuse to deny the husband a lot of times.

    In this case, the wife could ask the husband to get a help that would be more regular so they have spend time together more often.In my opinion, what the guy did was better than for him to have cheated.


  11. What baffles me is why married women deny their husband's sex in the name of tiredness? ???



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