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What's The Point???

Biola had her prayers answered before she even prayed for them. You know when someone or something happens and they're everything you always dreamed of without even knowing? Well that's how Biola felt. 

When Bayo walked into her life and a most beautiful relationship began, then two months later Bayo met her parents and then before he returned back to his US base, got Biola a passport and then started to process her Visa. They had already even started looking for schools for her over there, Bayo was quite serious about settling down with her. 

He used to visit about twice a month, and each time bring many goodies with him, not only for Biola, but for her parents and her friends. He had already taken Biola home to meet his family to, during one of his visits. However, a few months later Biola noticed his calls had started to lessen, with no explanation. Her visa had been granted and her college application was successful, she was all set to go, but Bayo had suddenly gone cold. 

A few weeks later, she runs into Bayo's friend who not only tells her that Bayo is in town but also takes her to Bayo's hotel room. When his friend knocked and Bayo opened, Biola barged in and was shocked to see her boyfriend/fiancé/husband-to-be, but even more shocked to see Busayo in his bed. 

Busayo, one of Biola's closest friends. One of the benefactors of the largesse Bayo used to bring for her friends, one of her biggest supporters and prayer warriors, the same person who helped her with her college applications and counseled her on her impending marriage in the US of A...

It was later learnt that Busayo stole Bayo's phone number from Biola's phone and started calling him; this babe you want to marry are you aware she's a serious runs babe? Are you aware that if you take her abroad she go leave you and waka? Are you aware that she's just after your money? Are you aware that she sleeps around? On and on and on... Unfortunately Biola wasn't exactly a saint before she and Bayo started dating and Busayo's incessant warnings led him to ask around and eventually dump her... Meanwhile, introduction was already underway o! Visa was ready. Tickets were about to be bought. School fees in the Americas were already being paid. 

Failure at the edge of breakthrough! Lol. 

After months of severe, and by severe I mean severe devastation, for you see, Biola who was already visualizing herself as the student of some American university had stopped attending lectures here and didn't take the exams that semester (which eventually led to an extra year), she decided that she shouldn't leave vengeance for God alone. 
      It so happens that Busayo was in a serious relationship of her own, even when she went and destroyed Biola's. Biola decided she was going to tell Busayo's boo everything that happened, from stealing Bayo's numbers, to the frequent phone calls, to finding her half naked in his bed. She did this. But. Busayo's boo did not even budge. He apologized on his girlfriend's behalf and asked Biola to leave. 

Today Busayo and that boo are married with a couple of kids. From an indications, they seem to have a good life and a happy marriage. 

Biola however is still single, and searching... And all these years later the sting still burns. 

This morning my friend, Blessing, called, all irate and indignant. How could that terrible terrible person whom she showed nothing but love and kindness to, who had her thrown out of her home, the very home she welcomed her into when the world and her own family turned their backs on her, and almost destroyed a marriage, be living a golden life with blessings on blessings on blessings. While hers remains much less than perfect?

It's too long a story to relay this morning but even I could feel her pain. The injustice seems too weighty. 

Doesn't it make you wonder the point in being a good, conscientious individual when the rain falls on the just and unjust alike...?


  1. Space booked.....

  2. "Doesn't it make you wonder the point in being a good, conscientious individual when the rain falls on the just and unjust alike...?"

    I have decided to just do me. When I feel like being bad, I'm bad. When I want to be good, I'm good. In the long run, everyone gets that which is due to them according to the work of their hands.

    If you can be proud of you, no wahala. If not, Doh is your case.

  3. C'est la vie babe,c'est la vie...

  4. hmmmm. Life is so mysterious that we will leave so many questions unanswered till we get to heaven.... (That is if there is a heaven).

  5. I don't want to start... But God works in mysterious ways to perform his wonders. Most important thing is to stay positive at all times, cos d moment u start blaming Ur future on the actions of the negative past, it only brings more negativity and anguish.

    Move one, live happy. Stay blessed and you will remain blessed. Cos to think of what u have passed through alone is suicidal and no one she ever have to pass through that. But stay positive, no matter what. Stay positive I repeat.

    And by the way I'm sure u must have finally graduated even after the extra one year, life goes on and u really don't need any one specific person to be a success. Channel Ur pains into avenues that will make u a success yourself. You can't succumb to defeat.
    Wait... I said I don't want to say much earlier *sigh

  6. Life is mysterious in many ways. My own thing is make your decisions and make sure you are happy when you make and execute them. That way when shit hits the fan you have some confort in knowing you did you.

    Biola is miserable because she wants to br, Busayo is happy because she wants to be...some things are a decision.

  7. The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?

    I just try to encourage and tell myself that no matter what, this cruel world will not steal my goodness

  8. One thing always works in this kind of situation and that is FORGIVENESS, it's hard but doable, once you do this, you'd realise that life gets easier literally because you are able to focus on what's important. Trust me, I know.

    Hi Thelma, it's been a while.

    1. "FORGIVENESS". That's the key. After Biola reports to Busayo's boo his ability to forgive gives Busayo the golden life. There's nothing more to add. Kudos Lauryn.

  9. Abeg...where's Ruthy????

  10. Hmmmm this is difficult to deal with. I will just leave everything to God and move on even though it won't be that easy. Thank God for his divine healing ( but why are some nurses evil when it comes to injections)

  11. A lot of times I am inclined to think this way: why do the bad people get the good things? The bad girls getting the best men? Then I recall Psalm 37, Psalm 73 and Proverbs 24........

    Proverbs 24:19-22
    19 Fret not thyself because of evil men, neither be thou envious at the wicked;
    20 For there shall be no reward to the evil man; the candle of the wicked shall be put out.
    21 My son, fear thou the LORD and the king: and meddle not with them that are given to change:
    22 For their calamity shall rise suddenly; and who knoweth the ruin of them both?

    Psalm 37:
    1 Fret not thyself because of evildoers, neither be thou envious against the workers of iniquity.
    2 For they shall soon be cut down like the grass, and wither as the green herb.

    We only know now (today) and think they are living the good life however, God's mill grinds slowly but SURELY. Who knows what tomorrow holds for such people? Who knows when the axe of judgement shall descend upon them?


  12. I've just got one question
    since admission and the visa were already granted and fees paid.
    Why couldn't she still go to continue her study rather than pining after a lost relationship and the betrayal of a friend.
    the way I see it God brought Bayo into her life just for a reason and a season. But it seems she was too hurt to actually see the silver lining in that cloud

    1. Tickets, accomodation, general welfare. It wasn't something her family could carry at the time.

  13. "Doesn't it make you wonder the point in being a good, conscientious individual when the rain falls on the just and unjust alike...?"

    Thelma, I am good because I need my peace of mind. I need to be able to live with myself after anything I do. I need to be able to go to bed, happy and at rest without my conscience eating me alive. I need to be able to close my eyes and pray to God(a wonderful relationship with God).
    I am who I am, for myself nwanem.

  14. Hmmm I remember that story, but what pained me more is how she let that single incident shatter her to the extent it did, while Busayo continued her life like nothing happened. It reminds me of the saying that we look too long on a closed door that we do not notice an open window.

    Maybe if she brushed that off (because she was not totally living a saint's life) learnt her lesson and continued her life she will be in a better place now. lesson, when you fall, get up, brush the dust off and continue. Don't lie down there so long while your mates move on with their lives. J

  15. Painful as it is to read, this is how the cookie crumbles.

    The bottom line is "Trust no one".
    Reveal only as little as possible, and try to live a decent life, at the very least.

    She needs to move on, Bayo was hers for a season.
    The betrayer will some day be betrayed as well.

  16. Sometimes life builds evil doers up so when they fall, d crash will be deafening. Who said she is happy?
    Face your life, forgive them all. Pray for God to bless those who hurt u. Move on.
    It is not your prerogative to punish. Vengeance is mine says God. I will repay. Stop watching to see when it will happen.
    Get your life moving. Stop talking abt d past. Go adopt a charity or something. Heard of Slum to school? Mirabel centre? Etc. I had a friend who used to wash clothes for orphanages on weekends. A 1st class graduate. This same thing happened. The guy called off d cwedding but his mother insisted that he marry my friend. Today they have kids. No bff was involved tho, just male gossips.
    Dr. N

  17. I know of a certain woman here in Enugu. Over 25 years ago, she stole her friend's man. The major amongst all her lies was that her friend was epileptic. The man dumped her friend and got married to her instead. They lived outside the country too. Now, fast-forward to over twenty years after. The first child of that union is epileptic. The only girl-child of the marriage has become a full time runs girl with two babies to her credit. The woman in question is devastated as the man left all of them. Certainly, "God's mill grinds slowly but SURELY". It may seem all rosy for her now, but truly #Karmarneverforgets

  18. So she had a serious boo and still went ahead to ruin her friend's relationship? I can't deal with some people abeg....

  19. I really don't know what some people gain from ruining others

  20. How come all their names start with B?


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