One afternoon I bumped into Tina at the salon. The Tina that sat beside me was different from the Tina I knew a few years back. She was the big sister of my friend whom we all envied; her bank job, her nice clothes, her vibrant social life with the absence of a curfew, the flashy cars that used to come pick her up in the evenings, her expensive high-end make up, her shapely body and her nicely done hair which she did only at Downtown or Make Me. The Tina that sat beside me was a portly matronly woman; her nose seemed to have doubled in size, perhaps it DIDNT always return to the pre-pregancy size, her tired sunken eyes seemed to be dragged down by the heavy bags underneath them, her skin seemed much darker and sallow, and her once bouncy hair had thinned tremendously.
I smiled and acted normal to hide my surprise. We got talking about husbands and marriage when she said to me; no matter how you watch or test a man there is no guarantee. Marriage is like a gift. You can never know what is inside unless you unwrap it. I was tempted to ask her if hers had turned out to be more of a curse than a gift thus her gaunt exterior....
Earlier today my friend, out of boredom, googled herself. She was surprised to see a tweet from 2010. The tweet read; it would make all my dreams come true if you agree to go on just one date with me. She retweeted and did something like roll her eyes and shrug the smitten chyker off. It was something that was very long forgotten. In fact she's even forgotten that once upon a time she and her husband were on Twitter and used to 'tweet-flirt'. Reading those tweets she found on Google, It seemed like several lifetimes ago.
Now, three years of marriage and three children later, she read the tweet and bemusedly tried to reconcile it with present reality. She rushed to show her husband the tweet; Look o! Remember when you were begging me for just one date? Do you remember when just one date with me made all your dreams come true? We all had a good laugh, life can be very funny sha.
I just saw the below on www.woman.ng and thought to share, eleven women on challenges they never expected to face in marriage.