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5 Reasons I'll Pick a Sugar Daddy Over You. (Femi Fani Kayode's Love Poem To Precious Chikwendu)

Before I give you the pleasure of reading my 5 reasons, I'll give you the even greater pleasure of reading the love poem reportedly written by FFK to his lover, Precious. 

"From the hills of Ohafia and the valleys of Abriba comes you that makes me smile. From the forests of Umahia and the lush green fields of Nanka comes you that brings me joy. From the eastern shores of our nation where stars shine brightly and from whence comes men whose spirits cannot be broken comes you that gives me hope.

From the lineage of those who dare to believe and from the stock of those who soar like eagles comes you that creates new beginnings. God brought you my way and has given me a new lease of life. What a gift you are- not just to me but also to humanity.

Your star shall shine from generation to generation. Your strength and confidence shall speak for you all the days of your life. Your talents shall open every door that you seek to enter. Your beauty: every radiant and everlasting- shall shake the very foundations of humanity and move even the hardest of hearts. You are Snowhite and you shall remain as white as snow from beginning to end. Your sun shall never set and God’s light, not darkness, shall follow you all the days of your life.

You are not just the Queen of Pageants but the Queen of the Ages. From generation to generation humanity shall testify of your kindness, your love and your good works. That is your destiny and that is your portion. Let not the storms of life ever cause you to give up or forget it. With you there is hope- you are Snowhite: the one that makes me smile and brings me joy."

Beautiful, yes? Some don't agree, some are calling him Daddy Agbaya. Oh well... (Source; Bella Naija)

Just so we're clear, by "sugar daddy" I solely mean an "older male lover", but let's not deny that even when it's for love, an older lover would always lavish his belle with gifts. So let's not be distracted by mere semantics. These are five reasons I'd be tempted to consider spending the rest of my life with a much older man. 

1. Chivalry is dead in our generation. It's still very alive and thriving in theirs. (When last did you receive a poem from a youngin?)
2. He's been there and done that and has learnt life and love from the best teacher; Experience. 
3. He's more likely to ignore my misbehavior, misdeeds and wrong doings, chalking them up to childish frivolities. Therefore; less arguments, less quarels, less fights, less malice. 
4. Being my lover, and an older one at that, he will love me passionately as one would a lover, and protect me fiercely, as one would a daughter. 
5. He's most likely to have exhausted and burnt away every vestige of youthful exuberance and would, unlike young men of today, see no need to spend each night bar hopping, sleeping out and most especially trying to impress friends and succumb to peer pressure. 

So there you have it. The big 5. Now you tell me; the reasons you WOULD or WOULD NOT be in a relationship/marriage with a much older lover. 


  1. I have always loved Older guys, but definitely not a Baba 70.

  2. 1. An older lover will give you the chance to always make decisions and accept anything you say.
    2. They have the patience and big heart for all our silly things we do.
    3. Easily forgive and hardily will bare grudges with you for days.

    1. How much older are we talking? I am married to a man 7 years my senior.hes almost 40 and can bear grudges for Africa. At times it's like dealing with a toddler

  3. This are my 5 reasons why I WOULDN'T date a older guy
    1. We won't be on the same page. I'll be expected to cook for him every night and kneel down to serve his meals and all those other old nonsense. He won't understand why I want to wear a short gown or why I would want to have girls time out
    2. I won't be able to be close friends with him. When we finally become friends it might seem as though I'm disrespectful sometimes
    3.His word will be law. I must always listen to him because he is older and therefore MUST know more than me.
    4. Not all older guys are romantic. Not all of them write poems. I know my father doesn't. He has no atom of romance in him. Buying food for the house is romantic enough in his eyes
    5. Well I can't think of any 5 now

    P.s having said that, I would always prefer dating a guy who is a few years older (2-5 or 9 in extreme cases) as my mates are usually so immature. And this list is not definite. I would date almost anybody so far you make 80% of my very limited list and we can both compromise to reach a lovely middle ground.
    Sorry for this long epistle jare, I find the male species very fascinating and I love love. Shalom

    1. why would you be required to kneel when serving his meal? is he the oba of Lagos?
      once you marry him my dear, it is pemi loruko,ko famini rugbon.dazol

    2. Sorry Iyanu but I think u just described a tyrant!

  4. If he likes he can write 100 poems befitting Aphrodite, all I know is that FFK's utterances and behavior can be likened to a man who lives on meds prescribed by doctors in Akham Asylum. Take him seriously at your own risk.

    1. Lmao! Bro, you couldn't have said it any better. That guy's just a glorified maniac.
      Arkham asylum is the right place for him.

  5. Ok, first off, why are we calling it a has little or no literary poetic elements. Anyone can write that...check it out ''from the depths of Ihiala, umuezotutu, comes a ruud boi, whose reputation as a thrill nigga, and extreme love for a woman with a cute fanny, has... (see what I did there? I said fani..hehe) I've said too much.
    FFK has game though, but the (not a) poem was...cheesy

  6. Ok, first off, why are we calling it a has little or no literary poetic elements. Anyone can write that...check it out ''from the depths of Ihiala, umuezotutu, comes a ruud boi, whose reputation as a thrill nigga, and extreme love for a woman with a cute fanny, has... (see what I did there? I said fani..hehe) I've said too much.
    FFK has game though, but the (not a) poem was...cheesy

  7. Thelma, believe me, all those reasons you quoted do not apply to all older men. Some are more nasty than the younger ones.


  8. Thats what I thought about older guys till one showed me pepper, abeg I pass

  9. No older men for me. Please, I don't want to become a widow at a young age. Plus, I don't even want to imagine having bad sex because he has rheumatism or some other old age disease.

  10. Older men are very very very Understanding! They can be patient for Africa. Older men are slow to anger. That's the bitter truth.

  11. Haha Thelma, my husband is 14 months younger than me but I am his sugar baby. I get everything I want (which may not be much) and more. The older man will treat you better thing is a reckless myth since 1870.

    just find the person who thinks the world of you and you will be amazed.

    As for FFK, the same man that spoke ill about his children is the person the babe saw to fall in love with? I wish her loads of luck and more whitenin.


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